Most women our age are not looking for us. They want a young hardbodied guy that they read about in the romance novels. We are used material and learned that the emotional part of ourselves can be turned off and we can live our lives alone just fine. The days of putting myself out there to be dumped on are thru. With the help of heavy drinking, there is no need to concern ourselves with a relationship, only to be dumped on. Maybe it's because that's the way women are in this part of the country, but this once apon a time door mat is closed for business.

Most women our age are not looking for us. They want a young hardbodied guy that they read about in the romance novels. We are used material and learned that the emotional part of ourselves can be turned off and we can live our lives alone just fine. The days of putting myself out there to be dumped on are thru. With the help of heavy drinking, there is no need to concern ourselves with a relationship, only to be dumped on. Maybe it's because that's the way women are in this part of the country, but this once apon a time door mat is closed for business.

I joined this site in hope of getting to know more people! and may be to find somebody to bond with and eventually to share my life with, but what is going on?? isn't there any body with the same view on this site?

Good men????? That is the question? Or is the question ladies? That no one really knows what they want or are willing to settle for a little less in one aspect or another. We all think we know what we want but when it presents it's self we shy away. I know I'm quilty. No body wants to settle for less than we feel we deserve. Hey we all have those rights. But don't let the good ones sail bye.

As far as my age group, which is old, I do not feel old (above 40). But it is what it is. Most or all of us have been divorce. Woman I hate to break it to you. The really good guys, are gun shy because they have been through the ringer in a divorce. An most good men get the shaft in that department. Now the bad men who do not see their kids and pay their support. An no offense are just losers. Well ladies you picked those men. An us good men picked the wrong woman.

In this day and age it is extremely hard to stay together. Hell everything is against you. The chances of a couple staying married is not good. I hope I find someone. I want to be with someone. But like I said I will not settle for less than I feel I deserve. I did that once it did not work. I did get a beautiful daughter out of it. She adores me and I adore her. But she will be grown and gone. I really do not wish to be alone when that time comes. I wish everyone on here the best wishes in finding that someone special.

What happended to the good men ages 35-55 huh? Well, part of the men that age will be completely jaded by now, either through lack of luck (like me) or because some other woman ruined him for the rest of you (i.e. divorce). That's just part of them though.

You see, a truly honest to god good man is easy to find, you probably already know one, but just can't see him. He's that guy that's attentive to you, helps you out when you need it, sometimes shows up with pizza and beer just to watch movies with you. Oh, you probably tell the gals "he's just a friend," but I bet if you asked, he's dying to go out with you. Now a woman's first response is usually "I don't feel that way about him." But in fact, most ladies just have never thought of having those feelings for that type of guy, and a friendship is a great place to start a relationship. So, that's where you find a few more of the "good" ones.

Another place to find them, church. I'm not saying become a religious zealot by any means. But some people need the inner peace derived from sitting in a large room with 200 strangers. Meditation helps no matter where you do it, but some need that. These good men, probably aren't even on the internet dating sights. Might not have the self confidence to do it.

Just remember, most truly good men have had some person in the past take complete advantage of there soft hearts, and then dump the like a bad habit when something that only appeared better came into view. These men will be cautious, emotionally conservative and rather quiet. They know they can be easily hurt and are less likely to put themselves into situations where it can happen again. If you feel you're having to wait for a guy to come around, odds are, he's a good one. Be patient, and a little agressive, you'll bag him.

at least i'm finally old enough to post in this thread.


btw, i'm a nice guy, 35.
but being a nice guy doesn't mean that i don't have standards.


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i've always picked the wrong woman. luckily they've always realized that i have no money and they split before getting to the church.
i guess i've lucked out.



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i am 34 going on 35, and i think i am a decent fellow do i count??

i've always picked the wrong woman. luckily they've always realized that i have no money and they split before getting to the church.
i guess i've lucked out.



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