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Sun 09/05/10 04:32 PM
Edited by ChangeofHeart on Sun 09/05/10 04:57 PM


I don't know, but I sure have a problem with it embarassed


laugh laugh
Being serious, at least for a second...
I think women in general may struggle more because of how much emphasis is put on them to look like the models these days pressure them to look. I wonder if this may affect younger women more than older - I'm comfortable with myself and have not felt that influence so much. Some of my friends have though, and I find that sad.
Do you men feel pressured in some of those same ways?
I know because i weigh more than i use to, i really dont feel good when a woman touch me. I avoid it as much as possible.

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Sun 09/05/10 02:58 PM
Do Woman have more of a problem with body Image than Men?

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Sun 09/05/10 02:29 PM
Edited by ChangeofHeart on Sun 09/05/10 02:31 PM



I hate to sound so Naive. But i had asked a question on another post about rejection. And it just thru me back that a young 19 year old Caucasian Woman, said She hates when she gets rejected because of her race. *Pertaining to dating.* What am i missing? Why am i surprised at her statement?


Racial preferences will never go away. If it's not white vs. black, than its olive skin versus frickle white, or dark brown versus light brown.

She should move on, find others to date, I strongly doubt everyone rejects her, regardless of skin.



amen, not only that but alot of times people are SCARED of that which they are not familiar,,,,,,some of the 'non black' men I have dated have shared with me that their first interracial experience only happened because the female approached them

people assume that other races wont be interested and so they dont approach them and others are just not interested in rocking the boat of their family tradition(in those families where interracial is tabu)
Eventhough i am open to dating any race, i have not asked anyone other than my own race to date. And it is only because of fear, and rejection.

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Sun 09/05/10 08:05 AM

not all people of all races are OK with dating from any race. It may be cultural, family preferences, or personal preferences

not something I think about much as my sons girls are thai and vietnamese
Eventhough my Mother prefered that wwe dated within our race, she was totally against us rejecting someone because of thier Race, or shade of color within our own race.

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Sun 09/05/10 08:00 AM


I hate to sound so Naive. But i had asked a question on another post about rejection. And it just thru me back that a young 19 year old Caucasian Woman, said She hates when she gets rejected because of her race. *Pertaining to dating.* What am i missing? Why am i surprised at her statement?


Why are you surprised? Because of her skin color?

I guess it would depend on who her intended interest was or what their preference is...........
You are right.

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Sun 09/05/10 01:05 AM


I hate to sound so Naive. But i had asked a question on another post about rejection. And it just thru me back that a young 19 year old Caucasian Woman, said She hates when she gets rejected because of her race. What am i missing? Why am i supprised at her statement?




well, if she was talking about dating, my first guess would be the common correlation that both youth and 'whiteness' have in this culture to 'beauty' standards

the other is probably because of the cultural trend for minority males to date white women, people assume it is the NORM and so it is 'surprising' to hear otherwise


if she was talking about other opportunities, I dont understand either for the aforementioned reason that being young is an asset in our culture as is being 'caucasian'
I am sorry. She was talking about dating.

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Sun 09/05/10 12:30 AM
Edited by ChangeofHeart on Sun 09/05/10 01:04 AM
I hate to sound so Naive. But i had asked a question on another post about rejection. And it just thru me back that a young 19 year old Caucasian Woman, said She hates when she gets rejected because of her race. *Pertaining to dating.* What am i missing? Why am i surprised at her statement?

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Mon 08/30/10 03:58 PM

noway

Sometimes. But, most guys my age look like crap so, I want a younger one too! lol
smokin

I'm thinkin'

they probably think the same.
AMEN BROTHER!!!!!!

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Mon 08/30/10 01:35 PM


No.


^^^+1
thank youyawn

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Mon 08/30/10 01:34 PM

No.
ooookyawn

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Mon 08/30/10 01:26 PM
Does it bother you when Girls or Guys in your age group are not really into you because of your age?

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Sun 08/29/10 06:30 PM
I am going to Anchorage for 7 days> I am going to do a lot of free styling. Does anyone have something interesting that i could do or see?

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Sun 08/29/10 06:23 PM

I have a big a$$..what food group does that belong to??
bigsmile
I dont know, but i have been known to bite into a big azz or two:heart:

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Sun 08/29/10 06:12 PM

Living through my husband's terminal illness and his eventual death.
Rough. It doesnt seem fair.

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Sun 08/29/10 06:02 PM

What has aged me?

The stresses of every day life.
Children.
Work.
Growing old and know I'm getting older every day.
Afraid that I won't achieve what I want in life.
Missing my Dad.

All things that we cant control very much. We should be able to cheat a little bit. I guess we learn what one day at a time really meanspock

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Sun 08/29/10 05:57 PM


Other than the natural aging process, what do you think has added years onto your life?


Raising 3 boys alone....
oh yeah, the booze and the dope, I'm a product of the 70's what can I say *shrugs*
well you survivedsmile2

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Sun 08/29/10 05:52 PM


Other than the natural aging process, what do you think has added years onto your life?
might I ask why u r curious about this topic?
It was something that was just in my head. I think after i saw some people my age that lived a harder life, look so beat up.

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Sun 08/29/10 05:50 PM


Other than the natural aging process, what do you think has added years onto your life?
my mother's death

being separated from my children

my ex husband - anything involving him is always incredibly stressful
:angel: flowers

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Sun 08/29/10 05:49 PM

The Environment and Stress!
The Economy and Stress!
Cancer! yet in remission

Age-ing is a part of life, I have come full circle in this process and will enjoy the next 20+ years or so... I look at every wrinkle
as a mile stone to what brought it there...

flowerforyou
You guys are very honestflowerforyou

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Sun 08/29/10 05:48 PM

The pain of thinking that most of my family is gone and the mistakes I have made, but I look forward to the future I am still young in so many ways.
Wow. That was well put. For some reason that hit home. Thank Youflowerforyou

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