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Topic: What happened to good men 35-55?
korre Joined Thu 05/21/09 Posts: 2	Thu 05/21/09 05:02 PM
hi how are u. where u from? im on vancouver island..im korre 41 and luvin it ...lol

frehley999 Joined Thu 05/21/09 Posts: 2	Fri 05/22/09 11:43 AM
I am new to internet dating thing so please baer with me. THere arer some good guys out there and some women. For example I am somewhat old fashion, yes I do hold doors open for women and etc. Alot of people like to play games, and that is childish. We all have been hurt that's why we are here. I wish you all the best of luck finding that someone special. I will have my photo up on monday or sooner.

oneofkindweirdo Joined Thu 05/21/09 Posts: 50	Sat 05/23/09 02:09 PM
I joined this site in hope of getting to know more people! and may be to find somebody to bond with and eventually to share my life with, but what is going on?? isn't there any body with the same view on this site? ...maybe your just being too impatient...I met someone here, when I was putting more effort else where....you only have been here long enough to have 17 posts, for goodness sakes women, give it some time and a chance, and recapture a upbeat attitude, sad, desperate, angry and forlorn do not attract men looking to better their life.....smile , joke....be the fun gal !!! ~wicked~ Oh Dear, i should say that am neither sad or desperate, that is why i don't go with anybody for the sake of having a man!! If you look around a lot of men with good attributes are either taken or are gay!! I am sorry but it is true.. the fastest way to not find what the kind of man your looking for is to say " men with good attributes are either taken or are gay"

steve6475 Joined Tue 12/16/08 Posts: 1	Sat 05/23/09 02:12 PM
In responce to the question" where are all the good guys between 35-55", we are still out here, sometimes you have to root out alot of weeds to get to the flowers. I'm 45 and have been married twice, both cheated on me but I'm still hanging in there and moving on, I still believe the right one is out there. Steve:)

garry0872 Joined Wed 05/20/09 Posts: 4	Mon 05/25/09 07:23 PM
You seem really sweet, but let's slooooowww down here a little, take a deep breath, count to 10, and then...ask your question again.

tobes23 Joined Wed 05/27/09 Posts: 62	Sat 05/30/09 04:53 PM
in answer to your question, in 1996 they were all taken to area 51 for experimentation. After the experiments had been performed they were inducted into the illuminatti which is such a secret underground organisation they are no longer able to show their faces.

nicklazaro Joined Fri 12/19/08 Posts: 5	Sat 06/20/09 01:42 PM
we are out there but you women arent interested you want the bad boy that will treat you bad soon as you get a good guy what you women seem to want you dont know what to do with them

paperplane Joined Tue 06/16/09 Posts: 368	Sun 06/21/09 07:15 PM
Nice guys are rare and, according to this thread, often not seen by women. This is because they are unlikely to get in your face. Decent men have thought through lifes relationship issues and do not define themselves by the attention they receive from women. They define themselves by their own acheivements. Have you wondered why women are so often in a relationship crisis when they are with men who are not shy or reserved...the one that swept her off her feet...the one who bullies her relentlessly with emotional games and controlling behaviour...the one who screwed three of her friends then begged to be able to come back? Because those men need the attention of women to feel fulfilled. They throw themselves at women (which adds to the illusion that nice guys are not there). Men who are that needy are unlikely to have considered how to actually make a relationship work. They are also unlikey to have a great deal to offer once they have chalked up another conquest. Nice guys may appear gay or taken because they dont pursue women the way that women have become used to from the needy tools. They are not gay and they are too clever to be taken ("owned"). They dont throw themselves at women because nice guys are capable of living life for itself and not for their partner. They are not dependent on the emotional crutch of a relationship. Nice guys are are rare and sought after. They are the coolest people on the planet.

whatssuup Joined Sat 10/25/08 Posts: 690	Sun 06/21/09 07:57 PM
Nice guys are rare and, according to this thread, often not seen by women. This is because they are unlikely to get in your face. Decent men have thought through lifes relationship issues and do not define themselves by the attention they receive from women. They define themselves by their own acheivements. Have you wondered why women are so often in a relationship crisis when they are with men who are not shy or reserved...the one that swept her off her feet...the one who bullies her relentlessly with emotional games and controlling behaviour...the one who screwed three of her friends then begged to be able to come back? Because those men need the attention of women to feel fulfilled. They throw themselves at women (which adds to the illusion that nice guys are not there). Men who are that needy are unlikely to have considered how to actually make a relationship work. They are also unlikey to have a great deal to offer once they have chalked up another conquest. Nice guys may appear gay or taken because they dont pursue women the way that women have become used to from the needy tools. They are not gay and they are too clever to be taken ("owned"). They dont throw themselves at women because nice guys are capable of living life for itself and not for their partner. They are not dependent on the emotional crutch of a relationship. Nice guys are are rare and sought after. They are the coolest people on the planet. As I was reading this I started to look at my own life and realized that this is true.

jeffreybenesh Joined Mon 06/22/09 Posts: 2	Mon 06/22/09 10:04 AM
im a good guy just cant find the rite good lady i dont smoke drink or well try not cuss jeff

Anonimoose Joined Sat 11/29/08 Posts: 479	Wed 07/01/09 08:46 PM
Nice guys are rare and, according to this thread, often not seen by women. This is because they are unlikely to get in your face. Decent men have thought through lifes relationship issues and do not define themselves by the attention they receive from women. They define themselves by their own acheivements. Have you wondered why women are so often in a relationship crisis when they are with men who are not shy or reserved...the one that swept her off her feet...the one who bullies her relentlessly with emotional games and controlling behaviour...the one who screwed three of her friends then begged to be able to come back? Because those men need the attention of women to feel fulfilled. They throw themselves at women (which adds to the illusion that nice guys are not there). Men who are that needy are unlikely to have considered how to actually make a relationship work. They are also unlikey to have a great deal to offer once they have chalked up another conquest. Nice guys may appear gay or taken because they dont pursue women the way that women have become used to from the needy tools. They are not gay and they are too clever to be taken ("owned"). They dont throw themselves at women because nice guys are capable of living life for itself and not for their partner. They are not dependent on the emotional crutch of a relationship. Nice guys are are rare and sought after. They are the coolest people on the planet. The problem is, the guys you talked about there (the insecure ones who throw themselves at women) are the same ones who are proclaiming themselves to be "nice guys" and loudly lamenting that they can't find a woman, so it must be a problem with the women that they don't want nice guys. If only there were another title the REAL nice guys you discussed could bestow upon themselves to differentiate themselves from those other guys ...

samvan Joined Fri 11/23/07 Posts: 8	Thu 07/02/09 04:56 PM
Speaking from experience, this is ever so true. We are out there. But unfortunately we are not seen as Anonimoose has so stated. We may not be the perfect 10, but we do try our best at whatever we try. Certianly like me, their ex's have spotted what they thought were greener pastutres and changed the field to chase those dreams. My ex has found they aren't so green. And here I sit, alone for now hoping that the lady who is looking for someone like me is out there and will find me while I am searching for her.

KimberUC2 Joined Sat 06/20/09 Posts: 125	Sat 07/04/09 06:01 PM
I fit your age bracket spring breeze. I am also new to this forum and very private on the internet so you will probably not hear much of me on here. I am very busy in real life these days. I dont think it makes me a bad person though just because I am trying to improve myself.

Anonimoose Joined Sat 11/29/08 Posts: 479	Mon 07/06/09 03:07 PM
in answer to your question, in 1996 they were all taken to area 51 for experimentation. After the experiments had been performed they were inducted into the illuminatti which is such a secret underground organisation they are no longer able to show their faces. I get left out of all the good parties ...

Zewi Joined Tue 02/05/08 Posts: 1331	Wed 07/08/09 06:27 PM
not 35 yeat give me 4 years!

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Wed 07/08/09 06:44 PM
Nice guys are rare and, according to this thread, often not seen by women. This is because they are unlikely to get in your face. Decent men have thought through lifes relationship issues and do not define themselves by the attention they receive from women. They define themselves by their own acheivements. Have you wondered why women are so often in a relationship crisis when they are with men who are not shy or reserved...the one that swept her off her feet...the one who bullies her relentlessly with emotional games and controlling behaviour...the one who screwed three of her friends then begged to be able to come back? Because those men need the attention of women to feel fulfilled. They throw themselves at women (which adds to the illusion that nice guys are not there). Men who are that needy are unlikely to have considered how to actually make a relationship work. They are also unlikey to have a great deal to offer once they have chalked up another conquest. Nice guys may appear gay or taken because they dont pursue women the way that women have become used to from the needy tools. They are not gay and they are too clever to be taken ("owned"). They dont throw themselves at women because nice guys are capable of living life for itself and not for their partner. They are not dependent on the emotional crutch of a relationship. Nice guys are are rare and sought after. They are the coolest people on the planet. The problem is, the guys you talked about there (the insecure ones who throw themselves at women) are the same ones who are proclaiming themselves to be "nice guys" and loudly lamenting that they can't find a woman, so it must be a problem with the women that they don't want nice guys. If only there were another title the REAL nice guys you discussed could bestow upon themselves to differentiate themselves from those other guys ... Cheers to you!!!!

LadyRomance1970 Joined Thu 07/02/09 Posts: 7	Wed 07/08/09 06:45 PM
They are out there. You just have to figure out what your version of a good man is. Stop looking for love. Friendship has to come first no matter what.

Averageguy1964 Joined Fri 12/05/08 Posts: 1710	Wed 07/08/09 08:14 PM
We are here, but it seems the ladies are looking for the bad boys.

mustlovetats Joined Sun 08/17/08 Posts: 21	Wed 07/08/09 11:07 PM Edited by mustlovetats on Wed 07/08/09 11:11 PM
The "good" women 18-24 wore them all out. [/quote/] by the time you guys grow up "the bad" women have ruined you

74Drew Joined Thu 01/22/09 Posts: 4901	Thu 07/09/09 01:42 AM
The "good" women 18-24 wore them all out. [/quote/] by the time you guys grow up "the bad" women have ruined you unfortunately, they've only ruined me psychologically. physically, i've still got the new car smell. . . .