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Age-old Marital problem
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Some people just like to complain about their lives.
If you do not want to hear it, just tell them in a nice way that you enjoy spending time with them but you are not going to hear about her problems IF she continues to stay in that situation. Married life is not bad IF you are with the right person. Some people are meant to be married and some are not. I always enjoyed being married but I now enjoy being single. To each their own!! 
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Children with disabilities
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If someone can not accept your child, would you really want
them any way? There are so many loving men out there that can not have children and who are open minded...never give up because you think someone won't accept your child. Why would you ever think that? You are actually being very unfair to so many men and to your child. Your child could actually have a new best friend and a new man in his life. My question to you, I am not trying to be rude, are you using your son's disability because you are afraid of starting over? THERE ARE A LOT OF PEOPLE THAT DON'T EVEN NOTICE DISABILITIES ONCE THEY FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE!!! STOP BEING AFRAID AND GO OUT AND DATE!!! |
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Topic:
Ladies A Question
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Every one of us prefer different types of bodies, IF we all liked
the same type...we would all be in trouble. I myself am a lot smaller now then I was in High School. I lost a lot a weight due to what they call the cancer diet. Not a good way to lose weight but it is what it is. I myself prefer a man to have some meat on his bones. BUT IF the man I happen to fall in love with wants to be thinner, it is totally his choice. I just want whoever I am with to be healthy. Life is to short to judge someone by a number. Life is to short anymore not to be healthy. If you are healthy and a little bit more on the heavy side and you are happy with yourself, God Bless!!! I consider myself still on the fluffy side but I like how I look in my clothes so if someone don't like...who cares, I do!! Confidence is what is sexy..if you have self-confidence, then you are doing good. If you are happy with you, keep smiling!!! |
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It depends on if you can afford them? I have 2 boys and
that was enough for me. I could afford 2 but no more. If I would have had another baby, I am sure I would have worked more hours to afford our family. Then you get to the point, how many jobs should I work? Am I spending enough time with my children? IF you have a lot of children and have to work 2 or 3 jobs to support them wouldn't it be better to have fewer children and work less jobs??? |
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I sure in the heck would not want someone in the 40's that has been married twice or three times with 5 kids. I would rather have someone who knows it just was not right for them not to be married. I actually have been married only because my mom pressured me to get married because we were living together and she did not think it was right. I wish I would have told her to butt out of my life and let me live it because we ended up in a divorce. I hate saying I am divorced, I would rather say I have never been married. I guess I have learned not to cave to what people think, it is my life and I don't care what anyone thinks anymore. Will I ever get married again? I might but he would have to be someone very very special and no one would ever tell me to marry him, it would be my choice!! Navygirl..what the heck do you mean you are not pretty enough to attract men? Sweetie, it is all about self confidence. You are very pretty...maybe you just don't want anyone right now? I applaud you for putting your career first!! I have self confidence in myself but not my looks. Guys keep telling me I am not good looking enough so what's a gal to do? Such is life. You actually have guys telling you that you are not good looking enough? Are you kidding me? I would hope that you kick their arses? IF they actually say that, they are rude little pr*cks and you would not want them anyways!! SMH |
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If a person cheats, the main person they let down is
themselves. It shows that they have no respect for anyone. Steve Harvey, who I watch all the time, says that all men are dogs and yes given the right time that all men would cheat IF they thought they would not get caught. SO THAT IS A GOOD QUESTION...WHAT IF YOU KNEW YOUR GF WOULD NOT CATCH YOU, WOULD YOU CHEAT? I have never cheated because I know how it feels to be cheated on. I want someone that can be with me and only me. IF they really want to cheat, I would hope they would have enough respect for me to tell me before they do it. Or at least break up with me first, I am not nice if I have to share....I do not share at all. I truly believe that women cheat as much as men do. There are a lot of women out there that will cheat on their mate and not give it a second thought. IF I am with someone and they have a mate, I tell them, YOU CHEAT AND I TELL IF YOU WON'T! They don't do it in front of me!!! HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR FRIENDS, DON'T GET THEM INVOLVED!!!! |
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I sure in the heck would not want someone in the 40's that
has been married twice or three times with 5 kids. I would rather have someone who knows it just was not right for them not to be married. I actually have been married only because my mom pressured me to get married because we were living together and she did not think it was right. I wish I would have told her to butt out of my life and let me live it because we ended up in a divorce. I hate saying I am divorced, I would rather say I have never been married. I guess I have learned not to cave to what people think, it is my life and I don't care what anyone thinks anymore. Will I ever get married again? I might but he would have to be someone very very special and no one would ever tell me to marry him, it would be my choice!! Navygirl..what the heck do you mean you are not pretty enough to attract men? Sweetie, it is all about self confidence. You are very pretty...maybe you just don't want anyone right now? I applaud you for putting your career first!! |
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I actually find it amazing that women would rather date
someone that has been divorced instead of never being married. I would rather date someone that has never been married then you have no ex drama. If you are over 40 and never married that means your gay? Seriously? WTH whoever came up with this is insane. Maybe they never found that right person.? It is better to take a chance and get married and then get a divorce? ARE YOU KIDDING? I would think that you would want someone that knew marriage was not right and they were holding out for the right person. A lot of people want to put their career first and I say good for you! You are smart for doing that before getting married and having children and leaving them behind. I say do not judge people when you do not know them!!! |
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Topic:
Emotional Cheating
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What the hell is emotional cheating? 
You either cheat with someone or you don't. Can I ask you a question, please? I am just trying to help you understand the term. Do you know and understand what emtional abuse is? It is when one person belittles and down-plays the importance of their "partner" (in quotes because you can't be a partner with someone who feels you are inferior). It is also called bullying. Just because one does not strike the other does not mean it is any less of abuse. It is damage that goes far deeper than a bruise. Emotional cheating is when a partner stops treating you as an equal and turns to outside stimulation, shutting you off from their life, but doesn't have the guts to walk away. They feel since it hasn't yet become physical, it isn't cheating. Yet you are 'cheating' your partner out of sharing in the joy and closeness that helps keep a relationship together. When you are in a relationship, your partner is the FIRST person he wants to share news with and should be the ONLY person that you turn to for physical comfort. Not the "hottie" from down the hall or a "friend" you knew from years back. What you've just described there was someone who's lost interest in their partner and would either have walked away or stayed and perhaps cheated. There is no emotional cheating. There is only cheating. You can either cheat or not. Cheating while you're with a partner that you've lost or are losing interest in is cheating. Nothing more, nothing less. Emotion is just a way that you feel. Which can range from any number of things. Especially when in a relationship. However. Emotion cannot be cheated or cheated on. Therefore emotional cheating does not exist. HAVE YOU NEVER HEARD OF AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR??? I GOOGLED IT FOR YOU AND HERE IS WHAT IT SAID: An emotional affair can be defined as follows' "A relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouse (or lover) that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage. The role of an affair is to create emotional distance in the marriage." |
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I have done the on-line dating thing for awhile...actually
had someone from New Zealand come here to Indiana and then I went there. I would never do it again because going out of the country and being able to move is almost impossible. Any time a man says they need money..I think they are a scammer..esp if they say they are widowed and can I please send it to their children and when they get back to the states they will pay me back. I will NEVER give money to anyone, I have my own family. I do not believe in LDR because you have to put so much into the relationship and have a lot of trust. Plus you do not get to spend one on one time with each other so how do you really know? Sure I went to New Zealand and he came here but how long could we both afford that? If someone is local, then that is great...BUT I am not really looking to date at this time. I have met some great people on here that is why I am still on here!! |
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Topic:
breakup
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It can be hard sometimes esp when he keeps asking me
why did we get a divorce. I know in my heart that I will never want him back in my life but he keeps telling me that he still loves me and nothing will change that. He is re-married and I told him to love his new wife and just be happy that I would even talk to him again. I guess sometimes we might be better off to walk away? If his out look does not change I told him that the friendship could not go on...I have not talked to him since his father's funeral. My very first boyfriend became a pest so I had to change my phone number. He called me and I was happy to hear from him, but I think he was looking for a place to live...I knew that was not going to happen. I hate being mean and changing my number but some people just don't get the hint! |
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Topic:
Poverty
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I do give to the Cancer Society because of my Dad.
BUT I truly believe that we have so much poverty here in America that we need to concentrate on our own people. It seems like they worry about other countries before they worry about our own country. Should it really be this way? ABSOLUTELY NOT! There are many families out there that can not afford to even feed their children and when I see it on the news that we helped another country...to me it is very upsetting. I think they need to focus more on the elderly and the smaller children. There are times when people have to pick between food and medicine...is this right? So stop sending money that we do not have to other countries and maybe just maybe we won't be so far in doubt!!! |
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I have actually had a relationship with someone from New Zealand.
I would advice against it unless you can pack up and move. I would have moved IF I did not have kids but I was not allowed to move out of the country. He had all of his family there and he decided he could not leave his family. I think it is a no win situation myself. You just end up with a big phone bill and a broken heart. It is hard enough to have a relationship with someone here in the states and they live hours away...then you go and meet someone 9000 miles away. NEVER AGAIN! |
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Maybe she just needed her yard mowed and her house cleaned?
To me, you sound to easy to be used by someone. Women do not like someone who will be under their thumb all the time. IF you had sex and said I love you, is that the only time you said it? Men are so good at this...why? Men think with their lower parts and women think with their emotions. When we say I love you...we mean it. It is not just because we are having sex with you. Men say it during sex just to make themselves not feel bad for having sex? I don't know, I guess I will never understand men!! |
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Topic:
Can you date a younger guy
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I have actually dated younger guys except for one man. I will say that I think older men are more settled down and are not into any kind of games. I myself always thought that age was just a number, I go by the maturity
of each person. I have a few tests that I actually give to my dates and they don't even know it. IF they can not pass those tests, then I drop them right away. Life is short so you should be with the one who treats you the best!! Good luck to everyone!!
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I don't know IF I had to straighten up someone's place before I felt comfy, I don't think I would want to be there. I have to admit, I am kinda strange about people keeping their place clean...if their place is not clean or it smells strange, I won't be sitting down any where. My Dad always told me...IF YOU HAVE TO SAY, EXCUSE MY MESS...GET OFF YOUR LAZY A$$ AND CLEAN YOUR HOUSE!!! So I would say that I am a clean freak...thanks Dad!!!
But I don't think it would be my job to clean someone's place...I don't live there!! |
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Topic:
SOCIETY sucks!
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Just remember this, if you are to thin..then you are anorexic but yet if you have some meat on your bones you are to thick. The main question is, are YOU happy with yourself? If you are, then who cares what anyone else thinks?
There is only ONE person in this lifetime that you have to please. That person is YOU. When you are happy with yourself, it shows. You have a lot more confidence...men think women with confidence are sexy. Hold your head up high and LOVE YOURSELF!!!! |
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dmckinnon...do you still talk now? Did you feel any kind of connection with this person? If you still like her, you need to talk to her and see how she feels. Maybe she is afraid to make the first move towards you?
IF you had a connection, never give up until they actually tell you that they did not have any kind of feelings what so ever! I don't think you have to much to worry about, you are a nice looking man with beautiful eyes....you will meet that right one some day. I hope you have the great personality to go with the looks! 
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My best:Before I say anything, I always ask myself is this going to hurt their feelings? I am very considerate, honest, and I am a very caring person...sometimes to caring. I think you have to have a special kind of heart to work with elderly people. I have always felt so comfortable helping them and working with them...they can't do it on their own.
My worst: When I want something done, I want it done right now. Not in a few minutes, that very second. IF it won't be done right then, I will do it myself. |
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Topic:
Need advice
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My whole thought process is this, why would you ask her for a kiss? That does nothing but make things so strange...IF you felt like she was inviting you in for the kiss, why didn't you just go for it? When you ask permission, IF there was that special moment, you just blew it all to he!!.
I don't know maybe you are trying to be a gentleman but please do not ask anyone if you can kiss them. That is like a trick question...if I say yes, then am I rushing things..if I say no am I being a prude. IF YOU ACTUALLY FEEL THE TIMING IS RIGHT, JUST DO IT. IF SHE DOESN'T SHE WILL TURN HER CHEEK TO YOU...THEN YOU KNOW IT WAS JUST TO EARLY!!! |
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