How’s this for originality? I think we want different things.

Longterm, compatibility definitely. Short term, Love.

In my mind, a long term relationship is sustained by having a range of common interests not saying that love isn't important but it's the commonalities that enable longevity.

Definitely not.

I find it a nonsense that too many women look at society to validate or define “beauty”. In my mind, it’s very much in the eye of the beholder yadda, yadda yadda.

The 'glass ceiling' isn't just a metaphor for gender inequality in the workplace, it's also used for race as well. Bare in mind that women (and men) of colour in the fashion, film and beauty industries do not always start on a level playing field. Which is why film makers such as Spike Lee, John Singleton, Iman (in terms of makeup), Oprah and many others have tried to redress the balance with varying degrees of success.

Steps off soapbox

Me either

Although I do take it as a compliment that black women (in his mind), aren't considered as passive It's hilarious

Not changed me but it has strengthened my resolve to not settle and talk to people that I wouldn't have otherwise chatted to stateside.

Make the investment because it'll be reciprocated.... tenfold.

It was good to hear from you.

We kinda loss touch but that didn't mean that I wanted to call things off...I just didn't/still don't know you well enough

I don't necessarily believe in marriage but I do believe that if someone goes as far as to make that kind (or any form of) commitment to another person then it should be honoured and both parties remain faithful.

If that isn't possible, then the unfaithful person should have the guts to dissolve the relationship making the ending as painless/drama free as possible.

Cheating is cheating regardless of orientation and/or marital status.

Happy belated Tiger xx

I'm not a traditional romantic.

I don't always appreciate so called romantic gestures unless they're unexpected and original and having been in a ltr with someone that made me feel like Cruella de vil if I forgot a birthday and/or anniversary hasn't helped.

That's a tricky one...I don't think I told my parents that I had a boyfriend until I was about 20 and that was one of the serious ones. They didn't know anything about the ones that didn't make it to the 'serious' stage.

It may just be that she recognises her strengths and knows that she’s not a supportive person in the scenario that you've outlined. It doesn’t mean that she’s the wicked witch of the West, it just means that dealing with situations where she needs to be sympathetic or empathetic may be hard for her.

In a lot of cultures, it’s sometimes frowned upon if a man shows any sign of what is perceived as a weakness. Men are not supposed to have emotional issues or require emotional support from their sig other. Yes, I know it’s a nonsense but it exists.

I actually know a guy that gets emotional support and advice (among other things) from his mistress because his wife just sees him as the hunter gatherer and isn’t interested in seeing him as just a man because that’s what their culture dictates.

Idk, I’m just playing devil’s advocate...personally, anytime someone strops off and sleeps in another room and starts making a big deal out of something so minor...it’s the beginning of the end.

Differing cultural beliefs and values are a lot of reason why interracial (assuming that yours is) relationships breakdown.

Who says we can't multitask!

It's missing from mine as well as isn't listed under 'settings'.

Previous recipients of msgs that I have sent have responded without having shown up as having viewed my profile – unless they’ve been using stealth.

I had assumed (perhaps wrongly) that if you were replying to a msg in your inbox, you bypassed the profile view thing.

Anyway, I think this guy’s playing silly buggers because he constantly shows up as viewing my profile without having replied to or sent a msg.

It's about context.

You can't (always) take something that is said for comedic value as self belief.

Don't mistake friendship for more than what it is

I wasn't meeting men that I wanted to date through usual channels (clubs, pubs, dating parties etc) and I wanted to see if I would meet like minded people online.

Why do you read my profile every time you message me you? It’s making me wonder whether memory loss should have been listed in your profile as a medical issue .