whoever does the asking does the paying,,,,

whoever does the asking does the paying,,,,

Whoever asked for the date should be prepared to pay for the date unless it was specifically designated as a "let's go dutch" date in advance.

I think we come from "different sides of the tracks," singme - you must be an uptown gal :)

I'm talking about guys who say things like I ain't payin for no biotch and let some biotch use me for a free meal (this coming from a guy who makes $9/hr in a factory - who somehow thinks someone is going to be using him for his cash stash - hilarious)


ladies aren't stupid - if we wanna use u we will find someone who really HAS a cash stash

this is real life expereince talking

I will say this again. If a man is courting a woman, and if he wants to impress her, he better pay for the date.

If I ask a man out (I don't) it would not be because I was courting him. It would probably be just friendship or business. But if I asked, I would pay!! -->or go dutch --> but only if he insisted.

If you are too financially stressed (or broke) to pay for a date, then you probably have no business courting a woman (for marriage) anyway.

If you are broke and just want to have sex with someone, be honest about it. Say, "I can't afford to take you out and wine and dine you the way you deserve, but I would still love to jump your bones."

You may be surprised. If there is chemistry, she might just invite you over for roll in the hay.

or even better be honest and say I'd like to spend some time with you - then suggest a low cost activity - going to the gym together, or touring a winery, a hike in a nearby preserve, a bike ride...I do not think it is necessary to state one's financial condition unless it becomes logical in the context of a conversation

I would not suggest that a man simply state that he wants to jump a woman's bones unless she clearly is profiled as looking for casual encounters - he might get blocked and that is shooting himself in the foot for sure

If there is any kind of attraction or flirting going on, a woman usually wouldn't be offended by a man being honest about wanting to jump her bones.

If the feeling is not mutual, it probably would be considered rude.

There are certain situations where I would find it refreshing to hear the truth rather than play the boring game. But then, I'm 62 and I don't have much time left on this earth for games. LOL

well he'd have to know me pretty well to come out with a statement like that - I can also see a situation where that kind of statement would offend me and any attraction that was there would go out the window

I think it would depend on the situation - but I would defintely perceive it as a man not picking up on things I have said about not being into encounters - so to me it might mean he isn;t very perceptive or that he is completely self centered with no interest in what my preferences are - a real turn off

so all in all - I don;t recommend it

if it works for you - it just means we have different preferences

I laughed because I pictured his woman walking around in bare feet and him holding a club.

good to see ya!

Can't say I've ever been on a date with a guy like that.

Welcome to the 99.

The GUY should pay what does one date cost movie and din not that much. If she’s not worth it then you shouldn’t of asked her out. but it is nice if a girl offers to but doesn’t argue to much about it when you say no

he was one of my neighbors - he actually ended up in jail on drug charges a few yrs ago- we never dated but we argued a few times and I played a couple good pranks on him before he went up river

I had an ex boyfriend who said shyte like that but he was just messing with me - urban culture in the midwest....yay....I think he was mostly making fun of some of his homies when he said stuff like that

but those expereinces have made me wary of "the attitude"

so we can;t biotch slap u?

not if i am taken you out if its a second date maybe

LMAO

OK OK I'll behave

thats not nice i grew up to pay and open doors

I find this thread very interesting. Newly single, I may find myself going on a date someday. It's been awhile so it's nice to know what I could expect. Before, when a guy asked you out...he paid for the date. If they started dating more often, they might sometimes share the cost. The girls I knew didn't ask guys out first. I would have been way to shy to do that.

I had only 1 date that turned embarassing. A guy asked me to go to dinner at a very expensive French Bistro in the next town. I felt very out of place and wasn't familiar with the food. When we got ready to leave, he said he forgot his wallet and did I have some money. I was so embarassed, but also pretty mad. I said no, and left to go call my dad to pick me up. I didn't care how he got out that mess. I found out later, he did this with his dates often and the owner knew about his con.


Maybe I am a bit old fashioned but if a man asked me out, I would think he would pay. I'm modern enough that if I did the asking, I would pay. With today's economy...I think there are a lot of things that can be fun without costing money.

I gather You weren't really that "into"

her, right Derek?

"just a date to pass the time ",

and she most likely sensed this.......



Ahhhhh......but from what I've seen, a man who

really 'digs" a chick, won't ever hesitate to pay.

Ever.

That's exactly right.