As a "nice guy" I cannot help but be the way I am. Because of this, I'm essentially living proof that nice guys do finish last. I have become numb to how things play because of this. My attitude has now turned to "be careful what you wish for" when the "bad boy" is preferred to the "nice guy."

If that makes me sound bitter, I can't help it. Apparently, attention and adoration to a lady doesn't mean as much today than it did in the past.

I have to agree so far this site or any of them have not brought out the best in men. I change my profile regularly just to see what attracts each type!

Well Hello Everyone! I just started my adventure on this site and I hope that I find a woman that makes my heart go pitter patter. I am on the back side of 40 and find all of this rather intimidating as I have been off the dating thing for around 18 years...lol It's just like starting over again. I just wanted to say that women are always looking for a nice guy and when one truly nice guy knock's on the door..... alot of times the woman does not open the door of opportunity. Hey, just a thought to keep in mind ladies. I and we are out here and we are looking ! I think that labelling yourself as separated is not a very good thing in a woman's perspective because I think that for her it might send up the red flag's. But hey, I am a decent, respectful, well mannered nice guy and I am willing to take that chance! I wish everyone here the best of luck and happiness ! I will find those eyes that smile back at me ! :)))

Here's one. :)

i am a good family man looking for a good wife and i just cant find one. all i am running into are a set of 9/11s ( disasters)help me find a good gal with no children.

They have been scared away by women

where can men find descent old school values women?i guess we good men will have to go it alone like george bush.

Stay in the forums and give it time.
Good things do happen. But first, you must weed
through the ones you don't find compatible.

Good luck to you all

Oh, Pat - you know you love us!

I've only been here a few days, but I'm already wondering the same thing.... I was not planning on making this a permanent home....

Come on guys. You are all new. Give it time.
If nothing else build great friendships.

You are correct in thinking that labelling yourself as "Separated" sends up RED FLAGS. It most definitely does. I've had a couple bad bad experiences from Separeted men... because they had not been through the healing process from divorce, etc.. The minute the divorce was final, they ran like scalded dogs....

This is not directed at any one person, but.....

It does take time. I don't know if people think that by joining a dating site, you're automatically going to get besieged with emails from other singles, or what the deal is, but give it a chance.

And, I would recommend not just sitting back and waiting for people to contact you. Take the initiative, message someone who interests you, do something proactive instead of reactive.

You get back what you put into it, you know?

Managing all my profiles on dating sites is getting to be like a second job!

But you are so good at it....

someone told me a hockey game would break out , THATS why I'm here .. oh yeah and DA BEERS

Huh, I had heard there would be cookies - guess we were both misled ;)

HIGH FIVE SISTA!!

Trying to find a "good man" in his 40's is like the search for BIG FOOT or NESSIE, rumored sightings but no confirmed evidence of existence!