Say whatttttttt?

No no no, I dont agree with that, Society hasnt forced me to accept monogamy , my moral or core values dictate to me that monogamy is a good thing for many reasons.

Those that have multiple sex partners shouldn't get married , because they will stray when the time comes.

Marriage is a sacred and beloved institution where two people under the right circumstance gets to share more than just love.

Multiple partners cant do that, because its mainly based on lust and eventually one gets tired and moves on and some people who have multiple sex partners are nasty people and I don't mean psychologically either.

I find that those with multiple sex partners after a while are not happy people there is more to life than just sex, although when youre with the right partner well there is nothing like it.

My opinion.

Obviously, we are all entitled to our opinion. If that is your moral and core value, then I would expect you to refrain from a sexual relationship outside of marriage or near marriage. Yes, society or the members of it have forced monogamy on others. It is an expectation for many to participate in a sex life. You may be right about being with the right partner; based on the failed/dysfunctional marriages, very few have found the right partner.

So this lady was married for 40 years and I congratulated and I asked if she ever cheated on her husband of 40 years and her answer floored me....

She said and I quote " cuz nobody knocked on her door"

Implications if you missed that .... she would have if it presented itself. Lol

I actually dont sleep around , I haven't been with anyone since my last relationship a year and bit ago, plenty of dates, and plenty of opportunities but at this stage of my life Im looking for more than fun.

and Im looking for someone with the same values.

I know people who are with the right partner and its a great relationship and Ive seen people that are going through the motions, I dont want to be one of those again, been there , done that and got the divorce papers to show.

I look at my parents, grandparents, my sister and her hubby, my two best friends and a couple of colleagues and I want what they have .

I do believe people can be monogamous with the right partner and people who are monogamous by nature, too many people find substitutes and compromise and then get married or attached and then wonders why when things go south one of them strays.

Why do people cheat ...

1. They have promiscuous animal DNA ..

a dolphin will get it on with anything that swims in its path

An elephant bull seal will mate with 50 to 100 females

There are many examples of non-managomous pairing in the animal kingdom ., some of which share 80 to 98% DNA similarity as humans


2. They are flawed and have no morals . They do not value fidelity or their value system changed .

That's right.
Dolphins actually rape their females in groups, letting the females standing no chance.
Not exactly the picture of the wonderful animal that we're all brainwashed to think...

not nz dolphins .. they are well behaved

hahaha... You're all well behave around those island, eh?...Lol.

A cookie for all those who said 'selfish'

Cheating can be fun. It's hot, exhilarating and wrong. Which makes it more exciting.

People cheat because they know breakup is not stupid thing instead it makes you a better person to realise your mistakes.

I agree.

So people of high morals will simply kick their SO out and start over. That should work well!

Because they are not brave enough to admit that they are no longer good for a long relationship!

Maybe it's because the other individual that they are dating is lacking a character that a women/man seeks and the person is incompetent to desire them. This applies to married and dating couples, another reason why they might cheat is because the relationship could be too restrictive, it's normal for men and women to flirt when around the opposite sex but we see this as a bad sign that the person in the relationship isn't as committed to the person they are subjective to. This could lead to both off the individuals to restrict themselves from certain activities that could make them flirt with anyone and as this piles up one of the two will cheat to get what they want.

oldkid46, are you attempting to justify cheating ?

it sounds like you dont believe in monogamy?

really

I think the spark or whatever got us together dies. And unfortunately, now a days it's easy to give up and move on.

A very honest answer

I have no idea but the bigger question is

Why does Domino's pizza put cheese inside the crust when there is already cheese on the pizza?.. Why?