Would you like your partner to be possessive?

Nope.

It's not really a good personality trait.

Possessive of what?

of/about the other

I'm not possessive of a person.

once in awhile it would ok.

Definitely no.

No, it can mean a lack of trust in a relationship in my opinion, and could lead on to something worse such as becoming controlling, involving constant text messaging, not a good situation to be in. (The 1971 film "Play Misty For Me" shows is a very very extreme example of infatuation, possessiveness and jealousy, ending in murder.)

Does she give a really good hummer?

Most definitely not.

Possessiveness is unhealthy in a relationship.

No. Very unhealthy, and extremely unpleasant.

Definetely not. Nobody should own another person.

Possessive of what exactly?.

It would be ok for shot bursts, say monday and wendnesday evenings, perhaps over the weekend maybe...

so yea You need a bit of possessiveness, it shows you want them.

better than " yea do what you want, whatever"

IF someone doesn't give a fig at *all* whether you flirt with, or go out with other people..I wonder how much they really care/ are interested in you..
I had a guy I dated for months back in 1979....he'd mentioned living together/ getting married, so..he was pretty serious, I *thought*..
His younger half brother saw me at a bowling alley, bowling with a league that a guy I had met at a Halloween party invited me to (we got to talking, and found we both liked bowling)..
Meanwhile, the guy I had been dating had pouted because I wanted to dress up and go to a Halloween party..he wanted to stay home and hand out candy to the kids...and expected me to do he same.
(He was 4 years older than me and had a 4 year old daughter)

Anyway....this was a week later..and, the half brother said "I can't believe what I am seeing..."...didn't make a scene, just acted a fool quietly..
I told him "well, go tell Joey about it....(they only loved 4 miles from this place)...
I never saw the guy again...he never called me again...
I heard he'd said "well, I guess if she wants to date that person rather than me....OK.."
Which was fine, as his complete lack of any feelings about that made me lose all interest in him.
(P.S. I was 18...he was 23..and that incident was the only time I had gone out with someone while dating *him*, so..wasn't like I had a pattern of doing that)

No

To a degree, sure. But no more than I'm comfortable with.

If I were lacking in self-esteem, I would love it. Fortunately, I don't need to settle for a toxic relationship to validate me.

Possessive = sense of ownership.
This feeling is not expected where human beings are concerned. If we admit that we are individuals, it's imperative that we possess individuality. We are basically incapable of being owned. Thus we cannot be possessions.
However, this is not in contradiction of being loyal or faithful.

Possessive, sure ok. It's better than jealous or controlling.