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Rate my profile
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Yeah, I've seen a few people do that. I think they just want to get a rise out of people. I've been watching another one like that, the OP hasn't come back yet, yet everyone is giving their input. Would that be the one that had a melt-down, and then blamed everyone else for it? I didn't bother replying to that thread after it was clear she just wasn't getting any of it, or she was she just just felt better denying the truth. |
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Take A Hint
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Also, there are other people who will be more receptive, so why not go after them instead of focusing on the one who isn't interested? I believe that's something to do with psychology - many men want what they have to work for. A 'thrill of the chase' scenario. If they get the woman who didn't want them, it somehow validates them and their self-belief. But yes, you're right, it mostly is just crap. |
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**** most of them don't read....unless it says 20 year old female looking to chat...that they read. (That thread will outlive us all, it's up to over 2000 views.) Wut? Have you noticed she starts threads but doesn't participate in them? |
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I also just loved the idea of making a thread on this and putting rape instead of rate. I expect a lot of people will see that and wonder if it was actually a typo. lol [/quote I thought it was a typo and came to see the responses! I'm disappointed now... |
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Take A Hint
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Oh really? But you seem to have moved from a "most people" statement to a "nobody does this statement". It's false anyway. Plenty of people date outside of their race, or generation, or are attracted to people that other people think that they shouldn't be dating. Who are these hypocrites? I don't have a problem with guys dating girls young enough to be their daughters and I've even done it to prove it. Tawt, the issue isn't people who do it. The issue is people who don't accept that some people aren't into it for themselves. You can personally do whatever makes you happy, as is your right. Just because you and some of the people you've known don't mind it, doesn't mean that others should be made to feel like it's not OK to say it's not want they want. It's not ageist to declare a preference for someone nearer to their age. |
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Take A Hint
Edited by
Lost_in_reverie
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Tue 12/03/13 03:17 PM
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I'm going with the line that if the young lady has specifically stated her preferences on who she wants to talk to or be involved in, then men should respect that and move on if they don't 'fit'. You're only wasting your time if it's clear your messages aren't wanted. Though I'm going with the other comments that she's best altering her settings to prevent them from contacting her, if she doesn't want them to.
That said, yes, you do have a right to message who you want but you can't expect a person to look on you favourably when you've ignored their preferences. I don't give a flying **** how young or old people are, what race, blah blah blah. That's not the point. The point is, it's not what she wants and it sounds like the thought of someone old enough to be her dad approaching her (most likely with sex on the brain) creeps her out. As it would me, if that's their intention. I don't mind an older guy, but old enough to be my dad is pushing the boat for me. Each to their own though. |
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Hey Lost_in_reverie, Thanks for the great question. This is my first time posting a comment, so forgive me everyone if it doesn't work out right. I have kicked around the same concern about friends in my life. Wondering if others feel the same. Thanks for letting me know I am not alone and it's not just in my head. My Mom, God love her, has told me more times in my life that friends are just like shoes. We spend a lot of our time looking for them. We try a bunch on reject a lot of those. Find ones we think are the perfect fit, make us feel great, make us sexy, or strong or protected. Ones that we just can't wait to take out in public to show off. But we look in our closet and find piles of them that we never even wear any more. We wonder what we were thinking when we decided "those are perfect". Some of them really weren't a good fit and we knew it when we were trying them on. But all of us have one or two pair that are old, nor really fashionable, scuffed up and a little worn in the soles. (Souls.) But for some reason, they are still our favorite. They just fit, even after all these years. I think she is so smart. I really like that analogy! I'm yet to find my favourite pair, but I'm working on it. :D |
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WTH?
Edited by
Lost_in_reverie
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Tue 12/03/13 03:03 PM
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Really? are yall kidding me? It takes 2 min to change a profile and it's ok to lie like that? So she's not interested no reason to lie. If she's really married, you must keep in mind if so she just got married still extreme newlywed, why is she here? It's not I'm upset over the non-interest I'm upset over the response. I don't like liars or cheaters she's either one or both. I bet if I was a woman posting this It'd be a whole different story. Over and over I read (yes I read yall's profiles) be honest and no games, Do men not deserve the same? You can't assume that just because she's here, she's a cheat or a liar. Some people stay on here to develop new friendships based on their interests, or simply because they like the community but have no intentions of meeting someone. She may have simply come on in response to an email notification but planned to fix her profile/delete her account shortly after. Have you checked it since? Realistically though, I think you need to take a step back and re-evaluate your reaction here and the impression you're giving fellow Mingle users. If I was interested in a guy but found he was getting his knickers in a twist over a woman who he knows nothing about, in what feels to be a serious case of 'over-reacting', I'd back off pretty quick. Just throwing in my two pennies there since you're so keen for honesty and 'no games'... |
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WTH?
Edited by
Lost_in_reverie
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Tue 12/03/13 02:18 AM
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I messaged a girl in my area. she's active here and looking for a good guy. She replies Thanks for the message but I recently got married. WTF You ever thought about updating your profile? What's your husband think about you being on a dating site? Hows that make me feel? Bad that how Also, she may not have been on here, or she has friends on here she messages, but received an email update from you and thought she best be polite and let you know. She may have even met her husband on here and decided to stay to share her wisdom with fellow minglers (as some do). She could have just ignored your message. You did put in your rate profile thread that people don't message back... |
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My toe is in the water!
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I stayed in Manchester before. Whitefield for 3 months, then West Didsbury for 4 months. Also worked in London for nearly 10 years also. As long as its the social pool Lost and not an outside one with our British weather, you'll be like a Smurf in 5 minutes? Ha ha. Greek, you look like a guy that used to pop into my local pub in Chapel market, Islington? Back staying in Scotland, now though. Best of luck to you two anyway, ok?  
Funny you should mention that - I was Smurfette one year. That was fun! I actually live a stone's throw from Didsbury :P Best of luck to you also! |
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Wow....see many comments....thanks pals...I jst wanted to know if people can....sex before marriage is a sin....resist tempation Depends on your outlook and beliefs. I don't believe sex is a sin - it's something that's totally natural. We're lucky that we have brains and can make up our own minds as to when we indulge, but the "wrong time" for me would be if I barely know someone, if I'm not in the right mindset for starting something new, if I feel that getting involved will end up with one of us hurt... etc. Marriage doesn't come into it. Make what you want of that. |
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Calling all lady,s who live in the location of Tunbridge wells if your single looking for a lovely date or coffee easy going bloke who likes joke! so far on this site i have profile views form other countrys strange 
I'm not local, but coffee brought me here. But no coffee! Golly gosh! What is the world coming to?? Seriously though, yes there are lots of people from other countries. I particularly dislike the various messages from Indian and African men who want me to marry them. I have no idea who they are, I've never spoken to them or viewed their profiles, but I'm apparently supposed to consider their propositions... Uh, no. Best of luck in finding the woman you want! |
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I dont feel comfortable selling myself to a internet site. 
There are lots of warnings about offers of money, maybe you should take that quite literally in this case. hehe. |
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My toe is in the water!
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Now how can I tempt you to want to get more than your toe wet in the social pool. Get undressed and jump in the waters warm!!! 
(Side note: it could be freezing depends what end you jump in) If you jump in, it only feels cold for a minute, I guess... haha. I hope that you're not being rude there, G.A... :O |
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Edited by
Lost_in_reverie
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Mon 12/02/13 06:11 AM
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Hi, Fruitbat!
My first thought is maybe there isn't as big a community of gay people on here to give you the selection of worthy candidates you're looking for. I don't know how true that is though, I'm just going off who I've seen in the forums, and there really doesn't seem to be many gay men in there (or at least few who are that upfront about it). I'm sure you have already clocked it, but do be very aware that there are lots of scammer-types around! In terms of your profile, you're very honest about what you want and what you're looking for. If I'm nit-picking, some editing of the text wouldn't go amiss as it reads a little jumbled in parts. A couple more photos may also help. I wish you the best of luck! |
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I'd say, unless you have condition that prevents you from exercising control, 100% of people can choose not to have sex if it's the "wrong time". As others have mentioned though, it all really does depend on the individual and what they want. If they respect themselves and others, then they won't have sex at the "wrong time".
There obviously are exceptions, like if someone can't handle their alcohol and ends up jumping into bed with someone. Though I don't think that actually happens as often as some believe it to. Generally speaking, if a person wants to have sex, they will (I'm hoping it's mutually consensual). We're in a society where people are often judged harshly for being open about their impulses and some feel they have to excuse those actions in some way. I don't feel there's any shame in doing what you want to do providing you stick to some basic rules: what you do must not deliberately hurt someone, you're safe and you are still able to respect yourself and others. |
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I have always found that talking about your troubles with your partner (or potential one) to be the most effective way to get your feelings through to them. [...] If he isn't willing to listen to you, then the relationship would never work. ^^^ This. As with any relationship, but especially one that may involve distance, communication is so important! We can't account for how he'd react, so I can't really offer you more advice than that. Maybe he just needs to hear that you want and value him in your life for him to make room for you also. Best of luck! |
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friends are a gift I think the common factor in those with friends is continuity of lifestyle and routine over a long period of time meaning,, they have stayed at the same job for years, going to the same places together I suppose that's the problem - I'm not at the point where I have that "continuity of lifestyle" but that's by choice. I don't want to settle in a job I'm not happy in, so I make changes to better my lifestyle. Whereas a lot of the friends I had would complain about their lives but makes no attempt to improve things, aren't certainly didn't approve of me trying to help either. |
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It helps to have someone's shoulder to cry on too. If you don't have a person, a dog is the next best thing. To them, you are their whole world. 
I agree! This is why I love big dogs - you can use them as cuddly pillows x |
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I'm sorry to hear about what happened and I expect you do feel pretty shitty. Personally though, I think you need to take time out to deal with that before you move on. I don't believe moving onto another relationship whilst you're still hurting over another is healthy. Just my opinion though.
As to whether this site will help you find someone when you're ready - who knows? It's really a matter of who's around, where you are, who else is looking, how much time you want to put in... which is the same for anywhere you go. Personally, I think to meet people the forums are the best place to build friendships, but anything more than that seems to vary from person to person. I wish you all the best of luck healing and later finding someone who's worth your time. x |
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