That would explain why those words show up on so many profiles. It seems rather strange though. Thanks

I understand that not everybody is proficient in spelling, but how do so many people come up with the same words, that aren't really words ? What the heck is the meaning of 'pionate' and 'compionate' ? These words aren't in Websters dictionary, yet there are many, many women who use these words in describing themselves.

One of my fishing t-shirts reads

"It's not how deep you fish,
it's how you wiggle your worm."

Any man who would treat a hottie like you that way has definitely got problems.

This is all very interesting. So you think that if I replaced my main photo with one that is 'different', that more people would view my profile ? That sounds like a positive thing to me.

Thanks for the info, Crystal, but I have no need to hide myself from anyone. I understand and sympathize with the problems women must have on a site like this. Please don't misunderstand me, I have nothing against people using a picture other than one of themselves, I was just curious about the different reasons. I don't personally have the problem of being inundated with messages. Perhaps I'm a little more active and adventurous than women my age are looking for, but that's OK. If a woman isn't looking for someone like me then there is no reason for them to message me. :o)

Both are good reasons, and yes, Alf is a cool dude. How about some of you other posters ?

Why are there so many people posting in the forums who post pictures other than themselves ? Are they hiding from something/someone ? Most seem to be nice, intelligent people, so why do they want to hide their face ? Everyone says 'participate in the forums and get to know the people.' Animals and cartoon characters, etc., aren't people. And, if you check out their profile too many times, trying to see what the actual person you're replying to looks like, then they seem to think they're being stalked or some such thing. Just wondering.

After 36 unanimous replies to my question, I thanked everyone for their opinion and considered it the end of the thread. Beyond that point it seems to me that everyone is just beating a dead horse. Carry on, if you must. Thanks again.

Sounds like everyone is in agreement. I've always felt that ignoring someone who is speaking to you is rude. I guess I haven't dealt with the cyber world long enough yet to learn how it is in this dimension. Thank you for your feedback.

While not replying to a message is one form of an answer because it shows a lack of interest, is it also being rude ?

Of course men are attracted to women by their looks, as are women attracted to men by their looks. Without that initial physical attraction, you probably wouldn't bother to find out what their personality was like. The question is, how do you define 'pretty enough', or 'handsome enough.' As they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Isn't physical attraction the reason women use all the cosmetic products ? I suspect that most men don't go to the gym just for something to do. They're hoping that bigger muscles and a flatter belly will attract the women ! IMO

Well, now the women here know you're looking for sex. Maybe if you posted your picture some of them would be interested. Then again, maybe not. If both the man and woman in a relationship agree that sex just isn't that important to them, it doesn't mean their 'cake' is going to fall flat.

Having read the entire thread, it seems to me like no one read this posting. The dictionary does define chivalry as "the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight," referring to medieval knights, but that isn't the only definition. It also defines chivalry as "a man's courteous behavior, especially towards women." I think we can all agree that medieval knights are a thing of the past, but in my opinion, a man who is not courteous, defined as "polite, kind, or considerate," isn't much of a man. I see acts such as opening a door for a woman as being polite and considerate. A REAL man, however, doesn't feel that his masculinity is threatened when a woman is "kind" enough to open the door for him. Neither is a woman much of a woman if she doesn't appreciate it when a man is simply being courteous.

For 25 years I tried very hard to make my wife happy, at great physical and financial cost to me. At age 50, after all those years of trying, I finally decided that it wasn't possible. I decided that I'd tried my best and it was now time for me to be happy, so I divorced her. I never realized how wonderful life could be. Hopefully some day I'll find the right woman to share this wonderful life with.

Well said. You have described the woman I am looking for.

Good morning taz, and all you fellow minglers out there. It's going to be another beautiful day. :o)

It's a shame, but unfortunately what you said is true, and I'm sure the same can be said about some of the women, but not all are that way. It can be frustrating but hang in there. Get to know the people in the forums. There ARE good people on this site.

It's simple. If you don't like facial hair or long hair, then move on to the next profile. If you're searching for a doctor, lawyer or commodities broker, maybe you're looking in the wrong place. I'm retired, and if you wanted to know what my profession was, all you'd have to do is ask, not complain because I didn't tell you up front. My ex was a complainer. Now she's an ex. This was meant as a reply to s8dy. For some reason it didn't show up that way.

Hi Natalie. Welcome to Mingle.