I agree with Soufie although certain things are simply deal-breakers.
The difference -as I see it- between a blinder and a deal-breaker is that the first is more ego, the latter a deeper need for fulfillment.

For instance, I want a man who is a little taller than me. Not an ego thing, I know from experience that being with a man and being held by a man who is shorter or same height doesn't make me feel good. I don't feel feminine, safe, protected.
So I don't go there.
I don't see that as a blinder.

For standing in life there can be similar deeper needs. Like a healthy masculine energy man wanting to provide and protect his girl (this is not just financial btw).
Such men usually don't give a rip if the woman has less to spend. Taking care of his woman actually gives him a testosterone boost, making him feel more masculine & happy.

But... a man who thinks & feels he's been ripped off by an ex is in ego and he flatly refuses to accommodate a woman with less to spend. It will automatically make him feel he's being used.
That's ego. And a blinder.

If a woman has to "down-grade" it works differently. It can make her feel more masculine, raise her testosterone, which for a woman is a stress reaction in the body. Not healthy!

So is similar standing important? Check whether you want that from (hurt) ego or not.
Having similar standing means that you don't have to think about any of this. Could make it easier.

Well thanks all for the great advice and observations. So I went with TG and Zee's advice and directly approached this very attractive , to me , friend, of a friend and asked her over to watch this crucial hockey game last night. Yeah, I cheated a bit...cause I already knew she was a big hockey fan. First thing she said blew my mind....my friend thinks you have a crush on her....and I was No Way, I only wanted to get to you , but she was putting of the intros... Well lucky you approached me directly, you would have waited forever...and I am happy you asked me to watch hockey with you.!!1
So yeah , my problem is solved....hopping from one woman to another is called searching for Mrs Right for me.... but everyone is entitled to their own opinions...fun and games definetely ...coming up...starting with Game 1 ....Canes' VS Knights...

That put a smile on my face, Slim!
Happy it worked out for you.

I had red cabbage & rhubarb & chicken cordon blue.
Simple but good :)

Thinking... best get on with it, get dressed, have lunch, otherwise I'm not ready when the cleaning lady arrives!

A friend of mine told me this one day: "When I open my eyes in the morning I don't want to get scared out of my wits!"

Made me laugh, but it is true. You want to open your eyes, see your partner and smile because you like what you see.

Over here things are unbelievably expensive.
Petrol is around E2,55 a litre! There's 3,78 litres in 1 gallon which makes it a whopping $9,64 per gallon.
I seriously doubt YOU pay THAT much!
It will go up next year as this year they've extended the lower tax period. But... tax on petrol is 84,47% per litre?! And 21% VAT per litre.
Meaning petrol doesn't have to be this expensive at all.
It's all about ripping us off with high taxes.
On top of that the petrol that currently is sold is old stock. Meaning purchased at the old lower price but nonetheless sold for a frigging fortune as if it was purchased today for higher price.

Grocery shopping is ridiculously expensive.
I think since the pandemic -when they began to artificially raise prices- things have at least gone up by 50%.
And it's still going up.

Suppliers who have to have truck deliver goods are about to go bust as they cannot afford to fill up the tanks of the trucks anymore.
Which means prices of goods will go up even more.

Meat... they're busy destroying all cattle farmers here with the policy to lower nitrogen.
To still have meat they're not working on making artificial meat?!
Not the vegan crap, but artificially grown/produced meat. WTF is that all about?
So if you don't have that over there in the US & CA you may consider yourself lucky.

MOTOWN Taking the bus as you say, yes an option. BUT bus fare will also go up since everything is so much more expensive! So you're duped nonetheless.

It all makes you wonder what the hell they're trying to achieve with all this idiocy??

Things I'm talking bout is in The Netherlands.
We have no Trump here, we do here an idiot who's possibly even worse.
But then, global tendencies effect everyone worldwide.

Thank you, Sir!
And you're right. Not everyone will understand it or isn't interested enough to try to understand.
But it is a real big problem. And it affects all single people.
Thank goodness there are more and more male coaches these days that educate and speak about this, offer courses for men on this too. Jake Woodard sometimes even offers a free course on it.
That will create a ripple effect but it's going to be slow. I mean, it's not like a couple of million of men will sign up for those courses. Then it could go faster.
In the meantime we all have to fumble with the current situation.

Normally speaking the masculine follows the progress of the feminine quite fast. Unfortunately this time it is taking very long. Longer than usual. And I think the result will be that many will end up spending the last decade(s) of their life as a single, even though deep down they would've loved to have a partner.

Exactly what I was thinking too!
There's a reason that your friend said "maybe later".
And I don't know you but from what you keep telling over the years is that you hop from one woman to the next and the next and the next and... and...
No judgement. Your life, your choice.
But I wouldn't want to introduce someone like that to a friend of mine either. Sod that! That's basically setting my friend up for disaster. I'd never do that to my friend since I care about my friends.

Aside from that, or because of that reasoning, you might PO your friend when you do approach this person regardless. Is that worth it for you? Maybe find another 'game' and 'addiction' to entertain yourself with?

Not saying this to P you O, just answering your question and being honest.

Hey Stan! Great to hear you're still at it and have had sightings!! Really exciting!

I'm currently re-watching the whole Expedition Bigfoot series.
There has never been a 7th season although it hasn't been officially cancelled.

There are a lot of stories online that the government interfered as they finally captured footage in their last season.
They also had lots of other very interesting things that had to be examined and could've let to a definite conclusion.
But since there's no new season we were never told what the results were of those things.
Lord knows government indeed did confiscate the whole lot and forbade any further investigation.

They did have an algorithm that accurately predicted where the next Bigfoot presence was going to be, and for how long.
Maybe you can find out what and how so it could help you.

In any case, good luck!

Hi OldCoot, I totally missed your reply.
I think most don't know anymore how to be feminine in case of women and with men what it means to be masculine.
And quite logical as things have changed so much over the last decades, and are still changing. Things have been the same for hundreds of years and we have to find a new way. This was not possible before due to strict demands and regulations from society, church and whatnot.
So we're inventing something new that likely has never existed but is very necessary for people to be happy & fulfilled.

As for men... they do NOT need both Alpha & Beta! Never Beta! Beta men are the whinging demanding needy men, not the healthy masculine men.
Being healthy masculine means you embrace your woman, you hold her, create space for her, by taking care of things like dealing with problems with neighbours & paying the bills & calling the plumber & fixing the fence and so on. You provide and protect that way which frees up the woman from having to live in the head. It allows her to get into her heartspace and body so she can soften. This softening is not becoming Susy Homemaker, but her nervous system (finally) being able to relax.
When a woman has to take care of all these chores and defend her property and/or herself, basically fend for herself in all areas of life, her nervous system goes in overdrive. Very unhealthy as you get stress hormones 24/7.
While for men it actually makes them feel good to do such things as it raises their testosterone!
It also raises a woman's testosterone which stresses us out.

When a woman can relax with a man cause he takes care of all that stuff and she can relax she can begin to bring in joy, playfulness, warmth and so on. All these feminine energy things, and... men crave that from a woman!
But when you have to fend for yourself as a woman, like most single women these days, and live in your head, it's impossible to be playful and express joy etc.

Back to men... by what he does (if he's a healthy masculine man) is provide emotional safety. Beta men don't do that.
Only when a woman feels emotionally safe with a man can she (and her nervous system) relax, can she soften and shift into playfulness, warmth, love, joy.
We women need to know, feel, sense that we can rely on our man, that we can trust him, that he supports us, respects us, that he's there for us, that he won't leave us at the drop of a hat etc.
Having that is emotional safety.
What we then can become (warm, joyful, playful, loving, happy & fulfilled, admiring our man etc.) in turn nourishes the man and gives his testosterone and sense of masculinity a boost.

It really is a 2-way street. If both are balanced and do what they should do it's a perpetual circle of love.

Merry, beautiful new photo!
And dangit, I love your hair!!

What great news!! You guys must be over the moon happy to finally be living together.
You two are a wonderful example that things can indeed work out, even when you're a world apart!
Best of luck to the both of you

Feeling... sleepy! Almost time to go to bed. Still a bit early for me but won't be long anymore.
Been a busy day, and quite warm so no wonder I'm tired already.

Thank you, Duttoneer! I did have a wonderful birthday :D

Finished this one over a month and a half ago:





A few days ago I began the 4th cowboy & horse painting. Only 2 sessions so far, lots more to do :)

Ooww... you just put a smile on my face right before bed

Just get a decent haircut. A good hairdresser will be able to tell you what will suit you best.
As for the facial hair, I don't think it looks good on you. But it might change if you'd smile :)

And as a tip... remove the half naked photo in the shower.
Men may like half naked photos, women generally don't. We tend to find it off-putting.

Feeling... good! We are currently enjoying a number of summer days with 25C-27C!
I'm loving it!
Finally able to have the sliding doors open, walk outside without a coat, and wear shorts!

Hihi, I think that's perfectly okay when a woman feels sexy and beautiful, Sir!

I guess it depends on how much they drink and/or what's normal in their social circle.
To an alcoholic it'd be 2x a day, to someone like me who truly hardly ever consumes alcohol it means something like 1x a month or (preferably) less.

I generally don't even drink once a year. Never a problem until a man enters your life. Somehow men expect you to drink. More like demand you to.