Topic: Why is it so hard for a older women
twjb's photo
Thu 09/04/14 08:51 PM
I wish I knew why it is so hard to find love at this stage in life! I get lots attention from much younger guys or much older gentlemen but neither is what I want. I want someone closer to my age..... not that older or younger is bad - its not, but I just dont feel I have much in common with younger guys and the age range of the older gentlemen that usually approach me is 65+ on average. I am still very vivacious and extremely active and I am sure I would hurt an older guy, iykwim... seriously. Why is there no interest from men in the 43-55 age range available for me? Maybe I'm too tall? I really dont know.

It would be so awesome to find love with someone at or near my age but I guess maybe I dont know what men in that range want. Could that be it? Surely they cant all be after the 25 year olds? But, whatever the case, I remain hopeful. Maybe eventually, he'll show up when I least expect it. **keeping my fingers crossed.**

huckel23berry's photo
Fri 09/05/14 10:29 PM
you must be looking for me

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Fri 09/19/14 09:24 AM
I would prefer a woman close to my age. The problem is that almost all women my age aren't physically fit enough to join me in all the activities I like. Now what ? Just forget about finding someone or wait forever trying to find a 60+ year old lady who enjoys 30 mile bike rides and long hikes in the woods ? Would appreciate a comment on this

navygirl's photo
Fri 09/19/14 09:50 AM

I would prefer a woman close to my age. The problem is that almost all women my age aren't physically fit enough to join me in all the activities I like. Now what ? Just forget about finding someone or wait forever trying to find a 60+ year old lady who enjoys 30 mile bike rides and long hikes in the woods ? Would appreciate a comment on this


I think only you can make that decision on what to do now. Men my age are very overweight here and can't keep up with me when I bike; weight lift, or kick bock so I just gave up. I gave up dating but doesn't mean I gave up having fun. To be brutally honest; I have more fun doing things on my own rather than trying to do them with a man in tow. laugh

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Sat 09/20/14 04:46 AM
Edited by adventureman64 on Sat 09/20/14 04:53 AM
Thanks Navy. I'm sure there are many more out there in the same situation we are. Just wish they'd hold their hands up so I could see them. I think it's kind of sad that you've given up, but as long as you're happy, that's all that matters. As for myself, I'm not giving up. I would willingly scale back the intensity of my activities for honest companionship but I won't give up the things I like to do. That wouldn't be fair to me. If it means that a younger woman is a better match, so be it. My post was meant as one explanation why an older man might want a younger woman.

navygirl's photo
Sat 09/20/14 07:49 AM

Thanks Navy. I'm sure there are many more out there in the same situation we are. Just wish they'd hold their hands up so I could see them. I think it's kind of sad that you've given up, but as long as you're happy, that's all that matters. As for myself, I'm not giving up. I would willingly scale back the intensity of my activities for honest companionship but I won't give up the things I like to do. That wouldn't be fair to me. If it means that a younger woman is a better match, so be it. My post was meant as one explanation why an older man might want a younger woman.


Oh; I understand what you were saying and hey if a younger women does it for you; go for it. I couldn't be with someone way younger than me as these younger guys are so immature and I can't really have an intelligent conversation with them. I think with me; I realized I wasn't meant to be with someone and I have never believed there is someone for everyone. As well; like you I am not giving up on things I love and I found in relationships that guys wanted me to do that which made me very unhappy.

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Mon 09/22/14 06:10 PM
It shouldn't be that hard because there are so many men on this site. Where are you from? Do you wat to chat?

Ray.

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Mon 09/22/14 07:02 PM
Because older men will put up with naive less bitter young woman :)

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Tue 11/11/14 12:28 AM
well im lookin a woman .and none seem true or into bondin for a commitment .mind tho ,im sure a decent n caring Woman exist fot me somewhere .

I think that most woman "our" age have a hard time finding someone because they don't put themselves "out there".

You are not going to find the "love of your life" sitting at home watching TV and knitting.

It seems that most women are afraid to venture out anywhere alone. And I don't mean hanging out in bars. They spend their time with the same small group of friends, shy from making even casual contact with anyone they don't know, and then wonder why they don't meet people.


You knit? Will you knit me a scarf and gloves for winter so I get out of the house and put myself "out there"...

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Sat 11/29/14 12:51 PM
To bad we are not closer. I love women's age or even a little older but I have always liked older women. I find older ladies so sexy

navygirl's photo
Sat 11/29/14 01:03 PM

Because older men will put up with naive less bitter young woman :)


Seriously? I have dated dozens of bitter older men that are angry with women because their ex-wives got their money. Men can be extremely bitter. I personally think its middle age crisis and people get stupid when they hit middle age; both men and women.

navygirl's photo
Sat 11/29/14 01:04 PM

We all look at the young that is as it should be but that is all it should a man in his 50s who goes for younger women has not matured enough to date a women of his own age a women his own age would not be inpesst by him so younger women is what he goes for. Sad but ture


I think this sums it up best. :thumbsup:

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Sat 11/29/14 01:11 PM

Have you considered turn-offs for women? Or do you tend to instantly like or dislike a man without knowing why? There was a time when women were predominately concerned with making themselves more appealing to the opposite sex. But now that many women prefer to choose instead of being chosen, their preferences demand attention. Here are 10 turn-offs for women of all ages and stages of their relationships.

1. Being Ignored
Being ignored is one of the main things that turn women off. From the first day of a relationship until death, most women expect their partners to be attentive. Most women judge how important they are to their partner, by how much attention they receive when expressing their concerns and opinions or when asking for advice.

When men act as though other things are more important or more interesting, or when they casually dismiss something that is important to a woman, they are setting the tone for a rocky, if not short, relationship. And when men engage in the common ploy of showing interest during the beginning stages of a relationship and allowing it to dwindle as the relationship progresses, they usually find that the woman’s attraction for him takes a similar dive.

2. The Wannabe Big Shot
Women are appalled by men who talk a big game knowing they do not have the means to follow through. Almost every woman has encountered the guy standing at the bar, bragging intentionally-loud so that everyone can hear him. Or even worse, the guy who picks you up in a rented BMW, pretending he is the owner.

Men often convince themselves that all women are after the guys with the biggest and the best of everything. This becomes a motive for those men to paint colorful and fictitious pictures of themselves. But in reality, women find this behavior disgusting, so instead of making themselves attractive, these guys become female turn-offs.

3. Self-Admiration
Some women get dinner and a movie. Other women get dinner and an earful of self-admiration when they go out on a date with a guy. Men who waste women’s time by inviting them on dates so they can spend the evening glorifying themselves are truly a bore.

A woman sitting across the table listening to her date gab about his university GPA, his honors, the sports he played, his stellar performance at work, and his new investment ideas is usually not impressed. She is probably bored to death and hoping never to be sentenced to another date with him.

4. Preoccupation with Sex
Whether it is a first date or a 10-year marriage, women do not want to feel as though sex is all that men want from them.

During the beginning of relationships, most women do not want to hear sexually explicit stories or comments and they do not care to discuss their past performances. This proves true even when women are dressed seductively and, ironically, even if they have had or are willing to have a one-night stand.

In long-term relationships, women don’t want men’s interest to be switched on when they are sexually aroused and switched off after intimacy occurs. Most women want to be caressed, fondled, complimented and otherwise shown affection and intimacy, even when their partners are not seeking sexual gratification.

5. Chauvinism
Despite what women accomplish and contribute to society, there are still men who act as if they are the superior sex. These men have many ways of displaying their attitude. Some, for example, have a belittling title for every woman. The cashier is little lady. The waitress is darling. And the bartender is sweet cheeks.

Other men belittle women’s efforts to perform what they believe to be male tasks. For example, a man may say “this little lady cop pulled me over and had the nerve to write me a ticket.” Whatever the chauvinist behavior, it never fails to be a turn-off for women.

6. Expecting the Woman to Take Care of the Kids
Some men have the misconception that motherhood is something that comes naturally and that women want to devote their lives to child-rearing. On the contrary, many women are as focused on their goals, careers, and social lives as men and they prefer to share family responsibilities.

These women do not want to be left home feeding babies and changing diapers while their partners maintain their normal business and social lives. This is one of the female turn-offs that takes a serious toll on a relationship.

7. Paying too Much Attention to Other Women
Men who look at other women, who talk about the physical attributes of other women, or who are too flirtatious are not likely to appeal to women.

It does not matter whether the woman is on TV or lying on a beach virtually naked.

Women like men who are respectful enough to pretend they do not notice. Furthermore, when a man and woman go out and they can barely make their way through a bar or club without the man getting hugs, rubs, waves, and winks, the man is not likely to score points with his date.

8. The Not-So-Courteous Approach
Whistling, using slang, or grabbing a woman’s elbow to get her attention are a few of the many things that turn women off when they are approached by a man. Descent women expect men who are interested in them to approach them thoughtfully and respectfully. Women always prefer a gentleman.

9. Poor Grooming Habits
The appeal of sweaty athletes or grungy musicians proves the magic of television and glossy magazines. In real life, women are not generally attracted to wet bodies or the odors that accompany them. A jogger who runs into the convenience store for a sports drink and expects to get your phone number will probably get disappointed instead.

Beyond basic hygiene, many women are calling for more. Recently a radio talk show’s topic was the double standard of appearance.

Most women who called in expressed displeasure and frustration at the fact that men want sleek, gorgeous women, yet they do not take care of themselves. Generally, men with pot bellies, dirty fingernails, and disheveled hair are turn-offs for women.

10. Bad Pick-Up Lines
A sense of humor can be a great thing— when a guy is actually funny. A good pickup line will leave a woman with a lasting impression. But more often, women are exposed to guys who try so hard that they are female turn-offs.

With many women, it is a one-shot deal. Lame pickup lines or bad jokes will erase any opportunity a man may have of getting a date. Other women may let a few bad jokes slide, but when men continue, a woman’s interest tends to diminish.

If your relationship is suffering and you don’t know why, consider these female turn-offs. If your partner is guilty of any of the above-mentioned turn-offs for women and you don’t know how to confront him, perhaps you should leave this article where he will see it.

Are You Just Not That Into Him?
You've likely heard of the book titled * He's Just Not That Into You, but how are you feeling? * Are you not that into him either? Many people stay in relationships because they are convenient or comfortable. Others don't even realize that they aren't all that into each other. Some men are just meant to be friends. Do you know the difference?



Wow; this is totally awesome. Another man that actually gets it. The woman that dates you will be one lucky lady. You made my day. flowerforyou

oldsage's photo
Sun 11/30/14 05:55 AM
Simpler put:

Treat others with the same respect you want; MALE or FEMALE.

NEVER use anyone.

Make your own life, FIRST.

Till you respect your self. You will not feel worthy of respect from others.

OPINION.

Mdarlene's photo
Sun 11/30/14 07:17 AM
could not have said it better myself, how are you

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Sun 11/30/14 07:39 AM

to find LOVE?


Because we are very, very picky....:wink:

graywolf55's photo
Mon 12/01/14 02:40 AM


to find LOVE?


Because we are very, very picky....:wink:
frustrated (((Yes))) it seems to me that everyone is (stereotyped) before they are given a chance in todays sioecity! There are "Good People" that still exist in todays sioecity but being overlooked for whatever reason you have!! I think i have communicated to a few on here all over the World here that make up the exceptions! Who knows about tomorrow? And Yesterday can never be changed! Take that long look in Your own Mirror and think ahead on what your Future Holds and if you can Make a good difference in being with another person? "There is the connection"!flowerforyou)

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Mon 12/01/14 10:13 AM
You said it ALL.

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Tue 12/02/14 01:57 PM
It would help if women of any age on dating sites would have the courtesy of responding to polite hello messages from men. We're not all sexual ogres trying to just get laid. There are a lot of guys who are genuinely lonely and looking for the companionship of a woman and aren't able to find it in the course of their daily life. That's why we are on sites like this. Women have to put forth effort in finding a guy, just like we have to put effort into finding a woman.

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Tue 12/02/14 07:21 PM
That is just what I was going to say, you can tell nothing from a short blurb in a profile, so far on another site I have sent out four messages, no answers, to a basic Hi how are you doing today kind of message. It would be nice if I at least got back, a No, not interested.