First of all, welcome to Mingle!
I honestly don't think you can find your soul mate on line.
When someone gets on the computer, they can be whatever they want to be. It is very sad but there are a lot of people that try to scam you and ask you for money.
I don't think you can actually fall IN love with someone until you meet them face to face and spend time with them. Sure they can make their self sound really amazing but how do you know that they are telling the truth?
After a while you start looking for the red flags, it is truly sad that you have to do this...but you do. I just wish that when people would talk to others they would just be honest from the beginning because sooner or later, it is going to come out in the end.
Good luck and just be cautious!

No love is not enough for a relationship to survive. There are so many different things to make a relationship work and you have to be IN love that is for sure, but there is a lot more then being IN love that goes with it.
You have to have trust, communication, honesty, empathy, money to survive, be a caring person....I could go on and on.
So my answer is NO LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!!! I have been IN love with someone before but if the rest is not there, what you have is a love/hate relationship. If you get into one of those, they are miserable! Don't walk away but run!!!

Hey Shadow..welcome back, I have not seen you for a bit!

I think you should just take all the time you need. IF you did not take time after the relationship then I don't think you got rid of the old baggage. I know when I got my divorce, it took me over 2 years to even LOOK at another man and not think OMG I HATE GUYS! LOL I had a lot of baggage with my marriage and I did not want to bring it into a new relationship.
I now have not dated for about 4 years but that is due to my health issues. I just don't want to bring anyone into my life right now.

Oh I would have been upset over this. I would consider this very rude that he left me sitting there worried not knowing what was going on. How much time does he actually need with his friends? You have to stop and think do you have any respect for how I feel, it would take less then one minute to text me.

I think if someone can not accept anyone's child, they are not worth your time. You are always going to have your children so the other person has to realize that kids will always be a part of your life.
Just keep going and being a good parent, the right one will come a long.

If I met someone I loved would I give up everything but a suitcase full of clothes? This is an easy one for me..NO, I just bought all new furniture and new tv's. I will not give up my home, and relocate EVER again...this time the man will be doing the moving!!

I always look at things this way, an ex is an ex for a reason and I won't give them another shot. I keep looking forward and never look back.
I guess it depends on who dumped who IF they give you another try?

I forgot to share my first love, sorry!
Yes I do remember him and I don't think you ever forget them.
He actually called me on Mother's Day after not talking to him for years. We talked for a long time and then I knew he was up to his old tricks so I got rid of him real fast.
I do hear our song and I still think of him. He was my first everything! I am glad that I did meet him and our relationship lasted about 3 years. I was young (19) and stupid and thought I was IN love but now I look back and that was not love. It was puppy love that is for sure!!!

You broke up with him because you heard he was flirting? IF you are in a relationship, you can still look and flirt just do not touch. You can not control someone's life and say do not look and talk to other people. Do you realize that just because you are in a relationship that everyone you date is going to talk to other people....that is part of life. It sounds like you do not trust him at all.
I think if you are that jealous of him, you should just let him go. Jealousy is going to kill any relationship you have. TRUST is a big must to have in any kind of relationship, even friendship. If he is dating someone else, let him go. You sound like you were going to smother him because you did not trust him, you would think after 2 years you would know him by now.
Move on and let him move on!!

I remember when my son first went to school and I thought wow I am going to be so bored and lonely. HA, I think that lasted 1 day and I thought ENJOY THIS TIME!!!
Now both my kids are in college or gone and I am going to enjoy my "ME" time!!!
Just relax and enjoy your enjoy your new freedom. Just flow with the time because they are growing up!!!

Some people are not on here every day so you have to remember that they only pop on here every few days. Make your self known by visiting in the community and people will notice you there.
If you send emails telling someone that you think they are good looking or hot, I promise you..they won't answer you back. People get sick of one liners!!!

I think maybe if you live in the same country, maybe. I am not real fond of LDR..but if you only live a few hours away, that is not bad.
Now if you fall in love with someone that is 9000 miles away, like I did, it is never going to work. It cost way to much money to keep flying back and forth and the phone calls are terrible.
I must have been crazy to think I met the man of my dreams on the other side of the world.

I ACTUALLY FORGET WHAT THAT IS!!

You are as old as you feel...age is just a number. Live and love while you can! Do you think you are to old to fall in love? I think anyone can fall IN love at any age.
Good luck in your search and get out there and find you a nice lady!

I think everyone just has preferences...but I always say never leave anyone out. You never know who you might pass up that could be the person that you could fall for.
I sure hope that 50 is not a cut off because I will be 50 next year

I know this is suppose to be for the guys but I must say something. Ladies, you can not tell me that when you are out with your girls you don't sit there and talk about a guy when he walks past you. When we use to go out, we use to judge how nice looking their butts were so lets just be honest here, we do the same thing they do.
Sure we do it out of fun and we are not planning on leaving with anyone BUT we still do it. BUT the men eat it up, they actually stop and end up talking to us and asking why was you saying a number when I walked by? LOL so that is a good way to meet a man!!
But honestly I look for someone with personality and if they don't have that, forget it!!!

Honestly, a lot of people think they have to put their best foot forward when meeting someone for the first time. Why? Be yourself or you are not being honest. Do not try to hide who you really are. If you are a nice guy then great but if you are not a nice guy, then don't play like you are.
One thing I do NOT like is a "yes" man. No matter what you say or do it is always yes dear. WTH? To me they are fake when they are a yes man and they are trying to hide something.
The way I look at it, I am who I am...if you don't like it, keep walking. I really don't remember saying I actually needed anyone in my life, I am not fake and I refuse to let anyone walk on me. IF I know they are a liar, I will tell them exactly how it is. LOL I am me!!!

I think you have a good profile and nice pictures. I think you could add a bit about what you are actually looking for in a woman? I mean you put down specific thing but you did not put down anything that you really are attracted to in women. Plus there are a lot of people that will not go to another web site to check out your other profile.
So if you really want people to know what is on that site, just copy and paste it to your site here.
I do hope you find what you are looking for. Good Luck

My take on this was that he was flirting. He was trying
to get your kids to like him so you would, that is a way
to a mom's heart is through her kids.
IF you liked him, go in there and give him your number.
Or go back in there and see if he remembers you and get
your nerve up and say HEY..HERE IS MY NUMBER, CALL ME
SOMETIME IF YOU WANT!!!

I have a best friend and he is a guy BUT I would feel strange doing half of those things with him. I actually let him stay here for a few days and OMG he drove me crazy, he was messy and lazy! BUT I made him sleep on the couch, I do not share my bed with anyone.
I call that more like a "sex buddy?"