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Most men do not prefer women who are large. the majority of women are overweight, Check 100 photos of women from 45 to 55 and see that 80% or more are over 30 pounds overweight. Women hiding behind poor photos and euphemisms ( a few extra pounds,and average) do both themselves and potential mates a disservice. As a male i am not cognizant of how the men fare in the misrepresentation of weight, age and looks but i suspect it would be significant... Being more honest in how one presents oneself ultimately leads to better results. Its quite sad to meet a gal whose photos appear to be very slim only to meet a gal who weighs more than i do at 185 and yes i have met several of these gals who only claimed to be a few extra pounds.. defenses aside more accurate self descriptions will result in better matches and reduce unnecessary disaaaapointments from more glaring errors in judgement. Spoken only with kindness and honesty so please set aside your delusions of righteousness and find the SENSA... Don't lump ALL MEN together. You look GREAT & any REAL MAN would be proud to date you. You sell yourself short & men shorter. Vivian is right that it is true for both sexes. The only difference is I would accept a man that was overweight; just as long as he is active. As for weight; I think if a person looks good; what difference does it make what a damn scale says? I work out a lot and I am over 185. So, you and all other men would dismiss me because of what a scale says rather than how I look. This is why I couldn't be bothered to date. Nothing is ever good enough for you men. You can gain lots of weight and its quite alright but a woman puts on a few pounds and she is dismissed. Sick little world we live in and from what you wrote this only affirms my reasons to not even bother to date. You are correct that not all men are like what the other poster is like. Its just I have gone through that all my life and don't see anything changing. I guess I just get tired of hearing it over and over again. Its just men make me feel like I am never good enough for them so why even bother anymore. 
I am So SORRY for what some men have done to you. All I can say is, At some point YOU are going to have to TRUST that there are decent people/men out here & again put yourself out there & TRUST MANKIND. I agree, ALWAYS guard yourself as much as poss. RIsk is all apart of life & we risk everyday we get out of bed. SO RISK a little more & you just might find more happiness than you have ever known. TAKE THE RISK. I can appreciate what you are saying but really there is no one here in Calgary to take the risk with anyways so the point is mute. I am just glad that I can stay busy with my house, projects, and the military. Keeps life interesting. 
Big world out there, travel, meet new friends, learn to be happy with what is & look for what might be. Never lnow. I know the wisdom in your words but I have this big anchor called a house that limits my traveling. I am making the best of what I have but as far as relationships; there is nothing left to look forward to. Thanks anyways. You are a dear man and the gal that gets you will be one lucky lady.
A great lady educated me & left me a task. Helping others & enjoying life, till I can find her again. |
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Because you are smarter now and know what you want and can see thru the bs
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A WHOLE bunch of the recent posts smack of this sentiment...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Co3HzKQU8O4 I feel sorry for the next girl (boy) in line, whoa She (he) ain’t got a chance in hell The last one taught me not to let my guard down Yeah, I’ve learned my lesson well, I’m not lovin’ anymore. |
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never say never
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never say never
NO KIDDING! One of my cardinal rules! 
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Most men do not prefer women who are large. the majority of women are overweight, Check 100 photos of women from 45 to 55 and see that 80% or more are over 30 pounds overweight. Women hiding behind poor photos and euphemisms ( a few extra pounds,and average) do both themselves and potential mates a disservice. As a male i am not cognizant of how the men fare in the misrepresentation of weight, age and looks but i suspect it would be significant... Being more honest in how one presents oneself ultimately leads to better results. Its quite sad to meet a gal whose photos appear to be very slim only to meet a gal who weighs more than i do at 185 and yes i have met several of these gals who only claimed to be a few extra pounds.. defenses aside more accurate self descriptions will result in better matches and reduce unnecessary disaaaapointments from more glaring errors in judgement. Spoken only with kindness and honesty so please set aside your delusions of righteousness and find the SENSA... Don't lump ALL MEN together. You look GREAT & any REAL MAN would be proud to date you. You sell yourself short & men shorter. Vivian is right that it is true for both sexes. The only difference is I would accept a man that was overweight; just as long as he is active. As for weight; I think if a person looks good; what difference does it make what a damn scale says? I work out a lot and I am over 185. So, you and all other men would dismiss me because of what a scale says rather than how I look. This is why I couldn't be bothered to date. Nothing is ever good enough for you men. You can gain lots of weight and its quite alright but a woman puts on a few pounds and she is dismissed. Sick little world we live in and from what you wrote this only affirms my reasons to not even bother to date. You are correct that not all men are like what the other poster is like. Its just I have gone through that all my life and don't see anything changing. I guess I just get tired of hearing it over and over again. Its just men make me feel like I am never good enough for them so why even bother anymore.
I am So SORRY for what some men have done to you. All I can say is, At some point YOU are going to have to TRUST that there are decent people/men out here & again put yourself out there & TRUST MANKIND. I agree, ALWAYS guard yourself as much as poss. RIsk is all apart of life & we risk everyday we get out of bed. SO RISK a little more & you just might find more happiness than you have ever known. TAKE THE RISK. I can appreciate what you are saying but really there is no one here in Calgary to take the risk with anyways so the point is mute. I am just glad that I can stay busy with my house, projects, and the military. Keeps life interesting.
Big world out there, travel, meet new friends, learn to be happy with what is & look for what might be. Never lnow. I know the wisdom in your words but I have this big anchor called a house that limits my traveling. I am making the best of what I have but as far as relationships; there is nothing left to look forward to. Thanks anyways. You are a dear man and the gal that gets you will be one lucky lady.
A great lady educated me & left me a task. Helping others & enjoying life, till I can find her again. Well, as I said you are a dear man and you deserve all the happiness in the world. |
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I am 52 turning 53 in December I found that older woman are in secure they don't whant to take a chance they promiced there late husbands nobody is going to touch them there I went out with my age woman and all are realy a bit stuckup they don't whant to run in the rain ore play a bit I feel young and fit whant to have sex and love touch play flip whe are not yet fossils enjoy it its actualy nature for all nature lovers out there its in the bibel it discribed as being a young fawn jumping and running in the bush ladys explore your bodys with a man and enjoy life only live once my name is Henry Bezuidenhout I am from South Africa a Afrikaans boer and stil working as a Reaction Officer for a Security comp I jump wals and I can not think how older ore same age woman can not be more open and exeptable to men sorry if I offended any person did not mean it that way sorry
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You didn't offend..just generalized all older women because of some 'one' you knew..Don't judge the whole barrel because of one bad apple.Granted older women have different views on things than younger women..but them so do men..Sorry you had a bad time with someone your own age..but that has been happening since time began..and 53 is NOT old..
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I am 52 turning 53 in December I found that older woman are in secure they don't whant to take a chance they promiced there late husbands nobody is going to touch them there I went out with my age woman and all are realy a bit stuckup they don't whant to run in the rain ore play a bit I feel young and fit whant to have sex and love touch play flip whe are not yet fossils enjoy it its actualy nature for all nature lovers out there its in the bibel it discribed as being a young fawn jumping and running in the bush ladys explore your bodys with a man and enjoy life only live once my name is Henry Bezuidenhout I am from South Africa a Afrikaans boer and stil working as a Reaction Officer for a Security comp I jump wals and I can not think how older ore same age woman can not be more open and exeptable to men sorry if I offended any person did not mean it that way sorry Well; it goes both ways. Men my age are not open to me either. I remember a guy said he would dump me if I accompanied my friend to a Kink party. I wasn't going there to get picked up but just wanted to see what it was all about. Gee; talk about not being open. How about me going away for the weekend with the military? Guys just freak out over that thinking I will sleep with someone. Really; how immature. Being a military woman; I have done and seen more things than the average man my age. My fitness level, sexual drive, and well as my independence is way too much to handle. So, no offence to you men my age but as you see this indeed does reflect how I am having to deal with men that are as exciting as watching paint dry. As for insecurity; again I find men very insecure as I mentioned in my above examples.
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OHHH boy. All the "generalizations". We are ALL UNIQUE. Similarities but unique. Come on people, most posting here are over 50. Should not be talking like mindless teenagers. Please NEVER lump me in to these brakets of age. I have days where I act ancient, my poor abused body, making me pay for my past sins, which I regret few. Then I have the days of stupendous energy, working hard at some crazy project, so I can again prove,I can STILL do anything I choose to. Age is more a mental state, then a date thing, for me. Navy, you appear a beautiful, vibrant woman & I am sorry that you have met so many JERKS/poor symbles of the male species. There are as many good as there are bad. TO all the guys complaining, YOU GET WHAT YOU ATTRACT. I make my life what it is & think we all do. Learned a phrase several years ago, that I say to myself often, I will now share with you all.
"INTENTION = RESULTS" Find your REAL INTENT & GO FOR IT. Might make your life happier. OPINION OF SAGE |
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Oddly, in my experience, age has nothing to do with sexiness or beauty (which mostly come from the inside). It can have a lot to do with attitude, baggage, flexibility, and acceptability.
Some men and women "give up" without taking a hard look at what they are giving up and why. Sometimes it is so easy to blame others for what is your own personal problem. Getting what you want sometimes takes effort ... and that effort is NOT the effort you choose, it is the effort required. |
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Very true...
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Edited by
navygirl
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Fri 10/19/12 03:49 PM
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OHHH boy. All the "generalizations". We are ALL UNIQUE. Similarities but unique. Come on people, most posting here are over 50. Should not be talking like mindless teenagers. Please NEVER lump me in to these brakets of age. I have days where I act ancient, my poor abused body, making me pay for my past sins, which I regret few. Then I have the days of stupendous energy, working hard at some crazy project, so I can again prove,I can STILL do anything I choose to. Age is more a mental state, then a date thing, for me. Navy, you appear a beautiful, vibrant woman & I am sorry that you have met so many JERKS/poor symbles of the male species. There are as many good as there are bad. TO all the guys complaining, YOU GET WHAT YOU ATTRACT. I make my life what it is & think we all do. Learned a phrase several years ago, that I say to myself often, I will now share with you all. "INTENTION = RESULTS" Find your REAL INTENT & GO FOR IT. Might make your life happier. OPINION OF SAGE Thanks Sage. I guess I wronged someone in another life and I am paying the price for it now. Maybe Metalwing is right that its all my fault things don't work out. I am the sole one to blame for screwing up the relationships. Oh well; at least I have my family and friends that care for me and that is all that matters at my age. |
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OHHH boy. All the "generalizations". We are ALL UNIQUE. Similarities but unique. Come on people, most posting here are over 50. Should not be talking like mindless teenagers. Please NEVER lump me in to these brakets of age. I have days where I act ancient, my poor abused body, making me pay for my past sins, which I regret few. Then I have the days of stupendous energy, working hard at some crazy project, so I can again prove,I can STILL do anything I choose to. Age is more a mental state, then a date thing, for me. Navy, you appear a beautiful, vibrant woman & I am sorry that you have met so many JERKS/poor symbles of the male species. There are as many good as there are bad. TO all the guys complaining, YOU GET WHAT YOU ATTRACT. I make my life what it is & think we all do. Learned a phrase several years ago, that I say to myself often, I will now share with you all. "INTENTION = RESULTS" Find your REAL INTENT & GO FOR IT. Might make your life happier. OPINION OF SAGE Thanks Sage. I guess I wronged someone in another life and I am paying the price for it now. Maybe Metalwing is right that its all my fault things don't work out. I am the sole one to blame for screwing up the relationships. Oh well; such is life. It is almost never all one's fault. It takes two to tango. 
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OHHH boy. All the "generalizations". We are ALL UNIQUE. Similarities but unique. Come on people, most posting here are over 50. Should not be talking like mindless teenagers. Please NEVER lump me in to these brakets of age. I have days where I act ancient, my poor abused body, making me pay for my past sins, which I regret few. Then I have the days of stupendous energy, working hard at some crazy project, so I can again prove,I can STILL do anything I choose to. Age is more a mental state, then a date thing, for me. Navy, you appear a beautiful, vibrant woman & I am sorry that you have met so many JERKS/poor symbles of the male species. There are as many good as there are bad. TO all the guys complaining, YOU GET WHAT YOU ATTRACT. I make my life what it is & think we all do. Learned a phrase several years ago, that I say to myself often, I will now share with you all. "INTENTION = RESULTS" Find your REAL INTENT & GO FOR IT. Might make your life happier. OPINION OF SAGE Thanks Sage. I guess I wronged someone in another life and I am paying the price for it now. Maybe Metalwing is right that its all my fault things don't work out. I am the sole one to blame for screwing up the relationships. Oh well; such is life. It is almost never all one's fault. It takes two to tango.
Yeah; you would think it would work that way but it doesn't. |
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OHHH boy. All the "generalizations". We are ALL UNIQUE. Similarities but unique. Come on people, most posting here are over 50. Should not be talking like mindless teenagers. Please NEVER lump me in to these brakets of age. I have days where I act ancient, my poor abused body, making me pay for my past sins, which I regret few. Then I have the days of stupendous energy, working hard at some crazy project, so I can again prove,I can STILL do anything I choose to. Age is more a mental state, then a date thing, for me. Navy, you appear a beautiful, vibrant woman & I am sorry that you have met so many JERKS/poor symbles of the male species. There are as many good as there are bad. TO all the guys complaining, YOU GET WHAT YOU ATTRACT. I make my life what it is & think we all do. Learned a phrase several years ago, that I say to myself often, I will now share with you all. "INTENTION = RESULTS" Find your REAL INTENT & GO FOR IT. Might make your life happier. OPINION OF SAGE Thanks Sage. I guess I wronged someone in another life and I am paying the price for it now. Maybe Metalwing is right that its all my fault things don't work out. I am the sole one to blame for screwing up the relationships. Oh well; such is life. It is almost never all one's fault. It takes two to tango.
Yeah; you would think it would work that way but it doesn't. If I was all that smart and wise ... I wouldn't be single. 
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OHHH boy. All the "generalizations". We are ALL UNIQUE. Similarities but unique. Come on people, most posting here are over 50. Should not be talking like mindless teenagers. Please NEVER lump me in to these brakets of age. I have days where I act ancient, my poor abused body, making me pay for my past sins, which I regret few. Then I have the days of stupendous energy, working hard at some crazy project, so I can again prove,I can STILL do anything I choose to. Age is more a mental state, then a date thing, for me. Navy, you appear a beautiful, vibrant woman & I am sorry that you have met so many JERKS/poor symbles of the male species. There are as many good as there are bad. TO all the guys complaining, YOU GET WHAT YOU ATTRACT. I make my life what it is & think we all do. Learned a phrase several years ago, that I say to myself often, I will now share with you all. "INTENTION = RESULTS" Find your REAL INTENT & GO FOR IT. Might make your life happier. OPINION OF SAGE Thanks Sage. I guess I wronged someone in another life and I am paying the price for it now. Maybe Metalwing is right that its all my fault things don't work out. I am the sole one to blame for screwing up the relationships. Oh well; such is life. It is almost never all one's fault. It takes two to tango.
Yeah; you would think it would work that way but it doesn't. If I was all that smart and wise ... I wouldn't be single.
You can still be smart, wise, and single.
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OHHH boy. All the "generalizations". We are ALL UNIQUE. Similarities but unique. Come on people, most posting here are over 50. Should not be talking like mindless teenagers. Please NEVER lump me in to these brakets of age. I have days where I act ancient, my poor abused body, making me pay for my past sins, which I regret few. Then I have the days of stupendous energy, working hard at some crazy project, so I can again prove,I can STILL do anything I choose to. Age is more a mental state, then a date thing, for me. Navy, you appear a beautiful, vibrant woman & I am sorry that you have met so many JERKS/poor symbles of the male species. There are as many good as there are bad. TO all the guys complaining, YOU GET WHAT YOU ATTRACT. I make my life what it is & think we all do. Learned a phrase several years ago, that I say to myself often, I will now share with you all. "INTENTION = RESULTS" Find your REAL INTENT & GO FOR IT. Might make your life happier. OPINION OF SAGE Thanks Sage. I guess I wronged someone in another life and I am paying the price for it now. Maybe Metalwing is right that its all my fault things don't work out. I am the sole one to blame for screwing up the relationships. Oh well; such is life. It is almost never all one's fault. It takes two to tango.
Yeah; you would think it would work that way but it doesn't. If I was all that smart and wise ... I wouldn't be single.
You can still be smart, wise, and single.
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Thanks Sage. I guess I wronged someone in another life and I am paying the price for it now. Maybe Metalwing is right that its all my fault things don't work out. I am the sole one to blame for screwing up the relationships. Oh well; at least I have my family and friends that care for me and that is all that matters at my age. I don't believe that...there is always fault on both sides! On the other hand (glass half full) maybe you are storing up good karma for something SPECTACULAR! Meanwhile, enjoy your family and friends because they are precious. |
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