A question for the ladies how much importance is a mans weight, I ask because over the years like a lot of men my age I have added on quite a few extra pounds (I do exercise however and attempting to take the weight off).

I have noticed with woman they are lees judgmental about physical appearance then men are, I actually receive compliments even though to me I am not as attractive with the extra pounds, most compliments are in the area of the way I dress, I am a very neat person and take pride in that one of my female coworkers once stated a woman can be attracted to a man simply by the way the man carries himself his manner of dress and most importantly smell,I use quite a few men's products.
I always assumed women went more for the athletic looking males, which I use to be in that category,

I admit to being self conscious about my weight since most of my life I had an athletic body, however I still seem to be attracting not only women but some very attractive and fit ones, I was in a university yesterday which was work related and I was hit on by a very attractive professor about 13 years younger and in really great shape.
I have noticed a lot of attractive women with much less attractive men is this more of an ego thing with women to date men less attractive then themselves, oh by the way my ex was a former model, (not bragging only making a point), but I was also a bit above average in the looks department, my ex once told me a woman does not like it when her man thinks he is more pretty then herself, I admit I was a bit conceited in my younger days, just couldn't pass a mirror without looking in it, lol

For me it's not about weight...but health.

I worry about the health of the people I love. It's no guarantee for a healthy life, but it's easier to hang on to the illusion that they might be with me for a long long time if they eat fairly healthy and exercise to keep fit and agile. I don't believe in nagging because it's their decision, but I do worry if I think they are becoming a health risk to themselves.

I can't imagine one day having to feel like I lost the love of my life to a...Twinkie.

Yes, this.

Well, also... some of us are more attracted to guys who are average/fit than we are to guys who are overweight. Though if a guy is trying to lose weight or get in shape and making progress, then I'm definitely supportive. Been down that road myself, and I'm still on it with not far to go.

I'm active, and prefer a guy who can keep up with me or at least try.

But also...it's not realistic to think that anyone over 40 is EVER going to look like they did in high school.

So quit looking at the pictures of your football days...it just aint gonna happen.

We can still be fit though.

Seriously, yep!

I only know a a very few people who at 40 or 50 have the same kind of physical shape they were in at 18. (And for those peeps I always want to ask them where they keep the painting... )

I call bs.

I look better now than I ever did in school.

(Though I never played football....I am straight)

right....

Well, very few people can say that. Good for you.

I think it's different for women though. If a woman is in prime athletic physical condition in high school, she can feel even fitter as she matures, but she will still need a safety pin to get back into that cheerleading uniform.

I am good with safety pins.

Just sayin...suck it up and wedge back into that micro mini....I am good with it.

:)

46 with a 6 pack..then again, dad had an 8 pack at that age, its all in the "genes" baby!

what you get in the jeans is all the genes.

So if your eating healthy with exercise then we are who we are, that woman hit on you for a reason,

there are many woman that love heavy set men, the so called "chubby chasers".

My last girlfriend was like that, her longtime boyfriend was built like that and she'd tell me that was

a turnon for her & she was only just 5'4" 116lb and a very pretty woman.

So men like you are allways going to attract these woman.....some woman want to marry men in jail?

So its different strokes for different fokes.

keep in mind some man should have just as good and possibly a better incite that a lot of woman

depending on how forthright he and his females friends are and quantity of contacts.

Its not luck you need, if it ain broke then dont fix it

Yeah, the time I actually tried that ended badly.

Let's just say it started lying on the bed with a wire hanger and ended with a stuck zipper and pair of scissors.

If you're confused, just ask any woman who wore skin tight jeans in the 80's...they know how to use a wire hanger!

I think it's all about connection. There has to be an attraction too but if you're a slob, probly nobody gonna want you. If you hit it off with the right person & you like what they are inside, then you like just as much on the outside:)

I actually never used a hanger to zip my jeans in the Eighties... then again, I think I weighed all of 110 pounds in 1989...


Dammit, those were the days! On the other hand, if I only weighed that now, I'd probably look anorexic or worse. I have almost that much in lean body mass alone now... so I'm not complaining!

I've lost 30 pounds since Christmas. Eighteen in the last 9 weeks. Yes, guys are starting to notice me a lot more. But, the best part is how I feel.

Weight is not something that I notice about a guy unless he is obese. My boyfriend has lost about 40 pounds in the last 6 months. He looks great. But I think he looked great before.

That's about what I weighed too, but still needed a hanger to get into my 0's.

I was actually thinking the same thing. I could do 110 then, but if I tried it now I would look like a starving waif or a crack hoe.

That's awesome Ruth! Healthy is not a pant size, it's a feeling and state of being. I'm so glad you're feeling it. Don't you want everyone you love to feel so good?

Exactly!

I would say I prefer athletic men more, but only because I like to go running, and like a guy who can keep up. They are good for exercising with.

^^^This too.^^^

I wouldn't see much of him if he's a couch potato.