Okay, so I've been seeing this guy, not exclusively, but as really good friends with benefits. He and I have gotten pretty close... until about the last week...

He noticed that its been quite some time since I've mentioned being on my 'cycle'... so of course he asked the question "are you pregnant?" Well, my answer is no, b/c I know my body and though being this late isn't exactly always normal for me, I know I'm not preggers. He's really freaked now b/c we thought I started only for it to stop with nothing more than a few teensy spots after less than 48 hours. I've been trying to reassure him, but to no avail. I've even told him to take me to the store so I can buy a test and PROVE once and for all that I'm not pregnant. He's scared and freaked out that it'll say yes so he won't do it. He even mentioned the one word that irks me more than anything on the planet "abortion"...UM... I'm NOT pregnant, but IF I were theres no WAY I'd murder an innocent baby. I know its his fear talking right now, so I'm trying to be understanding even though he's thoroughly p!ssing me off. How do you talk sense into someone that is THAT pig headed? I'm going to get a test in a few days when I get paid, but I'd really love to be able to calm him down in the mean time, cus its stressing ME out and thats not going to make my 'cycle' start any sooner...

im not sure on how to handle that... but hes a jurk and hes not worth anything

tell him u have no other signs u know that ur not getting morning sickness and so on and see if that claims him down

If you are feeling stressed or have lost weight, I'm pretty sure it can effect the timing of your cycle. I'm sure there are a lot of other factors, so maybe try telling him it may be another factor? Hopefully he'll relax after a while...and I hope everything works out for the best with you.

Yeah, he's being a real jerk...

He even said 'If you're pregnant and you keep it you'll be ruining 3 lives..."

Anyone on here who knows me KNOWS how much I want to be a mother... a baby would so NOT ruin MY life, and I'd be a good mother, so the child's life would be as good as I can possibly manage, better if I could help it. I even told him that if by some random miraculous fluke I WAS, which I don't think I AM, he can be there or not, no skin off my back. I mean, yes, it'd be easier if I was if he stayed, but I could do it on my own if I had to and not let anything stand in my way.

I told him it was most likely just stress or just some random body fluctuation. Still didn't help. He is barely talking to me and when he does he makes sure I know how stupid he thinks it would be for me to keep it if I was pregnant. Of course we all know that this just means he's too immature to accept responsibility for his own actions...

That is just awful and makes me sad inside. I understand abortion for only select circumstances. And I support you having a baby! (When you want one, hehe)

I know you didn't want any guys, but from my perspective, he really is being a jerk. He should be supporting you. It sounds like he is scared and also not ready to be in a serious relationship. I wish you well.

I want one as soon as Goddess sees fit for me to have one, but I know that I'm not pregnant and he's driving me nuts. Okay, so deep in side I'm not 100% sure I'm not... but I'm about 80% sure...

anyway... you guys are so great for just jumping in and helping

I know this isn't my thread but I think you're very kind. AND I love your picture...cause I love ducks.

I'm just curious to know if you aren't pregnant...are you still going to be fwb with him?

I know he's not ready for a serious relationship, and I've not been pushing it at all. I do have to wonder why it is that now days men who are 25+ y/o still aren't ready to face responsibilities. It baffles my mind. I informed him that we are both in our 20's and perfectly capable of doing whatever is thrown our way successfully. If we're not, we have no right to call ourselves adults. Why are so many men that call themselves adults and real men so scared of this type of thing? Just goes to show that 'real' men are few and far between...

I have no idea...lol, but I'm leaning towards a big fat NO...

either you should go on the pill or diaphram or something or he should wear a condom at all times!!

I told him from the beginning that the birth control was up to him b/c I don't care either way...We both just recently got tested and know we're both clean. so he's going to choose the risky one THEN get mad when he's thinking it was a bad idea...

It seems that you guys have slightly different views on a couple of important issues concerning children. I hate to seem like an ass, but maybe you need a different guy. One who'd be willing to accept it if you did get pregnant.

seeing this guy, not exclusively,

and everyone else as well

SCUSE ME? He is the only person I've been seeing we're just not 'official'... wtf are you trying to say here?

I just tried to reason with him, its not doing any good. We're speaking of THE MOST stubborn man on the PLANET and I am not putting that lightly at all! Not only will he not hear a single f*cking word I'm saying, he's talking to me like I'm less deserving of respect than his dog...

::Wears a wig::

Men are afraid of having children, espeically if we are not ready, most of the time when women say thier not its generally a cover-up. "Im not pregnant", means to men "i hope im not pregnant" so we wait for the next period and worry about it every day. I used to think my X was and it would freak me out, i wasnt ready for a family. I however wasnt as incosiderate as this man.