My husband (were separated) cheated multiple times with emotional cheating. Long talks & all day long text back and forth.

My perspective is that it takes away from the bond of our marriage if he's giving another woman his attention. He makes withdrawal's from our marriage but no deposits - he kinda checks out when in this mode.

What's your thoughts on this?

Agree. I don't share. My Heart,Thought, attentions only belong to Him. No one has the right to be there!

Mental and emotional attachment can be very strong..JMO

I think any withdrawal of attention from a relationship is hurtful,, whether it be given to another woman, or to a good friend, or to a family member

it usually signifies a need to work on our bond

,,I dont consider it cheating though,,,cheating is much harder to work through because of its physical element and the potential consequences and risks that person has brought to the relationship through their actions


,,,thats just me though...

For myself emotional cheating hurts more than physical cheating.

(((Jack)))...I thought about not posting because this issue hit my world two days ago...Someone I love was devastated when she learned her husband was participating in an online flirtation with a woman he described as "a friend from his past"...His actions have created doubt, compromised trust, and left this woman feeling hurt and insecure about the validity of her marriage....His deception destroyed feelings of love and happiness replacing them with feelings of animosity and loss...I agree with Jack, emotional cheating, like emotional abuse, is often more damaging than physical cheating....

What the hell is emotional cheating?
You either cheat with someone or you don't.

I think some expect a 'monogamous' emotional attachment,, that is, that one should never feel anythibng about anyone else but them ,,,thats 'emotional' cheating,,,

I dont feel confident with assuming how people 'feel' , I think that is between them and their conscious, so I Tend to deal more in actions,, and get upset with physical cheating,

If a couple is married, emotional cheating is just as hurtful as physical cheating. But for those who are not married, it is not cheating. You can not cheat on a partner if you are Not married to them. Imo I don't care whether people agree with me on that are not.
That is why Marriage is more a committment. Most men talk to several online women.

You are exactly right, cheating is cheating..Like most things, there are different varieties of cheating..Having monogamous emotional attachment in a marriage or relationship DOES NOT mean a husband or wife cannot have feelings for another person, it means they cannot exhibit or act upon those feelings in any way that would undermine the stability of the marriage or relationship....Flirting with a person behind your partners back would be one example of emotional cheating....Also, this example would constitute emotional cheating regardless of the cheater's feeling toward the person he or she was flirting with....

It doesn't bother me if my boyfriend/partner/husband has female friends, but I'd rather he only have one girlfriend. I'm selfish that way.

Who the hell isn't!!?!

AGREE!!!!

There is a huge difference in having just a friend. Friends don't get hidden. When a spouse hides, lies, deletes text - something is wrong.

Not to mention they become bonded in the play and it moves very quickly into sexting.

It's destroyed our marriage & yet he does not have anyone to got to because it was all a game.

And I agree it is emotional abuse.

Time to file for a divorce!!

Time to file for a divorce!!


It's been really tough because I love him dearly. But I know I can't trust him, and so it is.

It's been really tough because I love him dearly. But I know I can't trust him, and so it is.


{{{{{Cher}}}}}...Sorry for your pain!

Ahh thanks Leigh I am a bit of a time bomb right now - but its gonna get better.

In other words,
they think humans should all become androids and robots.

Sorry to burst your sci-fi bubbles but there's no way to possibly not feel anything about anyone else other than one person ever.

If you're that insecure and controlling about your relationship than that shows that you have trust issues and that you're more than likely the problem unless you have evidence of the other person cheating or lying.

the persistent theme is loss of trust

I feel people are perfectly capable of having great friends of the opposite sex that they are fond of and still be committed to their relationship

if these things are out in the open, I wouldnt consider it cheating,,

although there are some actions that can be 'disrespectful' and out in the open,,,

if its INTENTIONALLY hidden, then there is an issue of deception,, which then makes it into an issue,,,

sex with someone else,,,a no no for me,, open or not,,,