See, what you aren't getting is that I'm already that way too!

It is like shapeshifting. I embody ALL I need to adapt to each occasion. I'm not a diehard anything. I morph as needs be.

We are much more than one flavour, one colour, one trait, one description. It is a multidimensional state of being that we exist in, better have multidimensional traits to meet as needs be. Does go back to Darwin.

In a M.A.S.H. unit you will find scapels, saws, drills, alcohol, antibiotics, blood donations and so on. It is getting which tool to employ for the present need. A saw will never replace blood needed, and the converse.

I just think it wise to incorporate our entire possibility of personality that gives us power to go on. And, not to throw the baby out w/ the bathwater.

We can incorporate cynicism to be successful, while still remaining hopeful, optimistic, caring and even, quite positive. It could only be a bad thing outside of moderation. It is only part, NOT the entirety, of a whole and healthy individual. It isn't meant to hinder anyone.

got it

Of course, they missed the one about cynicism-

"You're gonna make me pay for this glass of water somehow, aren't you."

Fade, here is the loooong answer to how this WAS working for me...until the Hot Mingle Women got to my heart and opened my eyes.

http://mingle2.com/topic/show/202083

Your cynicism, is not my cynicism.... I cannot see through your filters.... only mine.

Change one's outlook, and the view is different.

okay I totally change my 'definition' to that of Idealist combined with Opportunist.

I like this chart

You are so correct, and I would add that when the viewpoint changes, the outlook improves, and then the attitude adjusts and becomes sweeter (I think) and attracts like-minded people.

Doesn't it? Or am I blowing smoke....

SPOT ON!!! In my view.... and how I see the world...

NOOOOOOOOo the pro-cynics thread is gonna overtake us ...

I think there is a bit of a misconception here.

Cynicism does not equate to a person always being negative.

A person can manage to be cynical, without being negative.

It's simply being realistic. It doesn't mean that a cynic always assumes the worst is going to happen. The cynic just takes things as they come along and uses past experience to temper expectations.

They don't assume that something bad is going to happen. They just choose to see the possibility of it.

Thats what I've been trying to say in the other cynic thread. And all I got was a bunch of whining and negativity about it. LOL

I'm not very trusting at all, but I have always been rather optimistic or hopeful.

It's ok to remain hopeful and optimistic, and still temper it with a bit of cynicism.

Same here, but trying to get that point across is like trying to get people to understand there's more to this site than just dating.

Might as well go fishing for muskies in a thimble.

Yeah. It's like trying to talk to a Scientologist or something. LOL

I see the misunderstanding here. For me being a realist helps with coping functions. I've handled disasters. But I've seen those who can't grasp the scope of cynacism within context. That everything is peaches n cream, dolphins and butterflies type of person. They are ill prepared to cope. When their car breaks down or they can't get their triple grande latte- you wouldve thought the world has come to an end. They completely break down and lose it to dramatic extremes. That amazes me. But again- to each his own.

(((Judy))) I was just thinking the same thing before I saw your thread... I don't get why some are so negative.. I see it on here a lot...

If we are to succeed in lightening up life, then let us take the clowns and form a circus. The sad, the cynic, the grim, the realist, the happy and jovial---all the clowns fulfill their parts in the circus of life.
Laugh, and enjoy the show!!!

sarcasm .. puts a HUGE spin on reality though

but .. but .. the other thread is allll about cynicism .. and the merits of it, and the celebration of it

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO