Lots of men are praising the OP for being very straight forward and honest. It's almost as if you all aren't thinking women are being honest unless they say right away that they're looking for a husband. Is that the case? Or, do you really think most women aren't honest about what they're looking for? What do you need to hear in order to see that someone is being honest?

IMOH, the Lady calls it like she sees it. A fella can build on that, make a future if that's what's in his cards as well. There's no dancing around the maypole with this Lady. She wants a husband and wants to raise a family. And that's a hell of a great goal in my opinion.

There's a purity in what she says simply because she's cut all the fat out. There's no MIND GAMES pure simple.

K.

That didn't answer my questions.

What would be said if they op was a man? I think honesty is at a premium today. I think lying, cheating and stealing has become such the norm that it's considered old fashioned to just call it like you see (or want) it. I like old fashioned. It's tangible and real. No mental masturbation, just meat and potatoes.

This lady represented herself front and center w/o the mental masturbation that is the norm with finding a mate in the 21st Century.

Cut and dried,

K. :)

Maybe women I matched with didn't see it that way. I am willing to try anyone out (for a date to see if the vibes are there) but they seem to have a strict set of standards. Nicelady seems open minded about men, willing to try anyone out for a date to see if the vibes are there. Maybe I'm tired of being shot down due to looks or whatever before even a date?

I think her approach is refreshing like some other guys. Women seem afraid of the "M" word. It is not her honesty but her being "brave" enough to say exactly what she wants without the games. Just because someone plays games don't mean she is dishonest, guys do it all the time. I personally don't play games, if I don't feel chemistry, vibes, what have you, I tell you after the first date.

HI, I'm in Irving (Dallas Tx) and I won't relocate, my future is here. I am looking for a ltr or marriage with the right person. There must be chemistry. I tend to be very affectionate so she should like to hug and kiss. Children right now are an option. She should be prepared for a long courtship as I am not in financial position to marry for 2 years (sometimes that is how life goes). If I give my heart it is extremely hard to take it back so no game players. Age is just a number as I still like 6 flags, go karts as well as cultural events, zoos and museums, concerts, beach, etc

There, the pretend OP was a man, now what do they say?

Guys and Girls sometimes run each other around in circles. It's a superficial guessing game based on a bunch of factious standards that no one can live up to. The medias perfect guy or girl is so far out of whack that it has become a big turn off for some of us. In todays world some of us just don't find it all that attractive to be in competition with our potential partners. Like earlier on in this thread when we were talking about meeting someone for drinks. That may sound harmless to some but we have all been a part of certain games that are a big turn off. And having drinks or dates are most of the time an exercise of mental manipulation or sexual frustration. I have zero desire to have my brain picked apart by a date or have my pants unzipped by a lush. Honestly who wants to sit there and try to guess what someone else is thinking? Ridiculous! I've got better ways to spend my time.

As forward as Nicelady may have sounded to some, you can see how her attractiveness climbed the charts because of her honesty. She said "hello I'm here for a husband" then listed all the qualities she liked. Do you have any idea how fast that is going to find her a husband as opposed to the dueling that boys and girls do here? This is a woman who is going to work with her husband on a relationship. Shes not going to be ifie when she says "I do". This is a woman who is looking to find someone that can and will give 100% and she will give it in return. What is not to like about this approach except that it is what most are not used to here in the US.

Let me share from personal experience. If the loves in my life would not have walked up, grabbed me by the collar and said your mine and I'm yours I would have been alone my whole life. I so dislike guy girl games that I can be and have been the biggest snob on the planet. Just like I said in the other thread a woman can't win me over by looks or brains. That to me is shallow compared to honesty, sincerity and a gentle spirit. There are some women up here that I think are the absolute bomb. Why? Because of who they are. They become so attractive through their words that it makes them super models in my eyes. And disagreeing with maybe some men on here, you could put some of these gals next to Victoria's Secrets and I would say no thanks VS. Beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder and for those of us who love someone being straight up, this approach is extremely attractive.

LOL..

Yeah... real lucky

You don't like bold women invictus???

Michael, Have I ever told you I LOVE your posts. Guess thats why we get along.

Call me the skeptical sort.

I think there's a difference between bold and what the OP is doing. I know many will disagree with me and that's fine.

If the OP was a man going about this in the same way, with a similar profile, I'd be just as skeptical.

So basically, someone has to announce that they're looking for a husband, or say immediately that they want you, in order for them to be honest in your eyes. If they're willing to go for a drink to chat and get to know someone, they're a lush who isn't honest. Got it. I guess we have a different definition of honesty.

oh yes. He will be real lucky and extremely happy. There is nothing i would not do to keep my partner happy. There will never be stupid fights because im a smart woman that can understand and support him in his goals. I will be devoted to my husband till the day i die and will never betray him. If your skeptcl and find me too good to be true,then your missing out on an oprtunity of a lifetime. Cause i am real. And i really am a nicelady and will make a great wife for the guy who likes my personality.

nicelady, if i were a guy i whold come for you in any part of the world

Just my own personal experience, but -- from what I've seen, there is very little honesty up front, in most cases. I can't tell you how many times I've met someone who swears up and down, on Day One, that she doesn't want kids -- but then magically decides she MUST have them 3 months into the relationship.

I DO praise the OP for being honest and up front, and, yes, I'm doing that on the basis of an assumption that she isn't going to do a miraculous 180 three months after she gets involved with someone. And I really have no basis for THAT assumption other than that I've never seen it work that way. So I could be wrong.

But what I AM sure about is she's saying right up front she wants marriage and kids. I wish all of my exes could have just told me that to begin with! Because that way, I could have avoided those relationships entirely. It would have saved me a lot of time....

NiceLady

You are doing a remarkable job promoting yourself... Funny thing is, I bet this type of approach succeeds more than dating.... for someone looking for happiness. I've met MANY people from all around the world and the strangest phenomenon I've seen was in Vegas(no offence Mg) Where men have married and divorced 4-5 times... THAT(to me) is absolute craziness. I also met a couple who, at first, couldn't speak each others language. One was Spanish and the other Finland...In the beginning, They said they communicated with their eyes. yea after 6 kids I bet it was with their eyes.

You will succeed!

thank you for the post.im trying to find a lifetime partner, one that can be loyal andevoted to one wife only. Iwill never be interested in leaving my husband. This is why im trying to find a partner that match the atrbts im looking for. If he is kind,compasionate,faithfull and provide unconditlove,then i would mary him and it would not end in a divorcd,ive never been married,since im trying to find a lifetime partner, im not interested in a divorce. Some guys can be faithfull to one woman,and others can't. We all have different personalities.if i find aman that wanto love and respect me, and be faithful,im sure i can keep him happy enough, noto want a divorce.

I like your directness in a way, it does cut the crap and is straight to the point...

But its a bit black and white if you know what I mean and from what I know, nothing is ever really black and white. Might it not be better to look people up and get to know them a bit? Then see who you have that certain "je ne sais qua" with?

Are you having any luck yet? You are in a bit of an out-of-the-way location.