Allen - don't give up. It is a battle, but eventually you will win, you just have to keep it up. Have you tried counseling or talking to your doctor? Have you tried any group counseling? As I have said before, I believe in groups and have found a lot of support and learned a lot in group counseling and a lot of the time they are free, check out your newspaper and see what is offered in your area. I understand the feeling trapped on a merry-go-round, I feel that way too, dealing with my dad and all the financial problems that go with that, and the welfare and nursing home issues, it does get to me too, but you just have to keep going and not let it get you down. Somehow you stay one step ahead of it and it gets better each day. Have you tried volunteering for a food bank or nursing home? You would make some new friends and they really enjoy people who volunteer and help them out. Would give you something different to do and take you mind off your problems for a bit. Just a thought. I seriously would look into groups, and check with your doctor to see if he has any ideas.

Jeff - we knew you would do a good interview. They are always nerve wracking. Good luck, hope you get the job.

ok im just venting but ya.. i just got called by a girl at my gas station where i work cause she was stressed and wanted me to close for her.. after 8 the place is basically dead for the rest of the night... so she wanted me to come in and clean for her.. im sorry but geeze man.... im sorry but if u can work cause your stressed.. when all your basically doing is moping and sweeping.. come on... im tired of peoples crappy work ethic.. and sadly i now have to screen my calls for the rest of the night

Bummer Jeff, she shouldn't ask you to do that. Tell her to get a therapist if she's too stressed to work. You ain't her back up mop.

What was she stressed about? Maybe we can help her.

Bearsman.

(((Bear))) sorry. Put me in my place. I just get a maternal when my friends are unhappy and someone is taking advantage. Didn't stop to think she might need him to talk to.....oooppsssiee

That's OK. We are human, not perfect.

One thing though that song the love I lost is starting to run through my head.

The love I lost was a sweet love
The love I lost was complete love
The love I lost.........
I will never, no, no, never,
Love again.......

Beary sad ;~{

Bear - don't feel that way. You will have love again, that love was not meant to be. Your next love will be better and stronger because you are better and stronger and know more what you are looking for and want out of life now. I think we all feel that way at times, but don't dwell on it, you will find yourself a new love. And she will be better than your last because, like I said above, you are stronger and healthier and are looking with different eyes this time. Take care of yourself.

Karen - you didn't say anything wrong. You were just supporting Jeff like the good person you are. I hope you are feeling better. Wish I could do something to help you through your rough time right now. I think you need some rest and time to rebuild your resources. Stay in touch my friend. Take care.

Marie,

Thank you for kind words. The song goes back aways for me. I played it in a band back in the day, so it crops into my head when I get melancholy about like/love situations. I felt I had a great connection with a certain woman, but there are many complications. We connected seemingly at first write. Our conversations have reached a high level of understanding. I feel as though I have known her for months. We have already shared some personal information that would not be expected after 3 weeks of emailing back and forth. It is usually limited to 15 minutes. So I know I cannot be in love with her at this point, but I find that have made a bound of mutual friendship reserved for people that have known each other for a longer time. All this, mind you, without once, talking or meeting face to face. E-mail only. To me that is amazing. Plus, it has helped my typing speed tremendously.

I will keep in touch with her. However, I need to straighten out some of my own issues before I persue any more dating queries.

Thanks for listening. I'm gonna be OK.

Bearsman Bears Down!!

Bear - glad to hear you are doing okay. The site is amazing that way. You can meet someone in e-mail and in a day or two are best friends and moving forwards fast. My advice is to just take it slow and get to know each other really well. It is amazing how easy it is to feel comfortable with total strangers on e-mail, I do it myself. You never know what will happen, it could turn into more, take your time and get to know her well. I always err on the side of caution, as you said, you have not met face-to-face and I am a firm believer that you cannot fall in love without meeting someone face-to-face. I have seen in happen where people say they are in love, but have not met, and then it falls apart. Dang, I sound like your mom, don't want to sound like I am preaching to you, so please don't take it that way, but don't be afraid to make friends, there are a lot of good people on here. You never know where a friendship may lead is what I am trying to say. Best friends first, I guess, is what I am saying. My thoughts anyways. Take care and glad things are going well for you. Have a good day tomorrow.

You too Marie.

And God Bless.

well i probably did something stupid at work today and will get fired.. a girl that works with me came in and started auguring with my pizza staff about what time she came in tomorrow and in front of customers none less.. so once the customers left i tried to get her to leave and when she didn't i blew up at her and told her to get out..since i was young ive always kept my anger in check but i just let go and yelled at her.. i will admit she is incompetent but still i shouldn't of done it and now im probably gonna get fired for it.. the thing that makes me angry at myself is that 2 of my 3 interviews were good and im most likely gonna have a new job in 3 weeks but i had to fark this all up and now i might be putting my future at risk...

Awwwwww, (((bear))) HUG!!!!

(((Jeff))), no worries. If you haven't doen this a lot or at all, they will likely just give you a slap on the wrist. We all blow up at time, and when someone is being unreasonable, that only makes it worse......you're ok.....hugs!

hi im new to all this second day on net not too sure wether this is for me but ive had my orders from my daughter shes just got me into this site to try and get me intrested in something
ther than working and sleeping
sorry for the lack of punctuation and poor spelling but thats another reason why i dont think im going to take to this
a miss spent youth you see just tring to find an intrest and get my life back on track been down for to long

Okay, everyone, any ideas for my quandry. I know it is all about time management, but I'm such a procrastinator.

I take a very serious work related test (NASD Series 7) in just over 3 weeks. I am freaking out about it. Between work, review class, my son and the new guy I am dating, there is no time for anything.

I should be studying at least 3 hours a night (yes, you read that right) and still work and everything else.

Feeling terribly overwhelmed, but I so need/want to take the test and pass (this time). And I don't want to reschedule since I promised myself I would take and pass 2 tests before year end.

Send some love and encouragement....please.

Hugs, M

Michele - I know about procastrinating all too well. Guess it comes down to priorities and how important the test is to you. Will it give you a promotion or more money at work?? Will it make you feel better about yourself to pass it (obviously). If it is only 3 weeks off, what about slowing down the dating temporarily, if he cares about you he will understand, and get your studying done and take your test. Can you take a little time off work to study?? Just some ideas. I have problems getting things done myself, so I know how it is, believe me, letting them go only makes it worse and makes me feel worse in the long run.

Take care and I hope you pass with flying colors.

Bluewater- welcome to the site. Don't worry about punctuation, etc., I am glad you daughter pushed you in and made you get your feet wet. My advice to you would be to read the forums and pick one or more you like and make some comments/responses in them. That gives the people on here a chance to get to know you. You will make friends that way. It really does work that way. When I first signed on I sat back and just read until I wrote a couple of the regulars to say hello a couple of months later, they talked me into starting to make comments and I started having people write me and I made lots of friends. There are a lot of great people on here, give them a chance. It is scary at first but just start out slow at first and you will see what I mean. Some of the easier ones to talk to are in the chat forums. They tend to be a friendly bunch of guys and women in there. Take care and welcome, again.

blue, it really is hard and I applaud you for taking the step. I know it was hard for me. I had given up on finding a site that I fit into, so you are in the right place.

Michelel......careful doing too much. I am failing two classes due to depression and I think I may have cronic fatigue. I hope you just pace yourself and of course the support is here anytime. Ill keep you in prayer. Good luck on your tests!

Michelle i would follow Maries advice.It sounds like it means a lot to you so sit your new beau and family down and ask them for their support and help..good luck.
Welcome blue we are here for you my friend.
Karen sorry to hear about chronic fatigue.I'm praying for ya...:).
Marie as always you are a bastion of strength.
Jeff I worked management for McDonalds for 14 yrs so i know about lazy ass people who don't want to work their schedule or finish a shift.
I doubt you will get fired for yelling at that woman.She sounds like someone who doesn't get it.good luck.

Bear you will love again,believe me.My problem is i love the wrong people so i don't have much confidence in my choices.
Hope all have a happy sunday !!