Well... what you get is what you exude. The world and what comes your way is a mirror of what you put out into the world.

Jesus! I'm not sure if you people are trying too hard or not hard enough!?!
I live in one of Nebraskas "tri-cities", which means I have a total population of under 150,000 yet I meet new women weekly (if I want to). I'm old, fat (kinda) and going gray, I'm certainly not as pretty or fast as I was 30 years ago and it's common for me to drive 100 miles round trip to meet someone.
Do I want to drive that far or further, of course not. But I don't want to be alone either so I do it. You folks living in or near large metro areas have no idea how easy you have it when it comes to dating!
But focus on the positive; TALK, I've got a lifetime of stories and experiences and everything you say doesn't have to be cool or exciting. Learn how to have good conversations, ask her questions about herself and life. Listen and remember what she says. If you don't have any you need to learn to develop some charm or game! Really what you need to do is sell yourself; this comes natural to me since part of my working life when I wasn't in the music business (about 30 years music and 15 years in sales) I was a door to door vacuum cleaner salesman. No leads, no salary and no expense acct AND no income without results. I was good at it and was able to make as much money as I wanted to. If you want to learn to sell there's no better than to listen to recordings from the late sixties/early seventies made by Zig Ziglar. You can learn everything about selling from him and it doesn't matter if you're selling vacuums or yourself.
Personally I've always been very clean and well groomed and you need to do that; shower daily, shave, snip those ear hairs and nose hairs, smell good, brush your teeth. Make the best of what you've got; I'm....well look at me, some women think I'm handsome but I'm sure there's just as many that think...ew ick! When you meet just be yourself, that's what she wants to see and what she's interested in. Don't wear some stupid hat or try to look like Indiana Jones. One of my pet peeves I guess you'd say is people who think if you put on some costume you're a cowboy. It's not like that, I grew up on a ranch 10 miles from Wyoming. We raise cattle; there's prairie, rocks, hills, pine trees and lots of space. My aunt still lives on our home ranch which has been in our family for almost 150 years. Not long in Texas but long in Nebraska, we weren't a state til 1867. Another Aunt who lives 30 miles away in Wyo has (hold onto your seat easterners) over 100,000 acres of land. I'm not a cowboy but I know one when I see one and you guys who put on your cowboy costumes look ridiculous and you look the same to most women, don't do it.
Again just be yourself!
Also chivalry is NOT dead; be a man open the door for her, open the car door, pull her chair out and for God's sake don't be cheap! You're the man so you pay. Be polite even if you're not clicking. Don't be crude. You'll never regret being kind.
I'm tired of typing.
I'm no dating guru, I'm just saying what works for me.
AND btw I wouldn't have this user name except one of my woman friends was typing as we were filling out my profile page here after we.....use your imagination and I thought that m2 was mostly a sex site, didn't know about all the fabulous forums then, not going to change it now.
You have to put forth the effort instead of whining about it here...

Amen sista!

Whoa, ivegot, did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed?

I was going to respond something to barr60, but he deactivated.

loyalty
hustle
respect him
protection
nature

No, not at all!

I just see people here day after day complaining and listing all the reasons why they can't get a date or get laid and thought if I expressed myself a bit it might help others. And you can also relax as I was directing myself primarily but not exclusively at the men.

I try conscienntiously to do some good every day (deed) and if my latest rant or would be instructions on dating at 62 where there's a small amount of people helps someone I'm happy.

I think most of us understand your comments and where you are coming from. Some people are social, have been their entire lives, and have spent most of their lives in a career working with other people. They have interesting stories to tell and others tend to gravitate toward them. Their outgoing social interactions are natural for them. Yes, they may have studied some things or learned some human social traits over the years but being a social person is still their normal existence. If they went onto higher education, they most probably studied the softer skills as opposed to STEM topics.

When we were younger, women tended to be more social and matured in a more social way. They tend to be more comfortable in social settings and appreciate men who are also. Socially outgoing men tend to attract women more easily. That has been the norm in society for many years.

Then we have a large group of men and some women who are not naturally social creatures. We chose careers more directed at inanimate objects than people; we spent our lives working with more technical projects than people. The social interactions and skills where never something that mattered to us or our careers. We commonly are referred to as "nerds". When we do attempt to be more social or learn those social skills, it is only a front and will never be who we really are. While we have a few very close friends, we normally go through life without most people even noticing that we exist; this is especially true of people who are outgoing, social creatures. While we can and will engage in conversation, the topics are not exciting or interesting to most others. We find most of the conversations of others very boring and without substance - hot air and BS drifting through the wind. Good stories but not much meaningful substance.

No one here is Jesus, we're only human..and eventually one does get tired, frustrated, jaded, etc. with regards to the dating thing..that is a normal human thing.

Amnd then, people contradict themselves..
"You attract what you put out"..they say..
And then when (in another context) I say how i reply to ALL legit (scammerdudes do not count) messages sent me, even if it is just to politely tell them why i feel we wouldn;t match....those *very same people* who say you attrtact what you put out say "I ain't got time for that...no reply is a reply"...
See, *I* choose to put out kindness and respect, and treat people like they are valuable, because we all are in some way..

I actually agree with what you said. Most are either not trying hard enough, too jaded and give off those vibes, or their expectations are not realistic. Being on several dating sites for awhile gave me a lot of insight.

Some people in here are so negative it shows a mile away. Why would you expect any interest?

And the guys who think women are looking for a man with money, you’re looking at the wrong women so you get what you deserve. You want a young sexy thing, PAY for it.

"Most are either not trying hard enough, too jaded and give off those vibes, or their expectations are not realistic."

"Some people in here are so negative it shows a mile away."

These are generally learned behaviors and attitudes from many years of negative life experiences. It is like sending out messages, maybe 1 in 100 actually will bother to make a reply so why would anyone bother to create more of a message than 1 or 2 lines? It just isn't worth the effort! Just reading many of the posts on this thread reinforces that negative attitude you refer to.

I compare it to looking for a job..
There's countless articles out there to read about people whio have given up on trying to get a job...
Ageism *is* a real thing inthis country..

After sending out your resume 100 times, (and yes, having had it redone a few times) and still getting nothing..
Or going for an interview and not getting the job...etc..
After doing this enough times with zero results, people *do* get a bit negative, and jaded, and give up..that's just normal human behavior...
If you're not Jesus or an ascended master..you do the best you can...and when that yield zero results....well..I don't blame anyone for getting tired and jaded and negative about it all.

I *do*, and can blame someone for making blanket statementsd that "all women are looking for a man with a lot of money/ women only want a rich guy/ a hot looking guy"...
Or "older women don't like sex"
Or "all men only want pu***/ sex"...or "all men are pigs"..

Caffeine.

I’ve had many many negative experiences in my life. I refuse to let it turn me into a negative person.

All I can say is take a long look at yourself.

AGREED!

Although some seem to need alcohol!

Caffeine is a stimulant and in excess is bad for your health. Alcohol is a depressive and in excess is bad for your health. There is a balance between the 2 that has positive effects on your health. It is that balance we need to strive for.

I do not see life as a negative but very much a positive. My financial situation is stable, my health is stable. I travel and enjoy the places I go, and I enjoy life in general. My negative attitudes are limited to the male-female dynamic and the prevailing attitudes of most women. I do not expect that to change for the positive in my lifetime so the only option is to accept that situation. I do try to keep an open mind about women I meet but it usually only takes a few minutes and interactions with them to form those negative attitudes toward them. There are the exceptions and I appreciate that when it happens.

Wow! Same desire we share. Can we get to know each other

Check the story Adam & Eve
Anything sweet and desirable that will make them feel wonderful and great is what they want.

nice i agry