I joined this site in hope of getting to know more people! and may be to find somebody to bond with and eventually to share my life with, but what is going on?? isn't there any body with the same view on this site?

If you look at any relationship love or business, overnight success eventually has an overnight end. The term easy come easy go comes to mind. I think in relationships we become excited for meeting someone that immediately strikes our current needs and we put the not so great things on the back burner not worrying about them. But as time goes on those small things we ignored start to become big things. So I think it is important to take the time to really get to know someone and pay attention to everything for compatibility for long term.

...maybe your just being too impatient...I met someone here, when I was putting more effort else where....you only have been here long enough to have 17 posts, for goodness sakes women, give it some time and a chance, and recapture a upbeat attitude, sad, desperate, angry and forlorn do not attract men looking to better their life.....smile , joke....be the fun gal !!!


~wicked~

What happended to the good men ages 35-55 huh? Well, part of the men that age will be completely jaded by now, either through lack of luck (like me) or because some other woman ruined him for the rest of you (i.e. divorce). That's just part of them though.

You see, a truly honest to god good man is easy to find, you probably already know one, but just can't see him. He's that guy that's attentive to you, helps you out when you need it, sometimes shows up with pizza and beer just to watch movies with you. Oh, you probably tell the gals "he's just a friend," but I bet if you asked, he's dying to go out with you. Now a woman's first response is usually "I don't feel that way about him." But in fact, most ladies just have never thought of having those feelings for that type of guy, and a friendship is a great place to start a relationship. So, that's where you find a few more of the "good" ones.

Another place to find them, church. I'm not saying become a religious zealot by any means. But some people need the inner peace derived from sitting in a large room with 200 strangers. Meditation helps no matter where you do it, but some need that. These good men, probably aren't even on the internet dating sights. Might not have the self confidence to do it.

Just remember, most truly good men have had some person in the past take complete advantage of there soft hearts, and then dump the like a bad habit when something that only appeared better came into view. These men will be cautious, emotionally conservative and rather quiet. They know they can be easily hurt and are less likely to put themselves into situations where it can happen again. If you feel you're having to wait for a guy to come around, odds are, he's a good one. Be patient, and a little agressive, you'll bag him.