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Thankyou for the welcome. I will take a look into other rooms.
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Thankyou for the welcome. I will take a look into other rooms.
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Cute - thanks for your comments/support. I agree with you about the girl Jeff yelled at, heck if she can't understand, or won't understand the schedule, sounds like she didn't have much interest in her job in the first place. Hang in there, as we get older, our radar gets some fine-tuning (or at least I hope so)you won't always make bad choices about men. I think we get wiser with age, at least, again, I hope so.
Blue - try out the forums and good luck. Karen - hope you are having a good day. Jeff - hope things are calming down and your job is okay. Keep us informed how your interviews are going. Bear - you will find your "lady Bear" just take your time and make sure she is the right one for you. Take care. Hope you are all having a great weekend. |
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I'm still depressed over my ex-gf.
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I used to wish I was given the option to be lazy growing up. I always loved reading and escaping in one form or another. Seems like there was always chores or work to be done. Work has always interfered in my plans of taking it easy even when I had gravy jobs. My friend's wife stayed behind while he went to California and is making major bucks now. Lately her and others at the nursing home are giving me the Jed Clampett speech of, "Jed, move away from there. California is the place you ought to be." My problem is that I have found a form of stability here even though I don't get paid diddlysquat. Then the friend's wife said, "Well, with all the money you will be making you could afford to keep paying rent to your mother and have your house to fall back on." I have been contemplating if this idea though couldn't be just another geographical cure or a rainbow chase. I keep hearing the per diem tune and I can't help but think it is all pie in the sky. Besides that 7 day workweek at 12 hours a day I don't know if I can still cut the mustard.
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Hill - hard decision. You have a job that you know and for the most part like except for the lousy pay, but, like you said, picking up and moving to California is the unknown. From what I have heard the job market is hard now and the cost of living is high in California, that is a really hard decision. Don't think I would go unless I had a job for sure before I got there. I killed myself financially just moving across state to care for my parents and regret it big time. I have a decent paying job but caring for them took a lot more than I had expected and wiped me out. Lots to think about. My ex was big on the "grass is always greener somewhere else" and he kept moving us on the idea that there was a better paying job, etc., of course there wasn't and it just made the finances worse with moving, etc. Good luck in your decision, for me, I would want a really firm promise of a job before I would pick up and move.
Wit - I am sorry about the breakup of your girlfriend. Try spending time in the forums and people will get to know you and you will make friends. There are lots of good people on here. I found this site was a great place to be and a great help to me when I was dealing with being depressed. My friends on here helped me a lot. Take care. |
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I am thinking about doing the same, Marie.
I am moving to Orlando, take care of parents. My dad had several strokes it the past two yrs. He barely ever talks, unless spoken to. Mom has to take care of him and she cannot drive. I work for a company that has an office down there. It is a recruiting company, so I think the job market may be okay for me. The thing is I have 2 kids, living with their mother, my ex, and I won't be able to see them as often.. Tough stuff!! Bear |
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That is a hard decision Bear. Do you have any siblings that could help care for the parents? I had two brothers but ended up being the one to care for the parents. If you could share the responsibilities with siblings would be much easier and you could have more breaks to be with your kids. Maybe your ex would be willing to let them spend time with you in Orlando. It would be nice for them to see their grandparents too.
I don't envy you this decision. Good luck, which ever way you go. Take care. |
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Ended up hanging out with some people i knew and had a few beers. it helped.. I will be honeset i am very lonley right now. Im almost 30 and it feesl like my life is playd like a sad game.. Dull and unmotivated.. I see stoners and losers that come into my store and hae more. Friends to hang with.. a social live. maybe evne some romance.. I long for these things. I am so tired of being alone. Comming home from work to play ps2 or watch tv til i cry/daydream myself to sleep. I wanna remeber what its like to have fun.. to drink a few with the guys and play cards.. To look into a womans eyes and see hope.. or love... I just dont know how to do this on my own.. I can't see someone and say hi my names jeff I am worth being your friend/lover..
I just dont want my life to pass me by.. without something to remeber it for... |
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You're right, Marie. I don't know about you but as I age I find that taking chances has it own rewards. I can remember telling my dad when I was younger that another friend was doing something and it was ok and him telling me well if he jumped off a bridge would you jump off, too? Some times I get these crazy notions and thankfully there are times when I get a cold hard shock of reality to clear my head. I think in relationships there should be atleast one person with commonsense. I knew it worked for Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis. So many times I have been like a boll weavil just looking for a home or a tumbleweed just being tossed in the wind. I kind of like that song of, "Goodtime Charlie" - "It is hard to grow up when you are 33". Really harder to grow up at 50 I have found.
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Well i just got a call from the job i really wanted.. they decided to go with someone else.. im tired of fighting and losing.. i did so good at this interview and everything..i worked so hard to fight against my disabilities and general distrust for people.. and it leads me nowhere. im 70k in debt and alone and i just wish my dying heart would give out before i do it to myslef
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I hope you don't give up, Jeff. That is a big let down. I can empathize with how much it meant for you.
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I am just so tired. I have no friends here. no one understand why im so depressed, they think i should just suck it up and keep going.. but its ****ing hard. i went thru all my costly schoolc ause of my hand disability and now it seams that i just cant seam to find anything.. im 28 and still living at home for farks sake.. how am i ever gonna meet anyone and start a life if i cant even find a decent job
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i think god likes to joke with me.
i got a job offered today. im happy but nervous cause i worry about how i will do but i know i can always go back to my store |
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Take a chance; Columbus did. That is what my ex used to always say.
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I know and i was nervous at the store before i started
I just am scared to fail... its been a year and a half since i graduated college and besides the gas station this is the first job that gave me a chance though im not sure how 'well' im being paid but i don't know.. for now ill make it work i hope |
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Jeff,
The onlu thing you have to fear, is fear itself. That is what will hold you back, remain confident and patient with yourself. Easy does it. Relax. zzzzzzzzzzz |
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Jeff i want to give you a hug my friend.you are so brave.I always am totally nervous doing new things to the point of panic.you can do it and my sister lived at home till she was 28 and got married so dont feel bad about that. Go get em.
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Yeahrrr!!!!!
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well id ont want to live alone that scares me..
i just want to know what to do with my life i wnated the job at the schools that i didnt get cuase i was helping kids in a way but this is just a job and i dont want to be owwned by them and not get weekends etc |
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