For like I would not travel, too much uncertainty.

For love, however, I definitely would. That being said, if I had to travel for love, a deep seated connection must have to be made which is tough to do online or on the phone. Though it can happen, not sure if it would to me.

Hmmm. New acquaintance? It would depend on how strongly we seemed to "click" before meeting in person, but if we did, then I would definitely be willing to travel in order to meet them.

If upon meeting we experienced an even stronger connection and wanted to pursue that unencumbered by geography, I'd certainly be open to moving, provided I could find work that would support me and an apartment I could afford.

I've relocated twice (albeit to different parts of the same Midwestern state) for the sake of relationships, although in both of these cases it was for men I'd met not online but rather in person through a civic organization in which we were active. I don't regret those moves, especially given that the second of them led to a decade of marriage. I'm mobile and open to travel, and sometimes a change of scenery is really exciting.

I used to have a gf in Canada, We'd take turns seeing each other. Never bothered me 1 bit to go stay up there with her for a while. I actually enjoyed the change in scenery.

Never mind dear you most surely fine the right person when the time come's okay

I haven't been employed since 2008. My handicaps have gotten worse as I'm getting older and this prevents me from working any kind of normal job. I have applied for SSD and now I'm just waiting for the judge's verdict. I have been working for these past five years to get a job doing something with my artwork, for right now this is the only means I have of making any kind of living.

In the midst of all this I met this gal about a year ago on another dating site and we have been communicating back and forth all this time. She lives in a town north of me about three hours away. We would always talk about meeting and something would always come up that would prevent me from going there. Well finally last week I came into a little money and so I just went up there—I didn't think about it, I just did it.

I knew that it would deplete whatever money I had and that it was probably hugely irresponsible, but I figured it was time to meet and stop talking about it. Life can be hard and depressing so why not take a chance on something once in a while, eh?

Anyway, when I got there we had a great time together. We went to dinner, sat and talked, hugged, kissed and enjoyed each other's company. It was great. I stayed for a couple days and then came back home. Did it make any kind of difference? Did she call or write me afterward saying "I loved seeing you" or anything like that? No. She really hasn't said anything about it, but at least I did it.

So yes, I would travel for like or love, even if it was just to see someone and even if it didn't change anything.

Hi all

The people you meet,
create the paradise you find.

though i would prefer that the person i connect with live in JAMAICA.. it may not be that way so if i made a spiritual connection and that person lived abroad then i would travel to make my relationship work...as long as its worth the while.

Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must first carry it with us or we find it not.

Have you called or written to say that you had a great time though? Sorry but I'm really not getting why you would expect her to do that when you were sort of her guest, even if you did pay for dinner.

Because anyone would like to know if the other person enjoyed being with them. I did call and tell her I had a great time the next day. The only thing she said was that her daughter had to go away for the day and she was feeling lonely. So she said, "I must miss you, too."

Not the greatest compliment, but better than nothing.

It could be because you do live a distance away from each other that she isn't being very romantic and isn't talking much about her feelings towards you. I know that a year is quite a long time to be chatting with someone on a dating site but if you have only actually met once then she probably just isn't sure if she wants a relationship with you or if it could work.

Distance can make it more romantic I think but it is going to be a problem not just being able to see each other whenever you want and I suppose that not everyone just lets their heart rule their head.

True. I'm not sure what's going on with her, but obviously she's keeping herself at a distance. I'll respect that and in the meantime we can still be friends.

dmckinnon...do you still talk now? Did you feel any kind of connection with this person? If you still like her, you need to talk to her and see how she feels. Maybe she is afraid to make the first move towards you?
IF you had a connection, never give up until they actually tell you that they did not have any kind of feelings what so ever!
I don't think you have to much to worry about, you are a nice looking man with beautiful eyes....you will meet that right one some day. I hope you have the great personality to go with the looks!

Aw, what a nice compliment. Thanks. We do still talk—on the phone, through Facebook and text messages. I've come to know some things about her and one of them is she isn't overly romantic. She's even mentioned this a few times and said that it's been so long for her being with a man that she's not sure what to do. She was married for 25 years (got divorced four years ago), has five kids and a full life (job, raising the kids, involved in local plays, etc.)

She's so busy she hardly has time for herself, let alone a man. So I can understand and sympathize with what she's going through. I'm sure the non-responsiveness is all part of her busy life and lack of any romantic elements she has had. It takes a lot of time and energy to raise kids, and she has five of them. Plus she's had to do everything herself, because there's no longer a man in her life to help.

It's hard to get anywhere with a woman like that, especially if you can't see her regularly. I think that it's fine to say that you respect how she feels and that you are happy enough to just be friends for now but sooner or later you have to lay it on the line to her and tell her that you are looking for more than that. Otherwise you are just letting yourself in for a lot of heartache over somebody that isn't really worth it.

For true love i will jump over mountains and swim the sees.

I've made it known to her how I feel. Now it's up to her to make the next move. If she doesn't, then I just move on.

You are One in a million!

u saund so lovely and if we can work things out,well we can build a long lasting relationship that will lead to marriage.