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Why'd you come in here looking like that? Trying to get us in trouble when we've just learned how to be nice 
Do you really want the neutered Westy?!?.. Can't I just be me in here and you guys be you??...lol |
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i guess you'll be going to any concerts alone then...
So you pay for high maintenance women then You paying for a woman doesn't make the woman high maintenance |
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The cheaper the date, the better. It's a quick way to find out if she is there to be with you. Or there for the money you spend on her. I've met a few in my life that the more money you spend on them, the more they want to be around you. Free meals. Free concerts, whatever it may be. They are ready. But when the money dries up, They gone. So, I find out right at the start. But Charles dont you ever feel that feeling when the woman is worth a lot to you by not minding at all how much you’re spending when you’re together? Well i am asking if sometimes you just forget and that money is no object because you just feel she is worth it ? Not talking about how the relationship ends but the time its just starting 
I've learned to expect anything out of anybody at any time. When I first meet a woman, I don't know her. She may be capable of most anything. Including deception. So, as far as first starting out, I don't know what her worth is. That's why I'm dating her. To find out what her worth is. So, until that time most of my hard earned money stays in my pocket. Also, if she is the right kind of woman, she will not want me spending big bucks on her. Because, to most people that I know, money is an object not to be taken lightly and thrown away willy-nilly. If I was married to her. She had already proven her worth, yes, money would be no object. At least to a point. |
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Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Wed 05/16/18 01:45 PM
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As for how much I spend on a date, depends...
A meet and greet, nothing. If I'm regularly dating a man, depends. I haven't much to spend, but I make sure I do at least something. Buy us cappuccinos and/or have some nice stuff at home to eat and drink, something to nibble. Apart from that men seem to easily forget that women tend to have higher cost in general. Men can grab the first simple shirt and jeans, comb their hair, and go on a date. A woman is expected to do a bit more than that, and that costs money too. So in that sense, if you're talking about dating long-term, you should throw all these costs into it too. And then I'm talking pantyhoses, shoes, skirts and dresses and nice tops, nail polish, lingerie, hair dresser, razor blades, stuff to take care of your skin for after that 'blade session' which costs a f*(king fortune, and lord knows what else. I mean, hell, men usually don't even bother to bring a condom to the party! And men don't always shave 100%, if they don't it's acceptable. For a woman it isn't. So they don't have to spend nearly as much money on all that sort of stuff as women do. I think if you knew just HOW much all these things cost, you'd gladly cough up for a 3 course meal. I can assure you that is a helluva lot cheaper! Also if the party happens mostly at my place, I have the extra cost of showers, laundry, towels, bread, cheese, jams, coffee, and so on. Might not seem like much, but it does add up and has to be paid for by someone --> me. So put all these expenses in the calculations, I think it's only fair a bloke pays for more/most. And a first date, like I said, I don't pay anything. I also don't do dinners on a first date btw (meet & greet). Just coffees. |
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I would never meet a woman for the first time on a date
The first time meeting a woman is a meet and greet, whether its a cold or hot beverage indoors/patio depending on weather or a walk and talk with a beverage to see if there is enough chemistry for a date. Once we are on the date that is different, I plan things around our mutual interests. |
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I would never meet a woman for the first time on a date The first time meeting a woman is a meet and greet, whether its a cold or hot beverage indoors/patio depending on weather or a walk and talk with a beverage to see if there is enough chemistry for a date. Once we are on the date that is different, I plan things around our mutual interests. whoo hoo another that gets meet and greets aren't dates dating comes after that hopefully |
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As for how much I spend on a date, depends... A meet and greet, nothing. If I'm regularly dating a man, depends. I haven't much to spend, but I make sure I do at least something. Buy us cappuccinos and/or have some nice stuff at home to eat and drink, something to nibble. Apart from that men seem to easily forget that women tend to have higher cost in general. Men can grab the first simple shirt and jeans, comb their hair, and go on a date. A woman is expected to do a bit more than that, and that costs money too. So in that sense, if you're talking about dating long-term, you should throw all these costs into it too. And then I'm talking pantyhoses, shoes, skirts and dresses and nice tops, nail polish, lingerie, hair dresser, razor blades, stuff to take care of your skin for after that 'blade session' which costs a f*(king fortune, and lord knows what else. I mean, hell, men usually don't even bother to bring a condom to the party! And men don't always shave 100%, if they don't it's acceptable. For a woman it isn't. So they don't have to spend nearly as much money on all that sort of stuff as women do. I think if you knew just HOW much all these things cost, you'd gladly cough up for a 3 course meal. I can assure you that is a helluva lot cheaper! Also if the party happens mostly at my place, I have the extra cost of showers, laundry, towels, bread, cheese, jams, coffee, and so on. Might not seem like much, but it does add up and has to be paid for by someone --> me. So put all these expenses in the calculations, I think it's only fair a bloke pays for more/most. And a first date, like I said, I don't pay anything. I also don't do dinners on a first date btw (meet & greet). Just coffees. you know crystal you could save a ton of loot if you kept it to knickers and your cloggs 
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The roses come after you put out, T&A..geez and If he buys your meal then its a date too.. disclaimer: T&A is my Dh nickname for Fervid and not sexual innuendo... so no need to delete it... damm this place.. 
Pfft, unless its three courses it is just a meal Wetsy. Eric, I am always dessert 
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The roses come after you put out, T&A..geez and If he buys your meal then its a date too.. disclaimer: T&A is my Dh nickname for Fervid and not sexual innuendo... so no need to delete it... damm this place..
Pfft, unless its three courses it is just a meal Wetsy. Eric, I am always dessert
then i'm buying fer sure 
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To me...it isn't about the cost. It is the companionship
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Wed 05/16/18 02:31 PM
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On a date nothing!! The man pays!!! You are absolutely right.. the man should always pay. If you invite a woman out.. you pay.. that is what a man does. And you don't put a $ cap on the event, you take her out, enjoy the company and make it special. If you can't do that or are to cheap... then don't do it at all. I agree! 
I go out myself quite often and spend money. I don't want any cheapskate for a Date. And I know there are generous Gentlemen out there, because I met a few already In person. Not on mingle2. |
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I would never meet a woman for the first time on a date The first time meeting a woman is a meet and greet, whether its a cold or hot beverage indoors/patio depending on weather or a walk and talk with a beverage to see if there is enough chemistry for a date. Once we are on the date that is different, I plan things around our mutual interests. Totally agree with this all the way~~~~
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First dates for me are usually coffee or a cold drink. That's the meet and greet stage, and if things don't click between us, I'm out the price of a cup of coffee, as opposed to a minimum $45 meal. I agree with another poster in the thread, where my dating plans center on mutual arrangements. I'm not going to get two tickets to a heavy metal concert, knowing she's not interested in heavy metal, and tells me upfront she doesn't want to go. I won't force her to do something she doesn't want to do, so everything has to be upfront and mutual. I've got hard and soft limits just like everyone else does.
I've even had lunch dates with a couple platonic friends of mine. One of my platonic friends and I came to an agreement even before we met that whoever set up the lunch date, got to pay the meal ticket (unless we decided beforehand to go Dutch). This has been a good arrangement. |
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Women get a lot of email. Why would a woman choose a guy who put almost no effort into a date? To me it shows he is after quantity not quality. A lunch or dinner date gives him time to prove he is worthy of a 2nd date.
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I have never believed it is a man's responsibility to pay for a date .. even as a young woman studying at university, I still worked and earned my own money .. I have an independent streak
My idea of a meet and greet would be a run through the sand dunes ., to see if he can keep up 
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As for how much I spend on a date, depends... A meet and greet, nothing. If I'm regularly dating a man, depends. I haven't much to spend, but I make sure I do at least something. Buy us cappuccinos and/or have some nice stuff at home to eat and drink, something to nibble. Apart from that men seem to easily forget that women tend to have higher cost in general. Men can grab the first simple shirt and jeans, comb their hair, and go on a date. A woman is expected to do a bit more than that, and that costs money too. So in that sense, if you're talking about dating long-term, you should throw all these costs into it too. And then I'm talking pantyhoses, shoes, skirts and dresses and nice tops, nail polish, lingerie, hair dresser, razor blades, stuff to take care of your skin for after that 'blade session' which costs a f*(king fortune, and lord knows what else. I mean, hell, men usually don't even bother to bring a condom to the party! And men don't always shave 100%, if they don't it's acceptable. For a woman it isn't. So they don't have to spend nearly as much money on all that sort of stuff as women do. I think if you knew just HOW much all these things cost, you'd gladly cough up for a 3 course meal. I can assure you that is a helluva lot cheaper! Also if the party happens mostly at my place, I have the extra cost of showers, laundry, towels, bread, cheese, jams, coffee, and so on. Might not seem like much, but it does add up and has to be paid for by someone --> me. So put all these expenses in the calculations, I think it's only fair a bloke pays for more/most. And a first date, like I said, I don't pay anything. I also don't do dinners on a first date btw (meet & greet). Just coffees. you know crystal you could save a ton of loot if you kept it to knickers and your cloggs
Hihi, I'm quite sure I'd still look cute, and sexy
And to be honest... I prefer nice cotton knickers, haha. I do buy nice ones
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I have never believed it is a man's responsibility to pay for a date .. even as a young woman studying at university, I still worked and earned my own money .. I have an independent streak
My idea of a meet and greet would be a run through the sand dunes ., to see if he can keep up
I like the sand dunes :) As for the independency.. it always surprises me to read that many women feel they aren't when a man pays for them on a date. I don't see it as me not being independent at all since I am simply not dependent on a man to pay for me, or not. To me it's about seeing if he's got masculine energy, the provide and protect, the taking care of a woman-thing. If he isn't even willing to pay for a few drinks, then he's not a man who's willing to make an effort for a girl. Chances could even be that he's not going to be there for you when you need him either. Also, it's a man's natural instinct and desire to give and please a woman. As a woman you should be able to receive that, otherwise he cannot give to you and this will then block the flow between a man and a woman. That's the problem with women today, and can cause problems in relationships or getting a man even. Being able to receive when a man gives to you is not dependent, it's being feminine. Not having a go at you, please don't take it that way. It's just your reply that triggered this train of thought as I come across this mindset a lot, on here and elsewhere. I personally feel it's a shame so many women have this mindset as I don't think it is helpful when it comes to your love life. Again, not personal, just triggered by your post :) And a subject that intrigues me, as this is what I am busy with all day due to the courses & workshops I give. 
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Wed 05/16/18 03:46 PM
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My meetings are with men who live miles away, so I t is a first date.
They traveled for a nice time, seeing the town talking for hours and enjoying dinner and paying for a hotel for their night stay. |
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My idea of a meet and greet would be a run through the sand dunes ., to see if he can keep up
Hmmm, i think i can use this to fall down in the sand and yell "Blondey HELP ME" to get me some of that *mouth-to-mouth resuscitation 
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I have never believed it is a man's responsibility to pay for a date .. even as a young woman studying at university, I still worked and earned my own money .. I have an independent streak
My idea of a meet and greet would be a run through the sand dunes ., to see if he can keep up
I like the sand dunes :) As for the independency.. it always surprises me to read that many women feel they aren't when a man pays for them on a date. I don't see it as me not being independent at all since I am simply not dependent on a man to pay for me, or not. To me it's about seeing if he's got masculine energy, the provide and protect, the taking care of a woman-thing. If he isn't even willing to pay for a few drinks, then he's not a man who's willing to make an effort for a girl. Chances could even be that he's not going to be there for you when you need him either. Also, it's a man's natural instinct and desire to give and please a woman. As a woman you should be able to receive that, otherwise he cannot give to you and this will then block the flow between a man and a woman. That's the problem with women today, and can cause problems in relationships or getting a man even. Being able to receive when a man gives to you is not dependent, it's being feminine. Not having a go at you, please don't take it that way. It's just your reply that triggered this train of thought as I come across this mindset a lot, on here and elsewhere. I personally feel it's a shame so many women have this mindset as I don't think it is helpful when it comes to your love life. Again, not personal, just triggered by your post :) And a subject that intrigues me, as this is what I am busy with all day due to the courses & workshops I give.
in a relationship I would want to contribute financially ..that has no reflection on his masculinity or ability to provide but on my capabilities .... at least in my mind  .
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