I tried...I really tried...

Feel the same way, sometimes. Hugs to you. I've given up on it myself, but have much hope for others around here, you included. Try not to get discouraged, you are young, there is time for you to find someone special. What's that old saying about having to kiss a hundred frogs or something?

Sounds as if the child knew quite well how to operate the gun. Seems he must not have learned to respect life, though...

Welcome!

I'm doing O.K. so far, thanks for asking.

I'm not convinced a child of 11 (the age this boy was when the murder took place) is cognitively and emotionally able to comprehend the value of life or the finality of it. I think I did at that age, but I was taught the value of life from a very early age. I'm not so sure adults share that knowledge with kids as they once did. It started with my mother helping us return baby birds to their nests. It started with being required to care for and nurture our pets. It started with watching my mother care for my terminally ill grandmother in our home. I understood very young the importance of another's life...not just to them, but those around them.

I, too, believe this child needs to be held responsible for his actions, but at least in a juvenile court there might be a chance for him to be redeemed. Sadly, I think 3 people are lost, now. The beautiful young woman, the child who never had an opportunity to live and now this boy. Very sad for that family and those who loved all 3.

I wonder, do you think he is some type of beast-child? I don't know. Anyone remember the old movie, "The Bad Seed"? Do children like that truly exist?

Marriage??? I don't think so...

Burnin' Down the House

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xNnAvTTaJjM

One of my all time favorite bands. Have nearly everything David Byrne has done, but some of my favorite songs those done by Talking Heads.

Bigotry, prejudice & intolerance.

Ultra-conservative political & social views.

Dislike for animals, kids and old people. (I understand someone may be uncomfortable around them...could understand why someone wouldn't want a pet or a child themselves...can't understand why someone would blanket-ly (is that even a word???) dislike them.)

No interests in common.

Someone much younger than I.

Good grief, no!

Did ya hear the one about me drivin' my lawn tractor?

I've heard tell of a few around here somewhere that were looking for someone like you, but they seldom show up in the forums. Good luck

Countless times...
Ever flown a plane?

A week.

Ever flown a kite?

(((ED))) - Hi, my friend...

Beautiful, but made me a bit melancholy...

Lemme re-think that 'sit down and talk' idea.

Ya know, there are enough everyday, ordinary problems that can tear a relationship a part. This doesn't sound like a good situation...nor one that will be resolved. The best to you...but as someone else said, I'm glad it's not happening to me.

Well, this is certainly 'quotable'. Nice. And for you misstina

Oh, do I know how you feel. Always wanted a crystal ball myself. He!!, who am I kidding. I wouldn't have been ready for much of it anyway...and I would have probably done the same things in the hopes of changing the foreseen outcome.

Welcome!

Maybe a 'sit down and talk' is in order? Caution, though. You are going to have to be willing to hear some things that might be unpleasant, and you'll have to answer those things with a great deal of tact (something I run short on on occasion...). You will need to keep your own accusations to yourself while listening to theirs and their concerns.

Just a reminder...you will be talking about their daughter...someone they will always have a mental picture of as a fragile, innocent baby who they've nurtured and protected for many years. If you keep their reality in your head, you may be able to talk through this. Might help to express that you are wanting only what is good for this young woman, too.

Not advice, here...just something for you to consider. Best of luck!