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I'm not very trusting at all, but I have always been rather optimistic or hopeful. Yes you have babe. I've never read a thread where you brought the 'heavy' down 
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Edited by
Fade2Black
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Sun 02/01/09 08:22 PM
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 I think there is a bit of a misconception here. Cynicism does not equate to a person always being negative. A person can manage to be cynical, without being negative. It's simply being realistic. It doesn't mean that a cynic always assumes the worst is going to happen. The cynic just takes things as they come along and uses past experience to temper expectations. They don't assume that something bad is going to happen. They just choose to see the possibility of it. Thats what I've been trying to say in the other cynic thread. And all I got was a bunch of whining and negativity about it. LOL Same here, but trying to get that point across is like trying to get people to understand there's more to this site than just dating. Might as well go fishing for muskies in a thimble. there ya go provin my point as I type 
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Now THAT'S sarcasm.
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I give up. Koombyaaaaa. Koombyaaaaa. Where's my birkinstocks? Ooooohhh!!! There's a made for TV movie on after that drama series of scorned women learning to cope on lifetime channel. Will someone hold me? I'm gonna cry!
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No thanks. I'm glad I was born with choices.
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I see the misunderstanding here. For me being a realist helps with coping functions. I've handled disasters. But I've seen those who can't grasp the scope of cynacism within context. That everything is peaches n cream, dolphins and butterflies type of person. They are ill prepared to cope. When their car breaks down or they can't get their triple grande latte- you wouldve thought the world has come to an end. They completely break down and lose it to dramatic extremes. That amazes me. But again- to each his own. LOL .. I see your point. Please see mine .. Not being able to get my car started may stress me out YES! But to the cynical person, they ASSUME the car is going to break down in the first place .. may I dare to say they LOOK for it and wait for it to happen, almost not believing if it doesn't. And I'm not putting them down .. just saying I have to live positive that's all 
I don't live in denial, just with hope 
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Now THAT'S sarcasm. (((((((( Keith )))))))) |
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I give up. Koombyaaaaa. Koombyaaaaa. Where's my birkinstocks? Ooooohhh!!! There's a made for TV movie on after that drama series of scorned women learning to cope on lifetime channel. Will someone hold me? I'm gonna cry!  You need kleenex .. *passes some over*
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Judy, what you're describing is negativism, not cynicism.
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(((Judy))) I was just thinking the same thing before I saw your thread... I don't get why some are so negative.. I see it on here a lot... ((( Joy ))) As I've said it's their right for sure. It just tends to drag the 'mood' overall down or at least attempts to
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Judy, what you're describing is negativism, not cynicism. Well perhaps .. I know anyone always waiting for the other shoe to drop is what I'm talking about .. |
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ie .. a little cheese with the 'whine'
a little lemom with the vinegar
I'm not a shove it down the throat with happy all the time. I can see life in the real. I just don't let it get me down or see it as bad .. I guess that's more what I mean. |
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Edited by
LouLou2
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Sun 02/01/09 08:52 PM
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cyn·i·cal (sn-kl) KEY
ADJECTIVE: 1. Believing or showing the belief that people are motivated chiefly by base or selfish concerns; skeptical of the motives of others: a cynical dismissal of the politician's promise to reform the campaign finance system. 2. Selfishly or callously calculating: showed a cynical disregard for the safety of his troops in his efforts to advance his reputation. 3. Negative or pessimistic, as from world-weariness: a cynical view of the average voter's intelligence. 4. Expressing jaded or scornful skepticism or negativity: cynical laughter. |
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LOL I JUST pulled up the same definition .. thank you lou lou
and it mentions negative not once, but twice: cyn·i·cal (sn-kl) adj. 1. Believing or showing the belief that people are motivated chiefly by base or selfish concerns; skeptical of the motives of others: a cynical dismissal of the politician's promise to reform the campaign finance system. 2. Selfishly or callously calculating: showed a cynical disregard for the safety of his troops in his efforts to advance his reputation. 3. Negative or pessimistic, as from world-weariness: a cynical view of the average voter's intelligence. 4. Expressing jaded or scornful skepticism or negativity: cynical laughter. May I point out distrusting is KEY as well .. |
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Edited by
Mr_Music
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Sun 02/01/09 08:55 PM
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Let's not assume that cynics "let things get them down". Also, let's say that cynics do NOT see things as "bad", just real and for what they are, instead of making excuses for what they ain't.
It's also pretty clear that the person(s) who wrote that definition is NOT a cynic, lest they would have some idea of what being one is. |
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I see it as not believing in the good of mankind, not giving the benefit of the doubt .. yada yada
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I'm just saying...maybe, just maybe cynicism becomes part of the problem? It's easy to become cynical, but living life as a cynic is not easy.
Oh...and you are quite welcome, Fade2Black... |
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Meh. If some people choose to live with blinders on, that is their choice. I choose not to. Sue me.
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re·al·is·tic (r-lstk) KEY
ADJECTIVE: 1. Tending to or expressing an awareness of things as they really are: She gave us a realistic appraisal of our chances. 2. Of or relating to the representation of objects, actions, or social conditions as they actually are: a realistic novel about ghetto life. |
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Meh. If some people choose to live with blinders on, that is their choice. I choose not to. Sue me. Now see Keith. I am not putting you down for being cynical, just sayin it's a 'downer' for ME to view all of life that way. I think suggesting the ones who AREN'T cynical wear 'blinders' is a very negative connotation, suggesting we are ignorant by choice, and since the majority of human beings are not cynical by nature, assumes a lot. 
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