I had a fantastic conversation with a member about this last night, and I was shocked and thrilled we both agreed on this. I hear so much crap about 50/50, soulmates, being lonely, feeling complete, blah blah...

I do not need anyone in my life. I am quite independent and capable of either doing for myself or finding a resource who can. I do not believe soulmates exist. I can not be completed by anyone. I am whole, I am in no need of completing. I believe a relationship is 100/100 and that a partner enriches and compliments my life. A person who invigorates my mind, body, and spirit, and I theirs. I want a relationship, and therefore would never take it for granted or become complacent. I'd never settle just to have someone.

Anyone agree or disagree?

Totally agree!

I don't "need" a relationship.. I "want" one!

Agree

the only thing you can do for your "Team" is to excel at your position.




so that is an "AGREE"

absolutely agree

I am all about me and having fun. I can do that with and without others. Others just fuel the fire though. LOL

200% Agree.

i know of 33 reasons to agree

agree

Are you scared of me now, dear???

I agree with the independent part babe. And not needing anyone to complete me.

I do not see a 'soulmate' as that which completes though.

And i find those that believe in having one ........................do.


(((((((((( LILITH )))))))))

no i was just messin with you lilith, but i do agree with your OP.

I think need is when you have lots of expectations and little idea's of what you want in people, and call them standards. Like they act a certin way, they look a certin way, and have these things but not these things.

I think want is when your open to anyone, but tend to go for the person who fits you, even if there not the prettiest, or have a few differnt things they like, or are the way you imagined they would be. Mostly because your not spending your time thinking of the perfect gf/bf or expecting to find it by searching for everything.

That being said, i've noticed people who desperately want a bf/gf are usually far more picky, as they are trying to either replace a relastionship that failed or waiting for something that maybie only 2-3 people on this earth can realisiticly fill.

I do however believe that the whole romantic, 50/50 thing is good. I think when you find someone that fits pretty good, you naturally want to spend alot of time with them. The amount tends to depend on the person. realisiticly a 'healthy' relastionship is 40/40 and 20 percent working tword the same thing. at marrage it is suppose to increase. Yet i've seen lots of happy unhealthy relastionships and plenty of miserably failed healthy ones. Infact, i would say i've seen more success's in unhealthy relastionships. It's why i never try to follow a guideline and just go with it, if its working. Though i think anyone would answer yes to your question.

Unique....

I say 100/100 in that each person puts complete effort, energy, honesty, communication, respect, etc into the relationship. You cannot truly be equal to your partner and them to you if BOTH parties are not putting forth full effort.

I do think there are times when it might shift based on circumstances, but overall it needs to start and strive for a 100/100 situation.

Ahhh, nor do I. I see the definition of a soulmate as a perfect fit for a partner. I don't believe in that either. (The actual historical definition is the 'other half')... what do you believe it is, Fade?

I'll be honest here. I am in a relationship, as this is well known. But, I don't require it. Not saying that I got involved cause of giggles and grins. I became involved cause I saw someone who interested me enough to take that "leap" to see what would happen.

Being married for 9 years, and now divorced, I believe that soulmates don't exist. I thought they did, but after the divorce, I am conviced that relationships are not about finding the "one" who is your soulmate. I beilieve you find the one who complements you, completes you, and is willing to fight for the relationship whenever things aren't so rosey.

I'm completely comfortable being single

You had me at "Mutual Match", Pats....