I just assumed he was Greek and living in London...

Let's hope he doesn't injure himself again!

I have done something like this before! The first box I sent was the box and from there, every week or so, I'd send 'gifts'. Some times it was pictures I found that would mean something to us, other times trinkets that I knew she'd like, or little letters and gifts cards... It didn't seem to matter how much I valued the friendship though.




You can go through all that and still find that it's very much one-sided.

@GreekAdonis: Now, if only I'd known that before! haha.

I'm with Teebee - some more info and pictures will give us more to go on.

I am a strong, independent woman who's always been vocal about things that I believe aren't right.

I'm approachable and easy to get along with.

I'm quick to smile, and often infect others with an enthusiasm for being silly.

My brain's always active and I am quick-witted, but this doesn't always come across in the flesh as I'm not so used to what I think being spoken.

I have a lot of passion that has yet to find a constructive course. As yet, I'm still carving that path.

I am creative and enjoy trying new things. I become easily engrossed in creative activities, even if I'm not very good at them.

The urge to travel frequently grips me, but money and circumstances often hold me back.

The best sleep I ever get is when I'm outdoors, otherwise I'm often restless.

I frequently find myself deep in thought over how I imagine my life to go and how I see myself getting there. The first step will be finding work after the new year that will fit around my degree but will enable me to have much more time to meet new people, pursue my interests, or arrange voluntary work. At present though, I work varying shifts spread over 5 days with a rota less than a week in advance.

I don't tend to wake up from them shouting, but I have been heard shouting. I've had one ex say I was yelling "**** off you bald headed twat" (he wasn't bald, and I didn't think he was a twat at the time). I've also shouted at someone else to "check the configuration settings"... I'm an odd one.

Do you prefer to sleep with the window open or the window closed?

Where did you hear that? I think it's the case with anything - you get what you put in. A lot of the people who say they can't meet anyone, rarely make the effort to actually get involved. Or they don't take the advice of their peers when it's given.

I've only been on here a few days and I can see that there are plenty of opportunities to meet up with people, it's just whether those people are who I want to meet up with or we're meeting up on the same wavelength. At present though, I'm still so new that I'm not planning on rushing into that. Just spending time getting to know people.

Best of luck in your search!

I currently donate money to three causes: Marie Curie Cancer Care, Barnados and Woodland Trust. Also have National Trust membership.

I used to donate blood three times a year but not allowed as I've had tattoos and you have to wait a while after them before they let you do it again.

I believe I'm signed on for platelets and marrowbone, but never actually been called in to donate.

And I also have myself down for them taking whatever they need from me when I'm dead. When I'm dead, I'm dead. What do I need my organs for then? May as well put them to use.

I also donate time (voluntary work) when I am able to.

Yes! At the moment, I make a plan with a friend. When they inevitably cancel or fail to cement plans, I usually fall back to study. I've recently signed up for National Trust membership so I can actually go off wandering without having to worry about paying for anything. As with this Tuesday just gone though, I wasn't informed until late afternoon my friend wasn't going to be able to make it to dinner, so it was essentially a day I could have been doing something else but spent it inside instead. :(

It'd be nice to have social engagements to look forward to, but I don't seem to be able to fit in those structured ones with people I don't really know. They certainly need extra time to build up friendships. It's sad, but I guess it's something for me to look at when I do have more time.

Thank you for your reply though.

I don't think we necessarily have to know what something is for it to exist. The world continued to spin on its axis whilst orbiting the sun, even when we were still debating our belief that the earth was flat, or killing people when we thought the universe revolved around the earth...

We can still choose to change without fully understanding who we are or what we stand for, we can just pick out pieces that don't match with some view of ourselves or something we believe we could do better.

I'd think that posting on a forum that you think a site is a waste of time would be a waste of time. I also think that thinking something is a waste of time is a waste of time. In fact, most things that don't involve being pro-active is a waste of time.

What exactly do you consider not to be a waste of time? Do you do other things that are a waste of time but still do them anyway? What are the results?

I've actually not seen you around the forums (probably because this appears to be your first post), so how can you know this site is no good? It doesn't look like you've given it a fair chance.

That said, good luck finding something else that allows you to put the minimum amount of effort and still expect to see results.

Using the "under 30" forum may not be the best plan then...

I think what is meant by "shoulding" (should be doing) is that some people can become a little obsessed with how others react to situations, essentially comparing their reactions to someone else's. What I believe Pacific to mean is that some people have a parent figure to discuss these views with to work out what is 'normal', others don't. But whatever the case, it's best just to deal with situations as they are at your own pace rather than compare yourself to others. You are unique and your responses and reactions may also be different to others.

And I believe you're referencing the different stages of Kubler-Ross grief model:

The stages, popularly known by the acronym DABDA, include:[2]

Denial — "I feel fine."; "This can't be happening, not to me."

Anger — "Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; '"Who is to blame?"

Bargaining — "I'll do anything for a few more years."; "I will give my life savings if..."

Depression — "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going to die soon so what's the point?"; "I miss my loved one, why go on?"

Acceptance — "It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it."

@GreekAdonis: It's my pleasure!

@PacificStar48: I can certainly imagine how hard it is to lose people you care about like that. It's nice to know those people existed though - that, as you say, you have a standard by which you measure others by. You have experienced a true friendship and have had someone who was there and, in those cases, they didn't choose to leave.

In regards to facebook, I don't have it and haven't had it for a year. I disliked the arguments and all the silliness. Let others obsess over it, I'll spend my time elsewhere doing other things.

@Rawrr_Girl: I hope your friend is OK! That can certainly be a worry. Are you in touch with his sister? If so, wouldn't she know how he's doing?

@GreekAdonis: Damn right! I'm definitely unappreciated. XD

@GreekAdonis: Funny, my stepdad was saying that to me earlier! haha. I actually do plan to move south after my degree, but we're looking at 2-3 years, unless good job prospects come up before then that mean I can afford to live there. I doubt that'll happen though.

In terms of the not finding your way out - would you like me to draw you a map? It'll point straight ahead. Don't walk backwards, don't veer off course, just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you'll find yourself getting closer and closer to your goal. Chin up, Mr. You'll be just fine <3

Call the police - Quagmire's in my bed!!

You need to invest in a torch! I find, most days, that it's incredibly liberating knowing how much **** the world can throw at you and you're still standing, even if you're standing alone. Once you're through the darkness that is. It's only those fleeting moments within the tunnel that I feel at a loss because I know, if it gets bad in there, I have nothing to fall back on. Once I'm through, I feel much stronger and prouder of myself. A kind of 'screw you, world - you tried to bring me down and failed!' attitude.

Be very grateful - it's freakin' cold here!