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Topic: What happened to good men 35-55?
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Sun 05/04/08 07:45 PM


What happended to the good men ages 35-55 huh? Well, part of the men that age will be completely jaded by now, either through lack of luck (like me) or because some other woman ruined him for the rest of you (i.e. divorce). That's just part of them though.

You see, a truly honest to god good man is easy to find, you probably already know one, but just can't see him. He's that guy that's attentive to you, helps you out when you need it, sometimes shows up with pizza and beer just to watch movies with you. Oh, you probably tell the gals "he's just a friend," but I bet if you asked, he's dying to go out with you. Now a woman's first response is usually "I don't feel that way about him." But in fact, most ladies just have never thought of having those feelings for that type of guy, and a friendship is a great place to start a relationship. So, that's where you find a few more of the "good" ones.

Another place to find them, church. I'm not saying become a religious zealot by any means. But some people need the inner peace derived from sitting in a large room with 200 strangers. Meditation helps no matter where you do it, but some need that. These good men, probably aren't even on the internet dating sights. Might not have the self confidence to do it.

Just remember, most truly good men have had some person in the past take complete advantage of there soft hearts, and then dump the like a bad habit when something that only appeared better came into view. These men will be cautious, emotionally conservative and rather quiet. They know they can be easily hurt and are less likely to put themselves into situations where it can happen again. If you feel you're having to wait for a guy to come around, odds are, he's a good one. Be patient, and a little agressive, you'll bag him.




Wozzers excellent replyflowerforyou


Excellent summation! I'm just happy I found a lady who's looking for the good guy! flowerforyou Can't wait to talk to her somemore!

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Sun 05/04/08 07:53 PM
welcome and good luck.

Muddysneakers77's photo
Sun 05/04/08 08:39 PM
we are around...just gotta sniff a bit harder than usual bigsmile

dodger1953's photo
Tue 05/06/08 08:33 AM
woof!

maskman's photo
Wed 05/07/08 02:23 PM
yes you are right if everyone take the time at look what at their feet and take their head out of the clouds they just might find him.

BIGTEDDYBEAR42's photo
Sat 05/10/08 11:54 PM
one good man (no great man)lol here in Ontario. Now who needs a relaxing/stress free massage OR how about a hot bubblebath with candles around the room Take care all jim

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Thu 05/15/08 12:10 AM
we just need a reall......

ziggyzogy's photo
Thu 05/15/08 11:24 AM
smokin hello all houston here, so where are all the good women?

wolfluvr's photo
Thu 05/22/08 03:47 PM
Edited by wolfluvr on Thu 05/22/08 03:50 PM
well some of us are on Long Island which is a looong way from houston.

wolfluvr's photo
Thu 05/22/08 04:02 PM

I am not sure about the reason people join either. I have been a member and have not had much luck finding "friends" to meet. I am very easy to get along with, new to the area and thought this would be better than going to clubs and bars. BUT.............


I understand where you are coming from, but I gotta tell you the truth, for me I don't feel comfortable checking out anyone's profile who doesn't have a picture. Makes me feel they have something to hide even if they just haven't found a picture to their liking to post. So come on open up, find a picture, even if it's just of your pet, your favorite sport, a hobby, it's something to break the ice and get people to check you out. Maybe someone with similar interests.

Good Luck! flowerforyou

ted1963's photo
Thu 05/22/08 06:54 PM
Welcome...Roaming made a good point, you may already know one, I have been on the side of the guy that brings the beer and pizza, I wanted more from the relationship, but didnt express it for fear of rejection or not wanting to possibly ruin the friendship, etc. But sometimes you need to take that chance...

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Fri 05/23/08 11:21 PM

What happended to the good men ages 35-55 huh? Well, part of the men that age will be completely jaded by now, either through lack of luck (like me) or because some other woman ruined him for the rest of you (i.e. divorce). That's just part of them though.

You see, a truly honest to god good man is easy to find, you probably already know one, but just can't see him. He's that guy that's attentive to you, helps you out when you need it, sometimes shows up with pizza and beer just to watch movies with you. Oh, you probably tell the gals "he's just a friend," but I bet if you asked, he's dying to go out with you. Now a woman's first response is usually "I don't feel that way about him." But in fact, most ladies just have never thought of having those feelings for that type of guy, and a friendship is a great place to start a relationship. So, that's where you find a few more of the "good" ones.

Another place to find them, church. I'm not saying become a religious zealot by any means. But some people need the inner peace derived from sitting in a large room with 200 strangers. Meditation helps no matter where you do it, but some need that. These good men, probably aren't even on the internet dating sights. Might not have the self confidence to do it.

Just remember, most truly good men have had some person in the past take complete advantage of there soft hearts, and then dump the like a bad habit when something that only appeared better came into view. These men will be cautious, emotionally conservative and rather quiet. They know they can be easily hurt and are less likely to put themselves into situations where it can happen again. If you feel you're having to wait for a guy to come around, odds are, he's a good one. Be patient, and a little agressive, you'll bag him.



You hit the nail on the head for me. Been lookin' for several years now, but didn't contact more than a few girls cause of shyness blushing and being burned brokenheart (how hot is molten lava anyway, and why did I volunteer to swim in it in the first place?) I don't wanna get hurt again so I'm being extra careful, but I know I have to put myself out there if I ever want to find someone. I'm taking a break for now, but may become proactive later on if something I have off in the wings doesn't work out. To all you ladies out there looking for your "nice guy". We do exist, but the nicer the guy is, the harder he may be to catch in this age group. If you find him and he turns out to possibly be "the one", dont be so aggressive as to scare him off, but don't give up either flowerforyou

Rzrback's photo
Fri 05/23/08 11:51 PM
Im here. Right here. Damnit, cant you see me. Right over here......

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Sat 05/24/08 06:50 AM
I am a good man and I am 53 .Do I qualify ?.laugh laugh .

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Sat 05/24/08 07:13 AM


What happened to the good men ages 35-55 huh? Well, part of the men that age will be completely jaded by now, either through lack of luck (like me) or because some other woman ruined him for the rest of you (i.e. divorce). That's just part of them though.

You see, a truly honest to god good man is easy to find, you probably already know one, but just can't see him. He's that guy that's attentive to you, helps you out when you need it, sometimes shows up with pizza and beer just to watch movies with you. Oh, you probably tell the gals "he's just a friend," but I bet if you asked, he's dying to go out with you. Now a woman's first response is usually "I don't feel that way about him." But in fact, most ladies just have never thought of having those feelings for that type of guy, and a friendship is a great place to start a relationship. So, that's where you find a few more of the "good" ones.

Another place to find them, church. I'm not saying become a religious zealot by any means. But some people need the inner peace derived from sitting in a large room with 200 strangers. Meditation helps no matter where you do it, but some need that. These good men, probably aren't even on the internet dating sights. Might not have the self confidence to do it.

Just remember, most truly good men have had some person in the past take complete advantage of there soft hearts, and then dump the like a bad habit when something that only appeared better came into view. These men will be cautious, emotionally conservative and rather quiet. They know they can be easily hurt and are less likely to put themselves into situations where it can happen again. If you feel you're having to wait for a guy to come around, odds are, he's a good one. Be patient, and a little aggressive, you'll bag him.



You hit the nail on the head for me. Been lookin' for several years now, but didn't contact more than a few girls cause of shyness blushing and being burned brokenheart (how hot is molten lava anyway, and why did I volunteer to swim in it in the first place?) I don't wanna get hurt again so I'm being extra careful, but I know I have to put myself out there if I ever want to find someone. I'm taking a break for now, but may become proactive later on if something I have off in the wings doesn't work out. To all you ladies out there looking for your "nice guy". We do exist, but the nicer the guy is, the harder he may be to catch in this age group. If you find him and he turns out to possibly be "the one", dont be so aggressive as to scare him off, but don't give up either flowerforyou


I don't know man. I think you have to be a little more aggressive with the nice guy. See the thing about nice men is, we are nice to a fault. We always believe that we want more from the relationship than the woman does. We don't see the obvious signs that a woman is attracted to us as well. So we will behave in a manner that is too cautious, and often get thrown into that most horrible of places --- the friend zone.

I remember having a discussion with an old friend Edi about such things. She told me that "you'll always be single, because you actually are an honest to God, good man. It's not that you aren't attractive or that you lack personality, it's just that most women will look past you because your just too nice." I remember telling her that was a bunch of bull**** and that women want a man that will treat them nice, be affectionate, listen, and be devoted. But we had that discussion almost fifteen years ago, now I think maybe she was right.

(BTW Edi was married to my friend Rob, so she wasn't one of those women that just didn't realize)

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Sat 05/24/08 06:21 PM
You are really smart. I keep finding the jaded ones. They were ousted by their wives (long marriages) and picked up the first one that came along and they took him for everything. I come along...they love that I listen but I end up getting the short end of the stick because they have been burnt bad. Do you deal with the men with tons of baggage or are there good ones out there.

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Sat 05/24/08 08:03 PM
i ate them.flowerforyou

scotty1964's photo
Sat 05/24/08 08:09 PM
im aroundflowerforyou smokin

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Sun 05/25/08 03:35 AM
happy we meet again it must be fate-- or "topics"ohwell

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Sun 05/25/08 03:39 AM
nop........u love me........love

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