Short, simple, and to the point. I guess it really depends on the personalities of the two people involved. There are some open relationships where they don't care what each other does as long as they always come home. On the other hand, some people fly into a jealous rage if just speaking casually to someone of the opposite sex. I myself would not want to have a gf that flirted on a dating site. For one thing, it takes time and energy away from our relationship and for another it misleads the people she is flirting with, making them think she is interested. If she isn't interested she is just toying with them and if she is then we have a serious problem. I wouldn't want a gf that thought it was ok for me to flirt online. I would take that as a sign that she really did not care about me and our relationship.

Because he's OLDER and the longer she waits the OLDER he gets. If she spends too much time changing the sheets she's going to wake up and wonder what she's doin' with this old dude when she could be hookin' up with a young stud. :)

I have had arrangements like this in the past but will never do it again. I am the kind of guy that has a lot of emotion behind my actions. If I am in a "friends with benefits" relationship, it makes it very hard for me and usually the other person to move on with life. In short, it draws out the inevitable. If I can't have all of someone (mind, body, and soul) I won't be interested in just the body. That's just the way I work. Lots of guys can turn their emotions off and consider it just a physical act, but I have never been good at that. If I have a physical relationship with a person it is because there is much more there than that.

Is your friend a very independent person? If so, I can understand her reaction. I have been in a couple of relationships that I could not handle because I cherish my alone time. I don't mean that I want to never be with someone, but I do need some time to myself occasionally. During this time, I am not on stage, not putting someone else first, and don't have to be concerned with anyone judging me. I am just with myself, content and relaxed. Could be that this older guy was a little over enthusiastic and scared her a little? You never really said just how older the guy is....maybe he is just a little more ready for a mature relationship than your friend.

Well, my dates are pretty tame. (At lease the dates that I would talk about on here are) It's not really about what we do or where we go as much as it is about paying attention to the details. I'm a pretty old fashioned minded guy in respect to dates. I believe in going to a nice restaurant, never fast food or buffet. I believe in holding the door and pulling out the chair if the waiter does not do it. I believe in having the night be all about the girl, what she wants and what makes her happy. If she's happy, I'll be happy. Sometimes a flower is a good idea on a date, other times it isn't. I like escorting her to the car or restaurant by offering my arm or hand if she is open to that. Conversation wise, I like showing genuine interest in her career, family, hopes, and dreams. More often than not, I can draw a parallel between some interest or facet of her life to my own. If we have common interests, I compare my own to hers so we can share experiences. I guess all in all, I believe in being every bit a gentleman.

I have a question that is off topic, please forgive me. How do you guys paste graphics and Gifs into your posts? If I copy and try to paste something I get nada.....Sorry, for the newb question....

I agree with most everyone else here. Appliances, unless specifically asked for, are never a good idea. I'm not even too sure about the apron (even though it is "sexy"). It kinda says, "Hey hon....here's something sexy you can wear while you make my dinner". Experience tells me that you can never go wrong with jewelry, but I'm the kind of person that doesn't want to do what everyone else is doing. Spa treatments and massages are great gifts. I also like doing a night where I cook, clean, and pay attention to all the little details like candles and atmosphere. Last year I was big on getting people "lessons" for things. Like, I gave my brother a certificate for a tandem sky dive and his wife a month of Akido training.

~chirp, chirp, chirp~

(crickets)

yep, I can smell it :)

I wouldn't say that, but I'm good with what I do have in order and what I don't I can handle. How is your week shaping up b_g?

Two men were sitting on a plane. At some point during the flight they notice that they each have black eyes.

"Wow, thats funny." one guy says. "How did you get your black eye?"

"It was really an innocent mistake," the second man said. "I was buying my tickets and the woman working the counter had huge breasts. I meant to say, 'Give me two tickets to cinncinnati', but fumbled my words and said, 'Give me two pickets to titsinnati'. She clobbered me.....How did you get yours?"

"That is amazing", the first guy said. "Mine happened just like that. I was sitting at the table for breakfast and I meant to ask my wife, 'please pass the pop-tarts', but fumbled my words and said 'you f#$king b!tch, you ruined my life...."

I am. Short week, good weather, lottsa good food coming up shortly. How could it be better?

Good morning everyone. I hope everyone is happy and well today!

I don't know if it actually helps, but it doesn't hurt. If it weren't for the forums, there would be nothing on here but snapshots and 2 paragraph blurbs about the people on this site. The forums enable all of us to get a little more insight as to who we all are, what makes us tick, ethics, religion, humor, compassion, and a host of other traits that are important in a relationship.

Everyone has family members that are a little off their nut. Introducing him to your family will show him how lucky he is to have you.....you could have turned out like one of them! Instead, he got the cream of the crop.

It also serves to explain some future personality quirk that you may develop later on :)

Self imposed single, but I still believe.....

Thats really a beautiful thing mich. Too many parents lose touch with their kids before that age and chalk it up to "teenage rebellion". You mentioned that your daughter has what you consider a goofy haircut and her music is not exactly your favorite, but you managed to instill and maintain a common ground that all of you enjoy. It's a bonus that reading is that common ground.....much more wholesome than WWF :)

I haven't decided anything lil. Just observations....I apologize if I have offended you in any way. I am sure that you are a wonderful woman with oodles of qualities. (that's not sarcastic, that's just how it sounds in my head :) )

I can't even tell you how intrigued I am with you. Your attitude, intellect, and sweetness are incredible and I find myself smiling like an idiot from just hearing your voice.