Thanks navygirl, I am glad that you are better from you car
accident. I know when you have cancer, it just takes a toll
on you. After that I ended up having horrible migraines and
my body is just not the same. I live a maybe life because I
never know if I am going to feel good or not. I can not make
plans ahead because of the migraines...I live my life day by
day.
I know my family does not understand when I say that I am ready
when the good Lord calls my name. BUT they do not live in my
shoes every day. Then my boys get very upset and tell me that
they want me to see their children and they need me. I know how
I felt when I lost my Dad almost 5 years ago and I still have
not gotten over it, and I doubt I ever will. But when you are
sick all the time, what kind of life do you really live? I just
can't make my family and friends understand that.
This is why I am not afraid of death, I know someone started a
thread about that a few days ago. I look forward to seeing my
Dad and step brother, nephew, grannies and grandpas, aunts and
uncles again. But until my name is called...keep smiling and
moving on!!!!

I do agree with you here, my Dad married a lady that was 19 years
younger and it did hurt their relationship when my dad
got older. He was ready to sit at home and do nothing and
she was still young enough to want to go out and do everything.
In the end they ended up getting a divorce but only after my
Dad had a head injury accident and he said that he never loved
her. We all knew better but he thought he still loved my
Mom. If anyone knows anything about a head injury patient,
you all go through he!!. It is very confusing for the patient
because they have lost track of time.
I have always said that age is just a number, but I now know
that I don't think I could keep up with someone who is a lot
younger then me. I have a lot of health issues and I would
never want to drag anyone into my life and my problems. This
is why I am here just for friends...my life is a maybe life.
If anyone is sick, they understand what I mean.

Just be yourself and be a good daddy!!
I am glad that I made your day, but I am sure that
you always make your daughters day! Keep smiling and
keeping your baby happy!! Good luck!

Honestly, I met an amazing man when my youngest was 9 months
old. He asked me out for a date and I told him that I would
ask my mom to watch him so we could go out to dinner. He
actually said NO JUST BRING HIM, IF WE ARE GOING TO DATE..THAT
LITTLE MAN WILL BE PART OF OUR LIVES. So we packed him up and
out to dinner we went. Not one single time did we have a date
unless we took him with us.
If someone can not accept your children, then you do not want
to be with them. In these times, I think being a single parent
is accepted with out anyone thinking to much about it.
I would say take them to the park and let them play, maybe you
will meet a nice single mom that is taking her children there.
Just because you have kids do not mean your life is over. There
are women out there that can not have children and would love
to meet someone that does have them.
Be proud that you are a single dad, take care of them the best
that you can. Always keep them clean, boys are harder to keep
clean then prissy little girls. You said that you only have
custody of your daughter...maybe you will get the son also.
I don't know if you are religious or not but if you are, take
her to church and let her meet new friends at church. This
will also give you a nice place to meet new friends.
SINGLE PARENTS RULE...WE HAVE TO FOR OUR KIDS!!!!
GOOD LUCK AND NEVER GIVE UP YOUR SEARCH!!!

Let me ask you a question, what are you going to do just walk
away from your daughter? NO I doubt you will. I am sure
that you will work your a$$ off just like every single
parent does to give their child the best you can.
You know what is hell? NOT having your child with you to
raise! Have you actually? stopped and thought about the
rewards that you get for raising your daughter? Or I guess
I should ask what is hell about raising your daughter?
Do single parents give their child every single thing they
want? Maybe not. BUT I will tell you this, single parents can
give as much love as their child needs. It is not like the
other parent won't be in their life, at least in my case.
My boys go see their dad often, sure their expectations would
be for us to get back together but they know that will never
happen.
What you need to do is thank God every day that you have
your daughter and you can teach her the right path to go
when she is on her own. Be there when she needs you and enjoy
her as much as you can. Kids do not stay small for long.
Good luck and I hope more single dad's really do not think
being a single parent is hell.

I totally agree!!!!

You have to be the real you or you are being a lie.
I had a friend that changed herself for every boyfriend
she had, in the end she did not know who she really
was. When you try to please the person you are with,
all it does is bring confusion to you.
BE YOURSELF...IT THEY DON'T LIKE YOU, THEN GO LIVE
YOUR LIFE.

OH WOW I BETTER HURRY I JUST TURNED 49

I don't know why you guys have to give the older women names.
I guess we need to start calling the older men something.
I will say this, I for some odd reason, enjoy younger men.
When I was 34, he was 21 and we had a relationship for almost
3 years. He wanted kids and I could not have any more so I
ended the relationship and told him to have children with
someone his own age. He still pursued me and kept saying
he never loved anyone like me. I HAD NO MONEY, so I know he
didn't love me for my money.
I have been in a relationship with someone 8 years older. It
was not fun and it was rather boring. I guess back then I was
young at heart and I wanted to have fun.
Now...I am very content with my life and I have been single for
many years. I think we go through stages just like men do. BUT
if a man dates a much younger woman, he is considered a stud
because OMG he can keep up with her. PLEASE...IT IS NOT FAIR
TO JUDGE WOMEN THAT DATE YOUNGER GUYS AND SAY THEY ARE USING
THEM FOR THEIR MONEY WHEN YOU SAY A MAN IS A STUD FOR KEEPING UP
WITH THAT YOUNGER WOMAN.

PKH...you got to love yourself before anyone else will.
What is not to love about you, you have a great personality,
your kind to people...you just need to get some confidence.
Men will be knocking your door down girl. I think we all
need to work on ourselves, we all have something that we
don't like.
Don't worry, things will fall into place in no time!!!

Actually it is 2:30 am in Indiana so it is your
birthday so:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY YELLOWROSE!!!
I hope you have a great day with many more years
of happiness coming your way.
Enjoy your day and God Bless!!!!

Welcome to Mingle, I hope you find what you are
looking for.

You need a little bit more information PLUS you need
to smile. It looks like you are totally ticked off and
if someone talks to you, you are ready to fight!
I hope you have fun and I hope you find what you are
looking for!!

I am actually not looking for love, if it happens
then I will welcome it. If it doesn't, I am very
content with my life the way it is.
Mostly what I am looking for is my best friend, my
best friend that I can not live with out. I will never
shut my heart off to love, I just won't go looking
for it!!!

Of course all the men go by looks. I think
you need to update your profile and put what you are
interested in and what you are looking for.
The men just care about what you look like. Typical men!!

Rawr...I hope you are feeling better? You have been in
my thoughts and prayers. Quick healing and God Bless!

Each person is different, I never dated while I was
going through my divorce. I thought that this was time
to figure out what I wanted to do, figure out my next
step. I honestly was scarred and I didn't want to bring
any king of baggage with me to my next relationship.
I wanted to fix ME, I needed time to mend. A lot of
people think that they are mended when they get their
divorce but you are not, trust me..everyone needs time.
I think it took me about 2 years to feel like I was ready
to date again. Then I actually had a friend that worked
with some higher up people, he checked my guys out before
I even dated anyone. I put anyone that I thought about
dating underneath a fine tooth comb.
I never lied to the guy, I actually told them that I was
going to run a background check on them. If they were not
ok with that..I did not do it but I did not date them either.
I figured they had something to hide.
I won't date someone who is married or even split up, because
I know that they need that time after the divorce to get over
being alone. They think it is going to be easy, it really does
hit people harder then they think it will.

Oh I am not offended at all. I was explaining that not
everybody on here is here for dating. Even some that are
on here for dating don't want to post their pictures. I
am sure that if the met someone that they really were
interested in, they would send a picture to that person.
But not everyone has to see each person and that is their
right to keep their identity private.

I did not realize that we tell guys how we feel.
Are we suppose to do that? Wow I guess that is how
I must have got married all those years ago and had
two kids and then got divorced because I told him I
was done? Now I remember how to tell them how I feel.
Esp when I said to get out of my house, I don't want
your skanky a$$ any more!!! Then my life was good.
SEE TRUE LOVE DOES EXIST AND THEN FADES AWAY!!!!

This is not true! We have had people come on here
and actually say that they are married and want to
have an affair. There are people on here that do NOT
want to date so it is not a law that they have to put
their picture on here so what is the big deal?
It is a freedom on choice if someone puts a picture up
or not. Rude, how is it rude that someone don't put a
photo up? Maybe they think it is none of your business
what they look like or maybe they have a job to where
they work in the public eye. So please do not be naive
and think you know it all you are new and you will learn
this is a good group of people.