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Im from the school of any woman that suggest a first time meet is a date over dinner or lunch tells me she is superficial.
A date is something fun while you're getting to know each other, doing things of mutual interests . On dates Ive taken my date horse riding, did touristy things in the city, zip lining you name it. sometimes we end up going out for a bite never at a dive or fast food but somewhere decent and usually at a place we or my date likes maybe her favorite type of food and believe when you're having dinner youre talking about the day how it went and the conversation just flows. Maybe Im different, I like to do things and be active, once you're in a relationship then dining out is part of it and even then I rather be exploring new restaurants funky or chic and anniversaries you hit the expensive places because anniversaries are important and special. anyways that my two cents. |
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Edited by
eric22t
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Wed 05/16/18 05:07 PM
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simple when you are dating the cost of the date fits the venue who pays for what is decided between the two merging personalities.
meeting for the first time is NOT a date and should be treated differently. tho personally whether it's at a coffee shop or a trip through the local flea market, it will be on my nickel |
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I have never believed it is a man's responsibility to pay for a date .. even as a young woman studying at university, I still worked and earned my own money .. I have an independent streak 
My idea of a meet and greet would be a run through the sand dunes ., to see if he can keep up 
I like the sand dunes :) As for the independency.. it always surprises me to read that many women feel they aren't when a man pays for them on a date. I don't see it as me not being independent at all since I am simply not dependent on a man to pay for me, or not. To me it's about seeing if he's got masculine energy, the provide and protect, the taking care of a woman-thing. If he isn't even willing to pay for a few drinks, then he's not a man who's willing to make an effort for a girl. Chances could even be that he's not going to be there for you when you need him either. Also, it's a man's natural instinct and desire to give and please a woman. As a woman you should be able to receive that, otherwise he cannot give to you and this will then block the flow between a man and a woman. That's the problem with women today, and can cause problems in relationships or getting a man even. Being able to receive when a man gives to you is not dependent, it's being feminine. Not having a go at you, please don't take it that way. It's just your reply that triggered this train of thought as I come across this mindset a lot, on here and elsewhere. I personally feel it's a shame so many women have this mindset as I don't think it is helpful when it comes to your love life. Again, not personal, just triggered by your post :) And a subject that intrigues me, as this is what I am busy with all day due to the courses & workshops I give. 
in a relationship I would want to contribute financially ..that has no reflection on his masculinity or ability to provide but on my capabilities .... at least in my mind  .
Agree, especially on the bit when in a relationship. But I do wonder, does it really not bother you if you're on a meet and greet and when the moment comes that the bill needs to be paid the man clearly isn't intent on paying it? I'm not talking about a dinner per say as I don't do that on a meet and greet. ANd I never consume anything I cannot pay for myself either. But if a man has a problem with paying the bill on a meet & greet it was the first and last time he's ever gonna enjoy my company. Just wondering how you feel about that? Does that really not bother you? |
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as much as you spent on determiners and other parts of speach
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Im from the school of any woman that suggest a first time meet is a date over dinner or lunch tells me she is superficial. A date is something fun while you're getting to know each other, doing things of mutual interests . On dates Ive taken my date horse riding, did touristy things in the city, zip lining you name it. sometimes we end up going out for a bite never at a dive or fast food but somewhere decent and usually at a place we or my date likes maybe her favorite type of food and believe when you're having dinner youre talking about the day how it went and the conversation just flows. Maybe Im different, I like to do things and be active, once you're in a relationship then dining out is part of it and even then I rather be exploring new restaurants funky or chic and anniversaries you hit the expensive places because anniversaries are important and special. anyways that my two cents. Do you like arcades? |
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Im from the school of any woman that suggest a first time meet is a date over dinner or lunch tells me she is superficial. A date is something fun while you're getting to know each other, doing things of mutual interests . On dates Ive taken my date horse riding, did touristy things in the city, zip lining you name it. sometimes we end up going out for a bite never at a dive or fast food but somewhere decent and usually at a place we or my date likes maybe her favorite type of food and believe when you're having dinner youre talking about the day how it went and the conversation just flows. Maybe Im different, I like to do things and be active, once you're in a relationship then dining out is part of it and even then I rather be exploring new restaurants funky or chic and anniversaries you hit the expensive places because anniversaries are important and special. anyways that my two cents. Do you like arcades? only iffen i can win you a kwepie doll 
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Do you like arcades? |
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Maybe I am old fashioned and too much of a romantic, but if the woman wants me to spend a lot of cash , then with her will not be spent with a lot of my time.
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Do you like arcades? Doesnt every post of his make him sound delicious? No offense meant 
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Do you like arcades? Doesnt every post of his make him sound delicious? No offense meant
Just what I was thinking  but I've scared him off. I don't know why people take me so seriously.
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Impossible. You're too precious
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I have never believed it is a man's responsibility to pay for a date .. even as a young woman studying at university, I still worked and earned my own money .. I have an independent streak
My idea of a meet and greet would be a run through the sand dunes ., to see if he can keep up
I like the sand dunes :) As for the independency.. it always surprises me to read that many women feel they aren't when a man pays for them on a date. I don't see it as me not being independent at all since I am simply not dependent on a man to pay for me, or not. To me it's about seeing if he's got masculine energy, the provide and protect, the taking care of a woman-thing. If he isn't even willing to pay for a few drinks, then he's not a man who's willing to make an effort for a girl. Chances could even be that he's not going to be there for you when you need him either. Also, it's a man's natural instinct and desire to give and please a woman. As a woman you should be able to receive that, otherwise he cannot give to you and this will then block the flow between a man and a woman. That's the problem with women today, and can cause problems in relationships or getting a man even. Being able to receive when a man gives to you is not dependent, it's being feminine. Not having a go at you, please don't take it that way. It's just your reply that triggered this train of thought as I come across this mindset a lot, on here and elsewhere. I personally feel it's a shame so many women have this mindset as I don't think it is helpful when it comes to your love life. Again, not personal, just triggered by your post :) And a subject that intrigues me, as this is what I am busy with all day due to the courses & workshops I give.
in a relationship I would want to contribute financially ..that has no reflection on his masculinity or ability to provide but on my capabilities .... at least in my mind .
Agree, especially on the bit when in a relationship. But I do wonder, does it really not bother you if you're on a meet and greet and when the moment comes that the bill needs to be paid the man clearly isn't intent on paying it? I'm not talking about a dinner per say as I don't do that on a meet and greet. ANd I never consume anything I cannot pay for myself either. But if a man has a problem with paying the bill on a meet & greet it was the first and last time he's ever gonna enjoy my company. Just wondering how you feel about that? Does that really not bother you?  . laughing .. payment would surely not be an issue ...
seriously .. the type of man I am attracted to would like me ...also be considerate . .. hopefully I have screened him well before any meet took place . If I had to pay for my coffee I would not necessarily see that as a red flag . I would be more interested in our level of attraction and how we interact . Let me ask you a question crystal .. if you were meeting a male friend or colleague (platonic) for a coffee .. would you expect them to pay for you ??? |
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Do you like arcades? Doesnt every post of his make him sound delicious? No offense meant
Just what I was thinking but I've scared him off. I don't know why people take me so seriously.
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How much spent doesn't specify money. $
What about a thrifty picnic ? Parks and beaches are free usually, and fill a picnic basket with what you can use from home. Or moderate expense at the shops: paper plates, supermarket bread rolls, cheeses, cold cuts, pickles and other delicacy's, wine, cakes and nibbles etc. A picnic basket full may cost ~ $20 for a rudimentary spread. Or go upmarket if you like to show off. The man may as well watch his expenses at this early stage, since if the relationship is formalised, you can bet the woman will be critically watching all your expenses from then on; and not necessarily declaring all of her own expenses. What do the ladies think about this, a long slow country drive, then a small wood fired BBQ lunch somewhere off the road, and for afters, I pull out a hot foil wrapped apple pie from on top of the engine, and some cream. Cheap, filling, fun, and if you don't like it, visit a country bakery instead. There's no bigger waste than going all out to impress a lady that will never be impressed by anything less than the best. You can never win. AND what about women's liberation, why can't a woman pay for the man ? Is she interested in the mind and body, or the wallet and bank ? Money is a temporary problem, table manners and etiquette and consideration can be an ongoing problem no matter how wealthy. 
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If i need to spend for a date, i will just cook
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If i need to spend for a date, i will just cook
Good idea. But the great majority don't want to do that. A lot of women I've met don't. And won't. Many want to be taken out and shown a really good time regardless of whether they like you or not. It's sad, I know. But it's something that a man has to watch out for. |
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Edited by
Mike6615
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Wed 05/16/18 08:26 PM
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I spend a lot. Money is not an issue with me. I've heard the old saying, "You can't take it with you". Wondering if I just could, I sent a lot of money to an offshore lawyer who promised he'd look into it for me. Never heard back. Strange.
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I 90% agree with Blondey. I would offer to pay on a meet as well as on a first date. I am severely uncomfortable with allowing the guy to pay (past relationship baggage). If we got on well, I will eventually change my tune ... but it takes me a bit to get comfortable.
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Let me ask you a question crystal .. if you were meeting a male friend or colleague (platonic) for a coffee .. would you expect them to pay for you ??? |
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