I been on a couple of first meetings over coffee that I seemed to be the one that had to carry the conversation, maybe he was nervous or just not interested enough to make a effort.Th last "date" I went on, we were supposed to have lunch together but when he told me he hated his work but been there 32 years and his ex was crazy. I excused myself and just left (I bad). I just got a bad feeling about him and just couldn't see myself dining with him.My ex used to call me crazy and stupid and put me down so I think that's why I just got a bad feeeling, if you can't say anything good about your ex just don't say anything at all until you know the person better. I'm not looking for a "beauty queen" (lol) but they have to at least have a sense of humor, be able to communicate, and have a good outlook on life.

Sorry just had to vent! So infuriating that people don't realize how hard it is to stop in the snow and especially walking with their children in the street.

Yea! We got snow! The temp. is in the 10's and the snow is going to stay at least a couple of days. It's cold out there, but I like it, what a nice surprise for Christmas season!Last night leaving work I had to drive home in it (that's ok I have 4x4) but there were crazy people out there walking down the middle of the street with their children, Hello! That's what sidewalks are for, do they have a death wish? Inclement weather brings out the "crazies" like the ones who when they hear there's a storm on the coast go there and stand out on the rocks to see the "big waves" DUH!!!!!

I agree with that.He was the one that asked me to meet for lunch. I don't think it was because he decided that I wasn't worth paying for lunch.Because we were going to meet again for a real date.He did have to travel a ways, but there were some "red flags", and the distance thing.

OK, It's that time of the year again. Anyone have any New Year Resolutions for 2009? Mine is I'm going to live this coming year better than last. That about covers it all,and of course I have a couple of New Year resolutions that I'm not telling:happy : blushing: :

First meeting! Ugh! I agree with Carold if they're interested they will do the asking, and then when they suggest we should meet in person I usually opt for a "coffee date", and I prefer it be dutch, but if he offers to pay for my coffee he gets bonus points.Why bonus points? Shows that he is a gentleman. One first time meeting I went on the gent asked me to lunch then when we went to the restaurant he said he didn't eat lunch (said he only ate one time a day and that was in the evening). I ended up ordering a appetizer and diet Pepsi he ordered coffee and I paid for it.But that was ok, just that why invite me to lunch then tell me "I don't do lunch"?

I'm not a "hater' either, whatever life throws at me I just learn from it and move on and try to make the next day better than the last. Hating is so much negative energy and it only affects you, the person or persons you are hating probably aren't all that concerned about you "hating them. Happy Holidays everyone.

Lawdy! horsegirl ya made my evening! I'll take one of those!

Invisible! Love that sign, "cockroaches getting cancer", too funny, maybe that will finally make them extinct, they say cockroaches are invincible.

Well! I changed my profile to say friendship, but that's because if I say relationship, or activity partner seems like men get the wrong idea, now I just ask them upfront, what are you looking for in a relationship? Like the fella that emailed me recently he answered that he was looking for a woman who was aware of her "sensuality and womanhood" uhhhhhhh......I took that to mean if he pays for dinner he expected something in return

Iknow what you mean july I like living alone and having my space and my own "schedule" but sometimes I get to feeling lonely and like you say I let my guard down. But I've learned through trial and error to keep the wall around my heart up and I've learned that it's easier to just walk away from a relationship that just not right than to stay and be miserable. It's kinda sad that we have to be that way, but if we don't look out for ourselves who will?

Great plan Rainbowtrout! You can't have enough friends

Ahhhhh, yes I have dated, and been contacted by a few of those.motowndowntown I'll have to read the book you mentioned. Thank you.

Not dating, just chillin', taking my time.Sometimes I feel it's not worth the effort.

Cold, but no rain........yet

In reading profiles sometimes I'll come across the statement "no game players". OK. So what exactly is a game player? I'm sure men and women have different ideas on what constitutes a game player.

Thank you everyone for your comments and suggestions on my post. You are all a great bunch of people.

The other day I ran into my ex-boyfriend. After we exchanged howdy-do's he said to me "can I ask you something?" "do you hate me ?" I told him, "no, I don't hate you" then he said well I never see you anymore, and so I said well I work different shifts and been pretty busy, have a nice Christmas and then I walked away. Honestly, I don't hate him (such a strong word) I just woke up and realized he wasn't what I wanted in my life (he's a functional alcoholic). But I'm glad that he could have closure and let him know that I have no bad feelings that we're not a couple anymore. I have a feeling that he's going to try to get back into my life, because I have heard from friends that he realized he made mistakes in the way he treated our relationship (his drinking buddies had first priority)I admit I made mistakes also, I should of realized that he is an alcoholic and drinking will always be more important to him than any normal relationship,we only seen each other on weekends, but after a while I started to recognize the signs that he had a "drinking problem".To tell him I don't want to date you because you're a alcoholic would be futile because most alcoholics are really into denial.Anyway I just thought I'd post this because it really empowered me that I was able to honestly say "no, I don't hate you".