i doubt you'll be able to go back to being just friends. someone's gonna get hurt.

i think you should see how the sex is with me and then maybe we could get something started.
j/k

you're in a tough spot and it really all depends on your feelings.

i do not envy you in this.

Drew..... I posted his words so you could interpret them for me? I know it's a lot to read, could you do that for me?

what in the hell is your va jay jay doing to this guy

if i'm assessing this correctly, you put yourself out there first and he wasn't ready. Then, you backed off and you guys took a break and changed the dynamic of you relationship. Now it seems that he's putting himself out there and saying that he has feelings for you.
i understand that you've put a lid on your feelings. i think you need to ask him if he's just trying to tell you what he thinks you want to hear.
this is like a pendulum swinging back and forth. eventually the pendulum stops and reaches a state of equilibrium. the question is whether you'll be together at that point or apart. speculation is not something that a relationship can be built on. people need to be honest and upfront with each other.
you need to decide how you truly feel and ask him how he truly feels. leave the alcohol out of it.

Liliths va jay jay

But he's not putting himself out there. Not at all. If he were, he'd tell me he wants to talk. Not get tipsy and made a random love comment that was not followed up on. Do you think he will say something at dinner? I mean... I guess if he now wants to change things, I need to think about that.

What do you mean telling me what he thinks I want to hear?

My web browser prevents me from seeing 99% of all pics....

and then

Oh lilith...your missing the best...pink floyd...the flower scene

Stop. I see red X's in a box. Nothing else.

FWB! I'm so stupid. It took me a little while to decode what it stood for...dur..nyuk, nyuk.
For my immediate neighborhood FWB seems to mean fat white b!tch. Kind of like a trailor park Reubens painting.

1. Both parties must be either single or in open relationships.

2. Exes you are currently friends with make ideal booty call partners. However, if one party broke the other's heart, pursuing a booty-call arrangement is a no-no (at least for 24 months).

3. If you're not having fun, then by definition, it isn't a proper booty call.

4. Just because the sex is casual doesn't make it an appropriate topic for casual conversation. Be discreet.

5. Don't assume that duration implies relationship progression.

6. If you feel yourself getting emotionally invested, don't convince yourself that he's feeling the same way. In fact, as soon as you notice those feelings rising without reciprocation, end things.

7. Don't use someone who has feelings for you as your casual hook-up. Imagine how you'd feel if someone did that to you.

8. Even if you're not sleeping with anyone other than him, get STI tests regularly. (You don't know who else he might be having sex with.)

ew baby don't leave me now

you said that in the past he's told people what they wanted to hear at the time.

i can't tell you exactly what he's thinking because i'm not him.
i can tell you that if i had been dating a woman and then we broke up ( i don't know who instigated the break up), then we went into a FWB situation, if i still had feelings for her i would be reluctant to express them because of the possible negative response i may get.
so he let it slip after some liquid lubricant, it doesn't mean it isn't a truthful statement. and you not saying anything in response to him saying it is probably why he didn't mention it again.
when people aren't honest with each other the things that go unsaid do more damage than if they'd been said.

he said the l word and you ignored it. he was trying to get a read on you and you gave him a blank response. of course he didn't bother to bring it up again. you could have done anything to signal a response. if you were lying next to him you could have moved in closer or pulled away. either would have been an obvious gesture. but a blank response is a negative response.

feel free to msg me directly if you need to talk more.
i have to go to bed now.

i hope you figure it out.

do you live near me? 'cause i swear that's all i see here.

He ended the dating. I instigated the FWB.

Honestly, I spent so much time thinking "did he just say he loved me?" that the window to respond passed. Plus we were both tired, and tipsy, and it was so late. I was stunned.... it came from so far in left field I didn't even realize we were in view of the field....

So far, all the advice I've gotten so far is to continue to do nothing...??

But my one friend says he is incapable of sustaining adult relationships and this will crash and burn.

FWB

I feel it is a great situation as long as it is amongst two adults that can handle the division as well as the infusion without attachment

It could be a catastrophe if one of the member becomes attached and gets their feelings destroyed in the process

And everyone needs to remember on both sides that both parties will have negative and positive reactions to both the coming together of this type of friendship and the splitting of it in the aftermath

And what do you think of this particular FWB situation?

(I don't usually share this much....)