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Topic: FWB Question
Fade2Black's photo
Tue 02/10/09 08:44 AM

Friends With Benefits.. for me means.

2 people that are very close, have NO intent of marriage, want limited ties/boundrys, what happens behind closed doors, is nobody else's business. I see/hear of it more with the 45 & above age group. Life set's some major complications for relationships, within that group. Marriage can not be poss. for many legitimate reasons. FWB, allows for life to continue, just on a different level.

Edit after reading some of the other's remarks

TOTAL & ABSOLUTE respect for eachother is necc. for it to work. It is NOT a Booty call situation.
Really your "personal integrity" comesinto the situation. TRUE FWB or just using someone.

BIG DIFFERENCE



Interesting Don. I've never heard anyone refer to it with such involvement. hmmm

Most people have FWB for sex reasons only. It's easy (for both parties) when you aren't in a relationship just to keep from going sexually insane. ie .. a 'booty call' WITH a friend to keep from using Bob?

No matter what I'm personally not able to do it. Sex belongs in a relationship for me.

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/10/09 08:46 AM
Thanks Sea.... not about myself though. Subjectivity breeds idiocy in my case. laugh

unsure's photo
Tue 02/10/09 09:11 AM
I have never done the FWB thing at all, it scares me. I tend to find out from my friends that someone almost always gets hurt even when the rules are laid out from the beginning.
Let me give you an example: My friend had a FWB and they were doing this for about 5 long years. One day he called her up and said that he was engaged!! Now how can he be engaged when the deal was IF they started seeing someone else seriously or sleeping with someone else...their FWB would end. Of course my friend was totally ticked off, I couldn't blame her!!
He would use the "L" word with her during sex and she would just let it go because she thought it was just said because the heat of the moment type of thing. The bad thing was, she was already having feelings for this guy but never said anything.
So I honestly think that FWB is not a good thing to get involved in..someone always gets hurts!!!

Seakolony's photo
Tue 02/10/09 09:31 AM

Thanks Sea.... not about myself though. Subjectivity breeds idiocy in my case. laugh

You know that little thing about being to close to a situation, the forrest for the trees type of thing.

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/10/09 09:36 AM


Thanks Sea.... not about myself though. Subjectivity breeds idiocy in my case. laugh

You know that little thing about being to close to a situation, the forrest for the trees type of thing.


Yeah and I'm asking for an aerial view here in this thread.

It's funny because I do not think I've ever been so, bare before. So I obviously care.

Seakolony's photo
Tue 02/10/09 09:39 AM



Thanks Sea.... not about myself though. Subjectivity breeds idiocy in my case. laugh

You know that little thing about being to close to a situation, the forrest for the trees type of thing.


Yeah and I'm asking for an aerial view here in this thread.

It's funny because I do not think I've ever been so, bare before. So I obviously care.

A realization through a thread, it happens. yes you obviously care. I think it is hard not to care for another human being even in an FWB. Just be sure its not caring for the wrong reasons.

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/10/09 09:42 AM
Right now, it's self protection I think. I put myself out there before and got hurt. I treat him, except for the sex, the same as I do all my other friends, and maybe even less giving so as not to present any conflicting or non friend intentions.

Seakolony's photo
Tue 02/10/09 09:49 AM

Right now, it's self protection I think. I put myself out there before and got hurt. I treat him, except for the sex, the same as I do all my other friends, and maybe even less giving so as not to present any conflicting or non friend intentions.

Take a look around the room, dear. We have all put ourselves out there and been hurt. What is your risk and what is your reward??? Is it worth placing myself out there again?? If I don't, I do not reap the benefits nor do I get hurt. If I do, it could possibly be the best thing that ever happened to me or it could be the worst of them all. Decisions, decisions, hmmmm? What is it about my past that pushes the decisions I make?? How do I change my stars?? All valid questions and all unanswerable by anyone, but the individual.

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/10/09 09:51 AM
Okay if you were standing here I'd punch your arm for that one... silly!laugh

Seakolony's photo
Tue 02/10/09 10:03 AM

Okay if you were standing here I'd punch your arm for that one... silly!laugh

Seriously, I just looked at my nudges to see if I had been kicked....laugh

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/10/09 10:07 AM
No you are right on the money. It would be good natured. I lose my sunglasses while they are on my head, ya know?
:tongue:
I promise I will post on this thread after the dinner Friday. I loathe it when people do a thread and then there is no follow-up.

RKISIT's photo
Tue 02/10/09 10:09 AM
is there such a thing as a FWBT?bigsmile

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/10/09 10:10 AM

is there such a thing as a FWBT?bigsmile


Friends With Benefits Thread....:banana:

RKISIT's photo
Tue 02/10/09 10:11 AM


is there such a thing as a FWBT?bigsmile


Friends With Benefits Thread....:banana:
well that isn't what i meant but since your so excited about it i'll stick with that answer:smile:

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/10/09 10:12 AM



is there such a thing as a FWBT?bigsmile


Friends With Benefits Thread....:banana:
well that isn't what i meant but since your so excited about it i'll stick with that answer:smile:


No tell me.. I was just playing...

RKISIT's photo
Tue 02/10/09 10:13 AM
nope ..ain't gonna:smile:

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/10/09 10:17 AM
I refuse to beg. We are just friends, not FWB....laugh

RKISIT's photo
Tue 02/10/09 10:20 AM

I refuse to beg. We are just friends, not FWB....laugh
pitchfork if we were you'd recantpitchfork

DTHRomeo's photo
Tue 02/10/09 10:25 AM


Okay if you were standing here I'd punch your arm for that one... silly!laugh

Seriously, I just looked at my nudges to see if I had been kicked....laugh


I thought you wanted one Sea :tongue: laugh

Seakolony's photo
Tue 02/10/09 10:28 AM



Okay if you were standing here I'd punch your arm for that one... silly!laugh

Seriously, I just looked at my nudges to see if I had been kicked....laugh


I thought you wanted one Sea :tongue: laugh

Even if I didn't I suspect I got it anyways, LMAO. That is okay I probably needed a good swift kick in the A$$ to keep me stright anyways, thanks.
:smile:
Romeo, Romeo, where for art thou Romeo????
laugh rofl

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