So tonight, my mom and I go out to this little hole in the wall Mexican restaurant for a late dinner. She orders a chimichanga and I ordered a big California burrito. Well we finish dinner, and she didn't end up finishing hers (nor did I). I wanted to take it home, since she didn't, but she wouldn't let me! She gets all upset, saying you don't do that and all this, and even kicking me under the table a couple of times when I refused to drop the matter.

Then I told the waitress to box it up anyway, and she tells her to throw it out, several times over before getting up to pay, and then walking out of the restaurant leaving me there by myself, forcing me to apologize to the waitress for what had happened, and making me walk home alone. We had walked there anyway but that's beside the point.

I don't get what the hell the big deal is about this! It's just food for crying out loud, it's not poison, or got cooties! This isn't the first time we've gotten into an argument over this either.

There's never any peace around here I swear! Her and I always clash over something, be it this or something else. My grandma is the same way too. Just constant bickering!

Maybe there was a hair or a bug in it and she's trying to save you from it. Why are you arguing with your mom in public anyway? You should've dropped it before there was a scene.

Did you ever think it was time to leave home.

relax, it's far from the end of the world. Get away from them for awhile if you have to.

exactly

such a silly thing to cause such a scene - i'm sure the root of all this is bigger than leftovers, perhaps you all should seek some family counseling.

I'm not one to drop things like that, particularly if I feel it's not a big deal. I've always been that way.

Sorry, kiddo, I can't help you out. You should thank your lucky stars that you have your mom around AND that she'll take you out to eat.

Yes it does run deeper, I hardly ever get along with my mom or grandma honestly. Heck that's part of why I spent so much time on my computer, in my room alone as I mentioned about in my earlier poem. It's easier then trying to deal with them.

I know, I know, but it's not exactly feasible for me right now. Got no job, don't drive, etc.

Get your own place.

Instead of trying to calm the waves, you run too the beach? Perhaps you shouldn't get so worked up over simple issues and let them be, on the same side of the coin you should talk with your mother about these issues.

You are 20 - why no job, no license?

if there was a hair in it she should of told him while the waitress was away.... sounds like a bit of an outrage to me.... how embarrasing.... most people that are 20 would take their food home if it was good.. so they dont have to cook the next meal or if they are broke and it doesnt take just young people to do that... . maybe she didnt like the food? still its your food lol... i think it was a abnormal outrage... and i would of been embarrased too i would never do that to my kids....nor would i want my mother to do that to me

I'll give you a little hint that I learned over the years. My mom has always driven me nuts, too.

First off, you need to realize that she's been around WAY longer than you. She's lived through MANY more changes in the world than you. She's been through more heartache, more irritation, more EVERYTHING. Whatever little annoyances you have, she's had them at least tripled. Yet she's dealt with yours without throwing fits for the most part.

You are going to have to take responsibility for what YOU can change, which is YOUR interpretation. Your reaction to the way she behaves. Your perception of the entire situation.

That's the only thing YOU can change. If you take her dislikes and quarks into consideration and work around them, you'll begin to see a difference in how she reacts to you. This is how you change people around you. You change yourself.

Also, pick your battles. This seems pretty grade school to get upset about. So she wanted to waste her food. Get over it.

Just haven't done it, have had the permit for a while, but haven't really practiced. My mom never seems to want to take me, and my dad lives on the other side of town so I don't see him that often now.

As for no job, well I admit I do get lazy sometimes, and when I do apply I often don't hear back.

so get a job.... use your computer time looking for work.... or go walk around and look while you are getting outta the house yea must be time to move on to bigger and better things..

Easier said then done. I just cannot stand how wasteful people are with food, it drives me nuts.

So what's your plan? To hang out at moms' for the rest of your life? Dude, wake up and take charge of your life. It's not healthy to live the way you do.

you dont have to have a drivers license to get a job at most places.... you can take the bus or walk.... then move on to the drivers license