Super condensed version as I am on my phone.

She wants kids, I don't but kids wouldn't be for a few years down the road. I don't want them due to bad childhood and fear being a horrible parent. Said I would be willing but this issue needs to be resolved so I though we should be open about it because it would take time to overcome and I would need her support. She just gets angry and goes to sleep in another room. Next day she is still upset and basically said not to talk to her about my problems and go to a doctor instead.

We are not yet engaged. This is the same attitude if anything I feel conflicts with what she wants. Trivial case is she asks if I want to go to a party on a Friday after work in a week and I say I don't know because we don't even know when or what kind of party. She would go either way but got mad because I said I don't know. Stated I would go if she wants me to, but says she doesn't want me to go just because she wants it.

So basically big and small issue examples of same problem. The big issue is making me wonder if this relationship will last. If you can't count on your significant other to be there for you when you have a problem then who do you count on? Am I overreacting?

No your not overreacting. Because commucation is the most important thing in any realionship. An if you can't about the small stuff, whats going to happen about the big stuff. I will tell anybody that are truely wanting to stay togather go to a counciler You both need to know how to commucate with each other, without getting angry. Good luck with it all.

Well, if I am reading it right, then it sounds (to me) like the relationship won't last. Thing is, when you are with someone and you have a disagreement on anything, you need to come together and work things out. Not get mad, sleep in another room, and then stay mad and tell the other to go the doctor for help. That's just wrong man. She should understand your concerns and help you with them in any way she can. And you also need to understand her side of things. How come she wants kids now? What is her side to this? Just going by what you posted, I would say you guys will have issues and the relationship won't last. But that's not to say that you two can't fix it.

This is true, Goof and I had to break it off because he loves Twilight, and I don't.

Sounds like she's not good at communicating. If she's like this before you're engaged, chances are, she will stay like this no matter what. Relationships are tough when both people cannot communicate well and work out issues.

She doesn't want kids now. She wants them in the future. This is a deep seeded issue for me so I thought we should tackle it earlier as it could take over a year or so and she brought up the topic of kids randomly. I mean I know she wants kids and that's why I am bringing up the issue and trying to get a resolution started. I know it's important for her, but it's important for me to not be afraid to talk to her about stuff because I fear she will get mad at me.

Nothing wrong with seeing a therapist. It shows that you really are wanting to work at it. Which is more than I can say for other types of men :) Does she get angry easily? Is she angry all the time? I just wondered, is all.

wanting and not wanting kids is a big issue - something that should have come up in the getting to know one another stage...funny thing about having kids is that after having them you can't imagine life without them - rarely do loving folks ever regret having kids if that can sway you

The real issue isn't the kids issue for me. The issue I have is the lack of support. How can I explain this... When you know someone is upset that you care about and you have a desire to comfort them or help them. She just doesn't seem to have that. I am all about communication and have had to be cause I don't think I would be around today if I kept everything inside. When she is upset I actually am unhappy and wish to make her feel better. I think this is a common feeling with people in a relationship.

Sounds to me that neither of ya'll want the same thing in more then one area...

Also looks like her only way of dealing with issues is to walk away mad...therefore seems both need a bit of help since neither can communcate very well..

If she walks away mad on every issue then it is either her way or no way....she needs to learn to give some instead of receiving all the time..

It may just be that she recognises her strengths and knows that she’s not a supportive person in the scenario that you've outlined. It doesn’t mean that she’s the wicked witch of the West, it just means that dealing with situations where she needs to be sympathetic or empathetic may be hard for her.

In a lot of cultures, it’s sometimes frowned upon if a man shows any sign of what is perceived as a weakness. Men are not supposed to have emotional issues or require emotional support from their sig other. Yes, I know it’s a nonsense but it exists.

I actually know a guy that gets emotional support and advice (among other things) from his mistress because his wife just sees him as the hunter gatherer and isn’t interested in seeing him as just a man because that’s what their culture dictates.

Idk, I’m just playing devil’s advocate...personally, anytime someone strops off and sleeps in another room and starts making a big deal out of something so minor...it’s the beginning of the end.

Differing cultural beliefs and values are a lot of reason why interracial (assuming that yours is) relationships breakdown.

Her actions would be a deal breaker to me. Is this how you see your future?

There are two sides to every story. I would like to know hers.

You're just upset cause Robert Pattinson does it for me.

If someone told me to go sleep in another room, I would not be there when they woke up. I believe if you have a disagreement you need to work it out right then and not go to bed mad. IF my partner always walked away from me when they were mad, this would drive me further away from them. If you don't have communication with the one you love now, believe me it will be twice as bad after you are married. Once you get married it seems things always change. It sounds like she is a "me" person and has to have her way all the time and if not, she becomes a bully.
IF you do not want kids and she does, trust me this IS a big issue. Her wanting children is not going to change and you NOT wanting children is not going to change. Right there is a big deal breaker...I see all kinds of red flags and I am not even in the relationship.
You have to have honesty and communication...I think you lack both!!!

BOTH of you should see a therapist, since you've mentioned its not just about kids/no kids. Kids will only aggravate the other issues

I'll tell you what I think it is.

She has herself a man and he likes her and likes to have sex with her. Now she wants to remake him into exactly what she wants.

What she should do is find a man who wants to have kids instead of trying to manipulate the one she has.

Don't see a therapist. Just find someone more compatible.

For men: Don't let a woman manipulate you just because you dig the sex. Think about how you would get along if there was no sex at all in the relationship. How long would you put up with her angry manipulation and pouting fits then?

Christmas sure came early this year. Spank you Goof.

Though direct and short, thats a very honest answer, best one minute therapy he could receive... and yet filled with insightful wisdom.