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Topic: I must be uptight for a hippie brained freak
luv2roknroll Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 30367	Sun 09/04/11 03:24 PM
I see so many women who smoke, drink or have tattoos. While I can be friends, romantically for me it is a turn-off! What do you think? And you thought you loved me........ Heres one of my tattoos Its "Doss", short for "Dosile", my dragon. I have a flower on my left ankle,(no picture of that,maybe ill take one). I only smoke when I drink, and then I smoke like a chimmney! And I only drink when I go out, (which is VERY RARELY, I hate hangovers) but then I get smashed on Long Island Ice Teas,(im a happy, fun, drunk), and usually end up doing Kereoke somewhere! As stated before, just cuz you smoke/etc don't mean I won't love you! Uh huh, as a friend!

luv2roknroll Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 30367	Sun 09/04/11 03:27 PM
Why is everyone trippin on the old hippie. With all the requirements threads, and Love lists and everything else that people desire in a mate...there are a billion people who would prefer a NON-smoker over a smoker, HANDS DOWN... He never said he is not sociable with these types of people, he is not interested in dating them is all. Why is everyone getting so defensive. Everyones preferences is different. He asked a question and he's getting answers. Does that make a person prejudice though for preferring one type of woman over another? Good point Simone! I have really been noticing alot of hostility in the threads lately. Its like everyone is just waiting to cram some harsh words down somebodies throat! I dont like it either. I like it more when people state their opinions alittle nicer, ya know? I agree. Everyone had the right to his/her opinion and I respect that but it doesn't mean I have to agree with it. Sometimes I can be enlightened by someone's post and it can make me see where they are coming from. However the minute it starts to get nasty, any good point they may have gets lost on me and I no longer want to read what they have to say. Try going to the Religious threads. Ill NEVER do that again!

winterblue56 Joined Sun 12/12/10 Posts: 2465	Sun 09/04/11 03:54 PM Edited by winterblue56 on Sun 09/04/11 04:52 PM
I see so many women who smoke, drink or have tattoos. While I can be friends, romantically for me it is a turn-off! What do you think? Well, I don't do any of those. But I don't degrade people by criticizing what they do to their own bodies. And, they can all be HUGE turn-ons, in the right circumstances. Judgmental people are the turn-off. I don't think of myself as a judgemental person but I do have some standards that I will not adhear to. Hippy's conotations with tatoo's and grafitti on a wall did not sit too well with me either. I waited until I finished the thread to make my comments....after the thumbs up . Many people will post on their profile what their likes and dislikes are. People live their lives in the way that THEY feel does them justice. Just because they smoke, drink, do drugs and get tatoos does not mean they are not good hearted, kind, considerate and loving people. And in my opinion, I would much rather have a smoking, drinking, tatooed man that has a good heart and a non-judgmental soul than a person that has a closed mind about people that do those sort of things. Signed: Smoker, occasional drinker, God fearing, tatooed, biker, barefoot flower-power hippy girl

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Sun 09/04/11 04:50 PM
Why is everyone trippin on the old hippie. With all the requirements threads, and Love lists and everything else that people desire in a mate...there are a billion people who would prefer a NON-smoker over a smoker, HANDS DOWN... He never said he is not sociable with these types of people, he is not interested in dating them is all. Why is everyone getting so defensive. Everyones preferences is different. He asked a question and he's getting answers. Does that make a person prejudice though for preferring one type of woman over another? agree!!! If having a preference about what one should be to us is prejudice... then WE are ALL prejudice!

winterblue56 Joined Sun 12/12/10 Posts: 2465	Sun 09/04/11 04:54 PM
btw Luvs...you going to get some color in that tat?? Nice!

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 09/04/11 05:04 PM
I see so many women who smoke, drink or have tattoos. While I can be friends, romantically for me it is a turn-off! What do you think? Well, I don't do any of those. But I don't degrade people by criticizing what they do to their own bodies. And, they can all be HUGE turn-ons, in the right circumstances. Judgmental people are the turn-off. So it is judgemental for me to say I don't like that? Is it judgmental for me to say I don't like doing drugs either? It IS their body you know. Even if it is our bodies calling tattoos graffiti is a bit judgmental. Maybe it would be graffiti to you cause it would be vandalizing your body because you don't want one. But referring to everyone else's as graffiti isn't proper to the definition of the word graffiti. To those who have them its art and something special that signifies something special about themselves. The art part is what I am struggling with, then again modern art sometimes baffles me. well if the art part is the issue, try doing a little research on tattoos and body art and you will see some pretty impressive art work remember that body art is nothing new people have been "decorating" themselves according to subcultural norms of beauty for centuries there is nothing new under the sun, sweety

aquaman131 Joined Sun 09/04/11 Posts: 3	Sun 09/04/11 05:12 PM
I see so many women who smoke, drink or have tattoos. While I can be friends, romantically for me it is a turn-off! What do you think? Sounds like uptight, hippie brained freak talk... but hey good for you, me I prefer to get to know the person before I decide whether or not they turn me on.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Sun 09/04/11 05:15 PM
I see so many women who smoke, drink or have tattoos. While I can be friends, romantically for me it is a turn-off! What do you think? And you thought you loved me........ Heres one of my tattoos Its "Doss", short for "Dosile", my dragon. I have a flower on my left ankle,(no picture of that,maybe ill take one). I only smoke when I drink, and then I smoke like a chimmney! And I only drink when I go out, (which is VERY RARELY, I hate hangovers) but then I get smashed on Long Island Ice Teas,(im a happy, fun, drunk), and usually end up doing Kereoke somewhere! As stated before, just cuz you smoke/etc don't mean I won't love you! Uh huh, as a friend! Well you told me as a 29 yo I was too "old."

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 09/04/11 05:16 PM
I see so many women who smoke, drink or have tattoos. While I can be friends, romantically for me it is a turn-off! What do you think? I think you were prolly raised in an era when the only people who had tattoos were cussing sailors on the docks, & convicts that is obviously no longer true, but sometimes attitudes & beliefs die hard Even tho I know that is not true, I have a tough time with it myself because that is what I was raised to believe and in my parents time, it was the truth but that was a long long time ago I have had several good friends with tattoos but I have not ever had a relationship with a man who has them IDK w/e tho I have dated one or two who do (have them) and they were fine. I actually like a lot of the body art I have seen, but am a little afraid of men who have them TBH until I get to know them - just because of how I was raised to believe prolly Well I said I must be uptight. not necessarily -I don;t feel that my fear of tattoos makes me uptight at all. i am just not an uptight person. we are all a product of the experiences and lessons, cultural imbibment that we have lived - for good or for bad or indifferent I think we must choose what to hold to as true and that which is better left behind I cannot imagine choosing to reject a friendship based on body art...and besides I have seen much of it that I like. I think it is good that there is no longer a stigma associated with it.....time marches on my friend.... I do not reject friendship, it is romance I am having a problem with because to me it defaces their body. I am trying to accept it, the same way I have to accept earrings and makeup (I don't like those either!). I was just wondering what everyone else's take on this is. defacements? no really I think that is something to rethink -think of it as more of a means of self expression even if u don;t like them, it's not defacement. Folks put a lot of time and effort into tattoo art as a form of self expression.... chalk it up to your preferences. I cannot imagine choosing a friend or a lover based on that criteria one way or another it seems superficial

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Sun 09/04/11 05:21 PM
I was thinking it through and I realize I am afraid they'll want body sculpting next. I am not interested in a high maintenance gf, so I hold them at arm's length as a friend only. Fear you know...

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 09/04/11 05:28 PM
I was thinking it through and I realize I am afraid they'll want body sculpting next. I am not interested in a high maintenance gf, so I hold them at arm's length as a friend only. Fear you know... yanno hunnie that sounds a little bit like the old marajuana leads to acid & heroin lecture from 9th grade health class fear is something to confront and control rather than be controlled by it - jmho

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21950	Sun 09/04/11 05:42 PM
remember that body art is nothing new people have been "decorating" themselves according to subcultural norms of beauty for centuries there is nothing new under the sun, sweety Subcultural norms? Tats have nothing to do with subculture and every thing to do with group norms.

winterblue56 Joined Sun 12/12/10 Posts: 2465	Sun 09/04/11 05:54 PM
I was thinking it through and I realize I am afraid they'll want body sculpting next. I am not interested in a high maintenance gf, so I hold them at arm's length as a friend only. Fear you know... Get used to it sweetie. All girls are high maintenance in one way or another. If we weren't, you men wouldn't want us!

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Sun 09/04/11 07:18 PM
I see so many women who smoke, drink or have tattoos. While I can be friends, romantically for me it is a turn-off! What do you think? Smoking doesn't bother me. Tattoos don't bother me. Drinking is a deal-breaker.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 09/04/11 08:34 PM
I see so many women who smoke, drink or have tattoos. While I can be friends, romantically for me it is a turn-off! What do you think? Well, I don't do any of those. But I don't degrade people by criticizing what they do to their own bodies. And, they can all be HUGE turn-ons, in the right circumstances. Judgmental people are the turn-off. I don't think of myself as a judgemental person but I do have some standards that I will not adhear to. Hippy's conotations with tatoo's and grafitti on a wall did not sit too well with me either. I waited until I finished the thread to make my comments....after the thumbs up . Many people will post on their profile what their likes and dislikes are. People live their lives in the way that THEY feel does them justice. Just because they smoke, drink, do drugs and get tatoos does not mean they are not good hearted, kind, considerate and loving people. And in my opinion, I would much rather have a smoking, drinking, tatooed man that has a good heart and a non-judgmental soul than a person that has a closed mind about people that do those sort of things. Signed: Smoker, occasional drinker, God fearing, tatooed, biker, barefoot flower-power hippy girl Maybe it's because I don't know you other than the way you've responded to things in the forums, but I've seen you be pretty judgmental at times. Though, I think everyone here is judgmental at some point.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 09/04/11 08:35 PM
I was thinking it through and I realize I am afraid they'll want body sculpting next. I am not interested in a high maintenance gf, so I hold them at arm's length as a friend only. Fear you know... So, because they have tattoos they're high maintenance? Are you getting these ideas from dating someone with tattoos? Or is this something you just assume?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 09/04/11 08:37 PM
I was thinking it through and I realize I am afraid they'll want body sculpting next. I am not interested in a high maintenance gf, so I hold them at arm's length as a friend only. Fear you know... Get used to it sweetie. All girls are high maintenance in one way or another. If we weren't, you men wouldn't want us! I disagree. I definitely don't think all women are high maintenance, based on many women I know. Maybe your friends are different?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 09/04/11 08:42 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Sun 09/04/11 08:45 PM
remember that body art is nothing new people have been "decorating" themselves according to subcultural norms of beauty for centuries there is nothing new under the sun, sweety Subcultural norms? Tats have nothing to do with subculture and every thing to do with group norms. ummm not necessarily as subcultures are group - geez c'mon motown _ I thought u were one of the smaaart kids and I was really referring to the wider topic of body art

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 09/04/11 08:43 PM
I was thinking it through and I realize I am afraid they'll want body sculpting next. I am not interested in a high maintenance gf, so I hold them at arm's length as a friend only. Fear you know... Get used to it sweetie. All girls are high maintenance in one way or another. If we weren't, you men wouldn't want us!

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 09/05/11 01:59 AM
I was thinking it through and I realize I am afraid they'll want body sculpting next. I am not interested in a high maintenance gf, so I hold them at arm's length as a friend only. Fear you know... So, because they have tattoos they're high maintenance? Are you getting these ideas from dating someone with tattoos? Or is this something you just assume? Experience from having friends with tattoos. Even my own sister. So I've let 3 people taint how I feel. This is why I appreciate constructive criticism as it helps me learn to adjust/change.