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i agree you have to have some kinda connection in looks sometimes but i have fallen for guys at first i thought i would never touch but then as time went on we became friends and well point being sometimes it just happens without you relizing it or wanting it dont be so closed minded over that so would you rather have someone (big or skinny) you completely connect with or someone who is just okay to go out with and really no conncetion at all. Thats the beauty of many things... I dont need and have plenty of time I do have a choice Life goes on whether you have someone or not, I will just continue in life and if it happens? Great, if not..than fine as well... I had a major connection with a great friend for many years. She was beautiful, but a large woman. I tried, I honestly, truthfully triend with 150% effort. I could not do it, we tried to be sexual, and I couldnt...I felt horrible and it crushed her.... did you offer to help her work out the non asshole way? And that is? thats is "hey let me show you how to do this at the gym" or "i'll go walking with you" not the "get off your fat ass and go to the gym will ya" "wow my dog can even walk around the block and you cant" just wondering would you even responded to her or email a big girl if she had a full body picture?? Of course I would...But it would be made very clear upfront that I was only interested in a friendship then. I have no issues in discussing what I prefer, if they judge me and feel I am shallow, trust me...their loss. I would never consider saying the things you mention above. That is just degrading..... Secondly, I wont be the one to "coach" someone into going to the gym, or go for a walk to lose weight in order to date them. They know, and dont need me telling them, they should do it on their own.... good answer 
but even if it wasnt to date them some i think would love for you to as you put it "coach them" looks like you know what are doing in a gym right? well they might not know Life is a funny thing...Meaning, yes my physical appearance may show that I work out some and stay fit. Does that open a door for somone to ask me to help them in a gym? I really dont have much time for that. I would be happy to write a program down for them?...Again, something they need to do on their own |
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Edited by
papersmile
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Wed 09/24/08 06:26 PM
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the other thing is that just because a person posts a photo, that isn't necessarily an accurate reflection of how they truly look.
how many times have we read the thread about the person that goes to meet the woman who said she was a few pounds overweight, only for him to (yes i'm genderalizing in this case) say that she was at least 100 lbs heavier than her pictures indicated? i think, over and above a recent full-body shot photo (for other reasons rather than aesthetics) are to cam with a person, relatively early in the communications. this will give you a much more true indication of their body shape than any aged photo. |
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The man is honest & he has preferences, most people do. exactly. what's the big deal if he isn't attracted to overweight women? doesn't sound to me like he's labelling them, or poking fun, or anything, except to say that he doesn't find them attractive. how can anyone take offense to what one individual deems dateable? right on right on..... I am a bigger woman but I don't take offense...because no one on this earth could tell me I am not sexy.....it's all about the person and how they perceive themselves...I don't get offended because I am secure with who I am. And if others are not...then I would show them why it is important to first love ones self......Everyone matters, and if you don't fit what another person is looking for move on because there are plenty that you would fit the bill. |
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The man is honest & he has preferences, most people do. exactly. what's the big deal if he isn't attracted to overweight women? doesn't sound to me like he's labelling them, or poking fun, or anything, except to say that he doesn't find them attractive. how can anyone take offense to what one individual deems dateable? right on right on..... I am a bigger woman but I don't take offense...because no one on this earth could tell me I am not sexy.....it's all about the person and how they perceive themselves...I don't get offended because I am secure with who I am. And if others are not...then I would show them why it is important to first love ones self......Everyone matters, and if you don't fit what another person is looking for move on because there are plenty that you would fit the bill.  I wanna be right on you
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but maybe i just want you to see my baby blues!!!
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 There is a very simple formula here... If your big? Say it If your small? Say it It's obvious when you show headshots only... I respect those like Izzie, she is an awesome woman and has a great man. She is genuine...Just like Deb is...there is nothing to hide there. THose can be my best of friends!!! Do you not see the arrogance?? I don't see how you can't. I'm taken, so I could care less..........and probably wouldn't be interested in you anymore than you would be me..........BUT You ASSume that anyone who only puts up face shots, is fat, and hiding it........... Well, I only have face shots, because I can't take a full body shot that looks halfway decent (and if it doesn't look like me I ain't gonna post it.) I do have one that isn't too bad but it is from a few years ago. The thing is..........to go into a forum and post that people are "hiding" or "lying" because they only put face shots up is RUDE, INCONSIDERATE, and JUDGEMENTAL. All "negative" qualities imo. Now, if ur talking with someone, and wanna know, just ask. If ur not interested in even talking with someone because you can't judge their looks.............then well, don't be on the internet, because a pic doesn't exactly capture the person anyway. Trust me, I'm larger, but pics of me make me look much larger than I actually am, unless they are taken right. ALSO: It is one thing to have "preferences" but what you define as a "preference" is actually a requirement. So, stop trying to make it sound better than it is. IF you will not date overweight women, then it is not a preference, it is a requirement to date you........which is fine, but call it what it is. Also, to have a preference is one thing........but to start a thread to promote your preferences (if asked in a topical fashion is different) is a bit egotistical imo. If someone asks and you share, but to say HEY, I WILL NOT DATE FAT WOMEN, to someone who didn't ask............is well, just rude, imo. |
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We all know what we want(most of us) but dont go around bashing people for it, he said he is honest which I find hard to believe. He is the one making a big deal about about head shots and large people. His quote " Be yourself and dont be ashamed of who you are..If your big..Your Big! If your small, your small! But dont hide behind just a head shot! " Why would someone care what type of pic you have up if they didn't have issues. He could of said it would be nice to see a full body pic of everyone or share one. instead. he brought up the issues so yes he is allowed to be bashed back. but i am not bashing him and if he had a problem with me asking question i think for one he wouldnt answer them and for two would tell me so I meant he be able to take the heat with out people standing up for him when he started the issue Im not the one with the issue....There are several others here that have the issue...I stated a point, opinion, preference, whatever anyone wants to call it. Many took it and ran with it...This is definitley not an issue for me... |
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Let me speak for a minute......to know Jim and have him as a friend...none better.....He knows what he wants and he won't settle...there is nothing wrong with that. It does not mean however that he is not friends with bigger women...He is probably one of my closest friends.....but chemistry as far as dating me....no......But do I think that makes him bad....no way jose....he knows what he wants and wont settle.....so my advise for trying to change that is get over your big bad ugly selves. Jim is jim you take it or leave he doesn't care....But no better friend will you have then in this man...and I know that too. Well I don't know Jim THAT well., but I do relate with his demise. I get sooooooooooo much flack for dating younger guys exclusively. Does that mean I don't have guys close to my age or even older as friends? Of course not. But no one knows better than Deb, that I have a preference for younger. It drives my dating pool. Some older men get really offended by that. I've been called some pretty ridiculously stupid things. Out of jealousy I believe. Either way, a person has a right to draw parameters and preferences the way they want to. Just sayin .. I am young I am young pick me pick
Hi Black 
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We all know what we want(most of us) but dont go around bashing people for it, he said he is honest which I find hard to believe. He is the one making a big deal about about head shots and large people. His quote " Be yourself and dont be ashamed of who you are..If your big..Your Big! If your small, your small! But dont hide behind just a head shot! " Why would someone care what type of pic you have up if they didn't have issues. He could of said it would be nice to see a full body pic of everyone or share one. instead. he brought up the issues so yes he is allowed to be bashed back. I havent seen anyone on here able to "bash" me...Simply because I will lose no sleep over this...
Where do you feel I am not being honest? Because you have friends on here, that are large. due to the internet. But how many of them would you have been friend you had met them or seen in person first. If one came up and had said hi sweetie you said you would been turned off, but that could just be how that person says hi. I don't think alot of people would be friends if that had first met in person with out getting to know each other. That is just how things work. Maybe in your world or scheme of things. I can be friends with anyone |
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There is a very simple formula here... If your big? Say it If your small? Say it It's obvious when you show headshots only... I respect those like Izzie, she is an awesome woman and has a great man. She is genuine...Just like Deb is...there is nothing to hide there. THose can be my best of friends!!! Do you not see the arrogance?? I don't see how you can't. I'm taken, so I could care less..........and probably wouldn't be interested in you anymore than you would be me..........BUT You ASSume that anyone who only puts up face shots, is fat, and hiding it........... Well, I only have face shots, because I can't take a full body shot that looks halfway decent (and if it doesn't look like me I ain't gonna post it.) I do have one that isn't too bad but it is from a few years ago. The thing is..........to go into a forum and post that people are "hiding" or "lying" because they only put face shots up is RUDE, INCONSIDERATE, and JUDGEMENTAL. All "negative" qualities imo. Now, if ur talking with someone, and wanna know, just ask. If ur not interested in even talking with someone because you can't judge their looks.............then well, don't be on the internet, because a pic doesn't exactly capture the person anyway. Trust me, I'm larger, but pics of me make me look much larger than I actually am, unless they are taken right. ALSO: It is one thing to have "preferences" but what you define as a "preference" is actually a requirement. So, stop trying to make it sound better than it is. IF you will not date overweight women, then it is not a preference, it is a requirement to date you........which is fine, but call it what it is. Also, to have a preference is one thing........but to start a thread to promote your preferences (if asked in a topical fashion is different) is a bit egotistical imo. If someone asks and you share, but to say HEY, I WILL NOT DATE FAT WOMEN, to someone who didn't ask............is well, just rude, imo. Preference/requirement= potatoe/potato no more no less |
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must be nice to be jim..... every word he says gets picked apart... continual it gets old honestly
heres to ya jim
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Jimmy, I was asked to apologize for our friend.. She got upset b/c of what this was turned into but knows you didn't mean for it to turn that way... but she does think that you shoulda thought about it before...
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 nice new pic IndnPrncs
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Done and out of this thread people are who they are!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just hate all the BS in here and it is getting deeper. Honesty Honesty Honesty..... is the glue of life. |
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nice new pic IndnPrncs
(((Button))) thanks darlin' it's my new haircut.. Um sorry I stopped the bash Jim party.. continue.... |
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We all know what we want(most of us) but dont go around bashing people for it, he said he is honest which I find hard to believe. He is the one making a big deal about about head shots and large people. His quote " Be yourself and dont be ashamed of who you are..If your big..Your Big! If your small, your small! But dont hide behind just a head shot! " Why would someone care what type of pic you have up if they didn't have issues. He could of said it would be nice to see a full body pic of everyone or share one. instead. he brought up the issues so yes he is allowed to be bashed back. I havent seen anyone on here able to "bash" me...Simply because I will lose no sleep over this...
Where do you feel I am not being honest? Because you have friends on here, that are large. due to the internet. But how many of them would you have been friend you had met them or seen in person first. If one came up and had said hi sweetie you said you would been turned off, but that could just be how that person says hi. I don't think alot of people would be friends if that had first met in person with out getting to know each other. That is just how things work. Maybe in your world or scheme of things. I can be friends with anyone I sure in the hell try to. |
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We all know what we want(most of us) but dont go around bashing people for it, he said he is honest which I find hard to believe. He is the one making a big deal about about head shots and large people. His quote " Be yourself and dont be ashamed of who you are..If your big..Your Big! If your small, your small! But dont hide behind just a head shot! " Why would someone care what type of pic you have up if they didn't have issues. He could of said it would be nice to see a full body pic of everyone or share one. instead. he brought up the issues so yes he is allowed to be bashed back. I havent seen anyone on here able to "bash" me...Simply because I will lose no sleep over this...
Where do you feel I am not being honest? Because you have friends on here, that are large. due to the internet. But how many of them would you have been friend you had met them or seen in person first. If one came up and had said hi sweetie you said you would been turned off, but that could just be how that person says hi. I don't think alot of people would be friends if that had first met in person with out getting to know each other. That is just how things work. Maybe in your world or scheme of things. I can be friends with anyone I sure in the hell try to. I thought you said you were leaving 'HONESTLY'.. So you lied???? |
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must be nice to be jim..... every word he says gets picked apart... continual it gets old honestly heres to ya jim
Thank you
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Jimmy, I was asked to apologize for our friend.. She got upset b/c of what this was turned into but knows you didn't mean for it to turn that way... but she does think that you shoulda thought about it before...
Who? |
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There is a very simple formula here... If your big? Say it If your small? Say it It's obvious when you show headshots only... I respect those like Izzie, she is an awesome woman and has a great man. She is genuine...Just like Deb is...there is nothing to hide there. THose can be my best of friends!!! Do you not see the arrogance?? I don't see how you can't. I'm taken, so I could care less..........and probably wouldn't be interested in you anymore than you would be me..........BUT You ASSume that anyone who only puts up face shots, is fat, and hiding it........... Well, I only have face shots, because I can't take a full body shot that looks halfway decent (and if it doesn't look like me I ain't gonna post it.) I do have one that isn't too bad but it is from a few years ago. The thing is..........to go into a forum and post that people are "hiding" or "lying" because they only put face shots up is RUDE, INCONSIDERATE, and JUDGEMENTAL. All "negative" qualities imo. Now, if ur talking with someone, and wanna know, just ask. If ur not interested in even talking with someone because you can't judge their looks.............then well, don't be on the internet, because a pic doesn't exactly capture the person anyway. Trust me, I'm larger, but pics of me make me look much larger than I actually am, unless they are taken right. ALSO: It is one thing to have "preferences" but what you define as a "preference" is actually a requirement. So, stop trying to make it sound better than it is. IF you will not date overweight women, then it is not a preference, it is a requirement to date you........which is fine, but call it what it is. Also, to have a preference is one thing........but to start a thread to promote your preferences (if asked in a topical fashion is different) is a bit egotistical imo. If someone asks and you share, but to say HEY, I WILL NOT DATE FAT WOMEN, to someone who didn't ask............is well, just rude, imo. Preference/requirement= potatoe/potato no more no less Shall we look up the definition then?? Geesh. A preference is not a requirement. When someone asks you what you prefer, or to list your "preferences" in order of importance............it is not a requirement. You prefer vanilla ice cream, but that doesn't mean that you will refuse someone who offers you chocolate. When someone uses the word "preference" they are trying to make it sound different, or they would use the word "requirement". If you prefer the window seat, you will still fly even if they have no window seats available. If you prefer blondes, it means that you are naturally inclined to date them..............but you may date someone with red or brown hair. If you absolutely know you will not date someone who is FAT, it is a requirement to be non-FAT to date you, not a preference. People accept others who are not within the bounds of "preferences" they will not with things they "require". A potato is a potato no matter how you pronounce it or spell it........but I do believe "preference" and "requirement" are quite different indeed. As I said, I could care less what someone elses "preferences" or "requirements" are. Have them, you are only limiting yourself.......but at least you don't have to put up with what you don't want............. |
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