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Curious what happens when a meet is unsuccessful ... and the man is rejected ... Does he still feel a manly obligation to pay for her coffee 
that is the difference between the self proclaimed nice guy and a confident guy The self proclaimed nice guy would throw a hissy fit, whine, complain, freak out, slander the woman on social media because he is rejected, wahhhhhhhh. The confident guy just chalks it up as experience and moves on, because he knows nothing is guaranteed in life To those nice guys if you want guarantees , commit a crime and go to jail, there you are guaranteed a roof over your head and three squares a day. for the rest of us its carry on as usual. even our founding fathers never guaranteed anything, you know life, liberty and the PURSUIT of happiness not GUARANTEED of happiness its up to us for happiness |
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Curious what happens when a meet is unsuccessful ... and the man is rejected ... Does he still feel a manly obligation to pay for her coffee
I’d still pay, and then casually ask if she has a pretty sister. |
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I've never heard of a woman rejecting a man mid-date, it never happened to me. Kind of weird to reject somebody unless he's making the heavy moves on her right off the bat.
Anyways, I never put a financial limit on any date, if I like her, then I'd want her to have a great time no matter the outcome. |
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I've never heard of a woman rejecting a man mid-date, it never happened to me. Kind of weird to reject somebody unless he's making the heavy moves on her right off the bat. Anyways, I never put a financial limit on any date, if I like her, then I'd want her to have a great time no matter the outcome. You know.. I don't know... maybe it was the way I was raised but you were raised to respect women and that if you invite a woman out... ( for whatever reason) you pick up the tab... that's it. I have invited women for various reasons. not romantic, just friends to coffee or lunch many times and I picked up the tab.. why?.. because I initiated the meeting It is a no brainer on a date. |
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when im birthday i thought 1 years ago
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when im birthday i thought 1 years ago Well, Happy Birthday! :).. where's the birthday suit? |
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I've never heard of a woman rejecting a man mid-date, it never happened to me. Kind of weird to reject somebody unless he's making the heavy moves on her right off the bat. Anyways, I never put a financial limit on any date, if I like her, then I'd want her to have a great time no matter the outcome. There have been numerous threads on mingle of disappointing meets and the behaviour that ensued .. you know where there was perhaps some type of deception or unrealistic expectation involved .. .. how manly are men on those occasions . |
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I as a woman??  ️, I say again that dating is just a waste of money. Better to marry and the money can be saved to buy a house. Right?? We can build marital relationships with trust and mutual respect, not with dating in a long time.. You are just wasting money for nothing. Better to donate and get good things from god.
How much do I spend for dating then? No idea, I just ask him to get married, if he's ready. Dont be too sinful before marriage. Like making sweet coffee but you are diabetic??. There is no hope then So right off the bat you ask the guy to get married?.. no dating.. no " getting to know each other".. just get married and figure all that little stuff out later? Not only would that not be appealing to me. it would scare the hell out of me.. I would be out of that relationship.. before it even started. 
I'm old and don't move that fast!!!! |
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IMO.. a meet 'n greet is NOT the same as a date.
I am ok to pay for my own on a meet'n greet... but on a date? he's payin - that's just the etiquette of how I was raised.. It would take a couple of dates or meals out before I would offer to pay... but I would eventually make it my treat a time or two... here and there... |
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I've never heard of a woman rejecting a man mid-date, it never happened to me. Kind of weird to reject somebody unless he's making the heavy moves on her right off the bat. Anyways, I never put a financial limit on any date, if I like her, then I'd want her to have a great time no matter the outcome. There have been numerous threads on mingle of disappointing meets and the behaviour that ensued .. you know where there was perhaps some type of deception or unrealistic expectation involved .. .. how manly are men on those occasions . I cant say Ive been disappointed in the first meets, most of the meets Ive either talked to them on whats app or skype. The only time Ive been disappointed was on a date after a meet and greet and she was stoned and acting weird. |
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Curious what happens when a meet is unsuccessful ... and the man is rejected ... Does he still feel a manly obligation to pay for her coffee
I’d still pay, and then casually ask if she has a pretty sister. Ahahahahaha.. Not a problem if not get her, can try to her sister  ️️️
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I as a woman?? ️, I say again that dating is just a waste of money. Better to marry and the money can be saved to buy a house. Right?? We can build marital relationships with trust and mutual respect, not with dating in a long time.. You are just wasting money for nothing. Better to donate and get good things from god.
How much do I spend for dating then? No idea, I just ask him to get married, if he's ready. Dont be too sinful before marriage. Like making sweet coffee but you are diabetic??. There is no hope then So right off the bat you ask the guy to get married?.. no dating.. no " getting to know each other".. just get married and figure all that little stuff out later? Not only would that not be appealing to me. it would scare the hell out of me.. I would be out of that relationship.. before it even started.
I'm old and don't move that fast!!!! Ahahahahaha you have to try now.. Guys pray to me.. I will meet someone on Jul, perhaps he is will marry me ahahahhaahah |
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I've never heard of a woman rejecting a man mid-date, it never happened to me. Kind of weird to reject somebody unless he's making the heavy moves on her right off the bat. Anyways, I never put a financial limit on any date, if I like her, then I'd want her to have a great time no matter the outcome. Blondey is this the victim? I see no pic 
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What sort of question is that?
How long is a piece of string! |
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I've never heard of a woman rejecting a man mid-date, it never happened to me. Kind of weird to reject somebody unless he's making the heavy moves on her right off the bat. Anyways, I never put a financial limit on any date, if I like her, then I'd want her to have a great time no matter the outcome. Blondey is this the victim? I see no pic
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I've never heard of a woman rejecting a man mid-date, it never happened to me. Kind of weird to reject somebody unless he's making the heavy moves on her right off the bat. Anyways, I never put a financial limit on any date, if I like her, then I'd want her to have a great time no matter the outcome. Blondey is this the victim? I see no pic
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Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Sun 05/20/18 03:18 AM
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I've never heard of a woman rejecting a man mid-date, it never happened to me. Kind of weird to reject somebody unless he's making the heavy moves on her right off the bat. Anyways, I never put a financial limit on any date, if I like her, then I'd want her to have a great time no matter the outcome. Well, here's a woman who'd do that. I have done it a few times too, although it was a meet & greet, which I don't feel is the same as a date. But sometimes you find out during the meet & greet -and possibly on a date as well- that you just don't match. And after all, dating is about finding out whether or not you match. It's not about starting the way down the aisle. When you have good reason, I don't see anything wrong with breaking things off mid-date. Better than pretending you're having a good time and at the end tell him, "Sorry, I'm actually not interested after all." It just comes down to doing so politely, in a manner that is decent as to not hurt someone's feelings. |
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If a man feels like less of a man by allowing his date to feel comfortable, then I do not believe it is the woman's fault. It is all a matter of perspective. 1) my worth is not determined by the amount of money a man is allowed to spend on me 2) my feelings on things should not emasculate him. He should be just as considerate of my emotions and what led me to them as I would try to be of his 3) I do not love myself any less or think myself unworthy because of my desire to pay my own way in the beginning. Buying a man a meal or even a drink is a small token, in my opinion, of appreciation. It isn't like I am buying him a ring and proposing. As I said, looking back I can see the impression some men get ... but at the time my baggage clouded my judgement. Even now it does, but I am working on it to improve myself. I think you're missing the point, nobody said it was the woman's fault, there is no blame to go around . My point is compatibility, if a woman wants to go dutch, or pay for the guy and the guy is okay with that, then they are compatible , if the guys says I'm sorry I prefer to pay because I like to treat a lady vs being a friend and the woman refuses , its nobody fault, its just they are not compatible. nothing more nothing less. Dating and relationship are two different things, the point of dating is to see if we are compatible and progress from there into a relationship . what you are describing is putting a square peg in a round hole, its nobody's fault that they are different its just the way its made. I prefer to meet a woman who will allow me to exercise my choice on being a man there is nothing wrong with that nor is it anyone's fault . Some guys prefer to meet a woman that wants to go dutch that is his and her right , its doesnt make him wrong, but that is his and her choice, just because its not right for me doesnt mean its wrong. I am trying to understand it, and I think I got it. And I agree. It's all about preference, and compatibility.. Like you said, you prefer that way. I prefer if we go dutch, or she offers to pay the second time, and so on. Do not feel less of a man, or don't think I am being emasculated. If it's some kind of test of hers, and yes it happened, guess I failed, and that just shows we are not compatible. |
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I've noticed women, in general, keep track of how much a man spends on a date. Then they use that information to make judgments. Making it worse, women have varying scales by which they make these judgments. While one woman might think you're careless with your money, another may be flattered you spent the money on her.
I keep the dates simple until I understand who she is and how much I really like her. Then the sky's the limit. |
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