I want my fish net stalkings back when your done with them.


:puts on lipstick:



I totally agree it's a funny double standard if you ask Me strikes Me as funny as how Men are good enough to bed with but when the chips are down and they seem worried they are down graded to sperm donor hmmmmmmm? I see it time and time again these "Friends with benefits" crap blow up in people's faces

I never said he was downgraded to sperm donor. He might suprise me if it turns out I am and step up, and that's more than welcome here. He'd be the FATHER, and if he wanted to be a part of it he'd be welcome to. I wouldn't try to force him.

I personally find it funny that men see women as good enough to sleep with but when the chips are down and the man is scared of her being pregnant how she suddenly turns into just some hoe he banged...

Ya see how that one can be turned around?

It can be turned around of course but only one of them can be true, this is generally decided on who started such a relationship.


::gives REd his fishnets back::

::Tries to clean off the nail polish ::

Ok, well you have to think of others not just yourself. He clearly isnt ready to have a child and doesnt want to feel the guilt if he does get your pregnant......so go easy on the guy. He at least is being honest and maybe you should protect yourself better and be responsible if youre going to have sex with who ever.

Hey You made your bed and you can lay in it, all I was saying was he was generally worried and Ya what if You really are pregnant this isn't high school and will go way beyond "Friends with Benefits" You both had a verbal agreement.

Something you're all forgetting, I'm NOT PREGNANT! I'm being as understanding, more so than most would be, as I can with him. I KNOW he's scared, but it takes TWO! I can't get myself pregnant, Goddess knows if I could I would have a long time ago.... I really just needed to vent and am grateful for the people who were supportive. Some of you just are assuming you know me and what I'm feeling right now. He's literally talking to me like I'm a dog.. wont' let me get a word in to try to ease his worries, and I'm STILL being nice trying to comfort him!!!!! What more do you want? I'm still a human being, I'm not perfect and don't pretend to be. If on the very very off chance that I am pregnant, I know that it changes things, you dont' think that I know that? I don't just sleep around with 'whoever'. how dare you judge me.

I went back and edited out the part where I almost thought I had to explain myself to anyone...

You might wanna consider taking that in to consideration next time before airing your dirty laundry on a public thread asking for advice.

For what it's worth We hope Your not pregnant also.

was just quoting from your opening post

which follows

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Okay, so I've been seeing this guy, not exclusively, but as really good friends with benefits. He and I have gotten pretty close... until about the last week...

He noticed that its been quite some time since I've mentioned being on my 'cycle'... so of course he asked the question "are you pregnant?" Well, my answer is no, b/c I know my body and though being this late isn't exactly always normal for me, I know I'm not preggers. He's really freaked now b/c we thought I started only for it to stop with nothing more than a few teensy spots after less than 48 hours. I've been trying to reassure him, but to no avail. I've even told him to take me to the store so I can buy a test and PROVE once and for all that I'm not pregnant. He's scared and freaked out that it'll say yes so he won't do it. He even mentioned the one word that irks me more than anything on the planet "abortion"...UM... I'm NOT pregnant, but IF I were theres no WAY I'd murder an innocent baby. I know its his fear talking right now, so I'm trying to be understanding even though he's thoroughly p!ssing me off. How do you talk sense into someone that is THAT pig headed? I'm going to get a test in a few days when I get paid, but I'd really love to be able to calm him down in the mean time, cus its stressing ME out and thats not going to make my 'cycle' start any sooner...
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what does the first paragraph say

what are you trying to say

Where's the popcorn?

I have some!

::shares:


I think its also in the approach on how we confront somone on such an issue. Children are a great gift but require 18-20 years of responsibility.

here ya go

hope you do not mind the cheezy ness

Wanna trade? mines extra butter, well can i at least have some?

Jayme, you crack me up, yesterday it was the exes getting married, and now we are discussing a non event... ( a non pregnancy_)...

I so don't need a life, can I just live vicariously through you?

Well generally when we are upset because of an X getting married, we find a friends with benifits.

I should've known. There are alot of really great people on here who are supportive and tactful with their advice and thoughts. There are others who are judgmental and put words in people's mouths.

For the simple fact that he would probably take off on me, I'm on the fence about whether or not I want to be, but whatever happens I can face and deal with no matter what. I know that when it IS time for me to be a mother, I'll be a wonderful one, no matter who seems to think they f*cking know me and says otherwise. I'll prove everyone wrong.

I sometimes have a hard time wording things, and an even harder time with confrontation, I tend to avoid it. I do sometimes come off as immature b/c I simply am not good at wording what I want to say no matter how much better it sounded before I typed it and it comes out wrong. None the less, none of you know me, and no matter if its a public forum or not, you have no right to judge me. Oh, and not exclusively means that we're not labeled bf/gf... is that hard for you to understand? I'm not dating anyone else, just he and I but he isn't ready for a relationship so I was willing to take it as slowly as he wanted.

we could mix the together

Granted somtimes we need the hard truth, not some "its going to be okay" speech. I want to grow i want to know what i can improve on, not a pat on the back. And generally taking it slow, doesnt involve potentially having children......

Can I have your's instead? I'd like a few less dramas...

The other day I was just venting about something that pissed me off at that moment... Now I'm venting about whats pissing me off now. Some of the others ran with the pregnancy issue when that wasn't what I came here to ask...

isnt being pregnant the big issue here?

Or is it the men are assholes problem?