In reading profiles sometimes I'll come across the statement "no game players". OK. So what exactly is a game player? I'm sure men and women have different ideas on what constitutes a game player.

I"m wondering about the same thing.

To me a player is...A person that acts like they care for you but is actually out for your money or possessions. They have no intentions of a relationship from the very start. Hence..they are a player. They play games for their own benefit.

Also, a player is someone who uses your emotions to get finge benefits and really doesn't care about you. Basically a JERK!!!!!!!! Can not say the other words that come to mind would get kicked off.

A PLAYER IS A USER!!!!!!

I am pretty sure we all have met one of these!

Everything in my profile is real. I believe in honesty

A game player is someone who talks about meeting but has no intention of following thru...Examples ..1 give me your number request but never calls......2 Meet me in the chat but never shows up ..3 Meet me at a coffee shop but never shows up...4 Listed on several chat sites as different people

THAT PLUS THEY LOVE TO WORK THE NUMBERS.... CONTACT AS MANY MEN/WOMEN AS THEY CAN WITH NO REAL THOUGHT AS TO HOW THE PERSON MIGHT FEEL....MAKES THEM FEEL IMPORTANT LIKE A NOTCH ON THEIR BELT!!

There is a book called "The Game" by a guy named Neil Strauss. It's all about pick up artists and the games they play with people. I don't think this is where the term comes from, but basicaly these guys make a game out of getting woman, however it turns out that they are also a bunch of screwed up losers and have a hard time making any kind of real emotional attachment to people.

I agree with all of the above. Definitely met several of them.

Ahhhhh, yes I have dated, and been contacted by a few of those.motowndowntown I'll have to read the book you mentioned. Thank you.

In my many years of experience I think I may have seen it all. On the 3d sites I been on I have seen people play many games from being very personable and then sucking you in playing on your sensitivity and emotional needs and then leaving you crushed, deeply hurt or feeling totally confused. It not just saying they want to talk on the phone or meet in person. I not saying all men or woman are like that but many prey on people thinking that because they here they are emotional insecure or in a bad marriage looking for a way out. The best advice I have to offer is just be yourself and never lower your standards just cause you on the puter.

I agree with you, never lower your standards.

Hi lonewolf, I see we are from the same state.
Glad to meet you. Hope you like meeting friends because there is a lot here on mingle.

Ditto to all of your comments music

Lower my standards??? What for???

Well I find most that say that have there own games. Just like ones that say friendship yeah right :)

Well! I changed my profile to say friendship, but that's because if I say relationship, or activity partner seems like men get the wrong idea, now I just ask them upfront, what are you looking for in a relationship? Like the fella that emailed me recently he answered that he was looking for a woman who was aware of her "sensuality and womanhood" uhhhhhhh......I took that to mean if he pays for dinner he expected something in return

euphoriaholic good for you!

Unfortunately they come in all shapes and sizes, and a few of them are not that easily to spot. Often when you find out you fell for one, you might be deeply involved already, and that is when you get hurt.

Invisible! Love that sign, "cockroaches getting cancer", too funny, maybe that will finally make them extinct, they say cockroaches are invincible.