writter....I have talked to him about it..

It was one of the reasons I was fed up with him and left a few weeks back..just one of the many reasons...but thats another thread! :p

Whenever he appologized for acting like an idiot and begged me to come back he said that he would try harder and work at holding me and kissing me and not being afraid of the PDA. ( public displays of affection)

He has gotten a bit better...but...as far as affection goes he and I are polar opposites...but he has made progress...

I guess what Im trying to figure out is would i be settling if i stayed...knowing that I need more from my partner?

Or if i stayed would I just be working to make the relationship stronger...and better...it has improved quite a bit from when we first started seeing each other...

I dunno if this would qualify as a settle....

ya know?

PATSFAN...it is complicated...and i wish it were simpler.

Don't we all have an image in our minds about who will sweep us off our feet?
In each of our minds there is a perception of who we want to be with. There is also a perception of HOW we all want to be loved.

How I want to be loved may be different from how YOU want to be loved.

Now....here is my conundrum....

When you are with someone and you appreciate MANY of the aspects that make up that individual...you like the way they walk..talk..smile..joke...ect ect ect...You care for them greatly...but there is one problem....

You don't like HOW they love you....

I don't know how to feel about this. I really don't like how he expresses his love....he barely does express any feelings at all on any given day to begin with.

He has told me he loves me...but he is not the snuggle bear and does not exude sentiments of sweetness....its just not how he rolls.

In his mind a guy that is sensitive enough to show his emotions and whisper sweet nothings in my ear...he must be gay.

thats his stand on this...and he's not budgging.

I want to know...is it wrong of me to not appreciate how he shows his love?....I think it blows...I don't feel like I'm getting what I need from the relationship....is this selfish on my part?

Am I?

Idunno....I refuse to settle...would I be?... if this is just how he is and it never changes? would I be settling on my part?

I'm trying to be realistic....I don't believe in the "love at first sight" thing...soul mates?...not so much...twin flames?...yeah..I thought perhaps we are...

I dunno if you wanna comment....any input is welcome.
Why can't love be simpler?
Like when I was 20.
I love you...
you love me...

simple as sh...it....
*sigh*....

adventurous and personable

I swear....If I ever meet this man....I think I would have a merry christmas....just put me in the tub with him for an hour...Merry Christmas to me...and to me a Good night! :D

ugg...my pic don't work...grrrr


ta hell with it...

I guess I would be asking you first how many txt in a day do you send him?

and how many does he respond to?

If he is only respondig to half your txt...then he probably wants you to knock off half of what your txting to him per day.

Or simply ask him how much is too much...I'm kinda blunt like that..I wanna know whats up and what the heck I'm doing wrong.

I would talk to him about it.

texas.....in real life i do believe anyone could do better....

dating sites again can't convey human intimacy. The simple bush of your hand on hers is enough to send a signal that your extremly interested in her...and she will respond...sheesh...if I go to a club or gathering I have no problem getting guys attention if i seek it out...( i typically don't seek it out )...but it is much easier to get a guys attention in person.

i would assume it would be the same for you concerning woman.

Texas....its the fact that people can hide behind their computer.

I am willing to bet that half the people you e-mailed are not even lookng to get your number...they are killing time on the dating site...or they are taken...fake profile?...or they just want attention.

So the other half you email would be a more accurate number for producing percentages on who is an actual contender for your attention.

You meet someone in person they can't ignore you as easily. Your in their face...your looking into their eyes...so...perhaps it is the delivery...the personal delivery. You can't knock the power of eye contact when you speak to someone. Its powerful...and intimate...a computer screen is the farthest thing from intimate.

This is the problem with the "free" dating sites...I have yet to try the sites you actually pay for..but hey..you get what you pay for?...

...I think?? :p lol

Hey it has happened to me as well. He either is already taken and wanted to see if he could "catch" you....he needs an ego boost...or he is married or in an exclusive relationship with someone.

....or.....who knows...perhaps you thought you hit it off with him...but he was not as into you as you were him...

check this movie out.. www.hesjustnotthatintoyoumovie.com

there are so many variables on this...lol....I am sorry your going through it...but I think we have all been there.

I wish I could be of more help to you....

I have to say...What he said could be taken as the "tap dance" so to speak...

However, The guy I am currently with ( as much as I'm unsure about my situation because its still very new ) We started out as friends...and we ended up in bed...and as the days passed we kept seeing each other more and more...till I was practically his roommate. He kept telling me he didn't want a girlfriend...He liked being single...But he kept asking me to hang around.

So...as the days pass he and I finally had a HUGE blow out...two actually in 3 days...I took my crapolla out of his place and said c-ya!

a week later he begged me to come back..how much he missed me...wanted me in his life...how he wanted me to be his girlfriend...how much he needed to treat me better...blah blah blah...

this was recently...so..here I am now officially "IN A RELATIONSHIP".

he didn't think he would be tied down with anyone and here I am.
I thought he didn't care about me but here he is.

I still have reservations about him....but again...its new and we are still learning about each other.

....my point being- sometimes when you start seeing someone it turns into something you NEVER expected...sometimes in a goood way...sometimes in a bad way.

Take the good with the bad.
be friends.
see where it goes.

Who knows....worst case scenerio you may be able to get him tipsy some night and get a little :D

j/k......kinda :p

Respect.

Trust.

Friendship.

If we click, I would think love would eventually be there if the other three are there.

LMFAO!....

Dear Santa,

I have been extra extra good this year....


please leave him by the tree....just like this...

LMFAO!!!

Well..from what your describing...it sounds like he was late for his audition for happy days....


....by like 50 years....

I'm not sure what I am...

I'm trying to be "taken"....

I'm seeing someone that I'm just not certain it will work out..we get over one huge mountainous hurdle and here comes the next one...

I've never worked this hard at trying to understand someone and be with them.

I guess at this minute in time...I'm taken...but not sure for how long.

I'm curious as to what you percieve as being "geek".

Was he just physically unappealing?

Did he talk about star trek all night?

Did he bring you a matching pocket protector?

Were his geek friends in the corner of the bar staring at their fellow geek brother sitting next to a female?

Did he just simply stare at your cleavage all night?

Was he trying to set the christmas mood by burping the song " Noel"?

Please elaborate about your perception of "geek"....this would be helpful. :)

Sooooooo much better!!

you still look hot....but your not showin too much...awsome!

Now...to top it all off...if you could take a pic of yourself with a suit...or a tux...omg...you would have soooo many chicks e-mailing you...thats HOT!

If you want to find a girl who has it together and is not into playing games...first step would be to put your shirt on.

Seriously...if you advertise yourself in that manner your just going to get the game players.

If You advertise yourself as a player you will get the players.

There are many girls out there that do not want to play games and are looking for someone to take time to get to know them and hopefully find someone that is a match.... *cough cough...ME*

I wish you luck....Beleive me I understand its hard to find someone that you click with and you enjoy their company....and trying to find someone that is all done with the silly juvenille games is tough as well....its just not the woman...

quality men are in short supply up here in Michigan...*sigh*....

good luck hun!