I hate to sound so Naive. But i had asked a question on another post about rejection. And it just thru me back that a young 19 year old Caucasian Woman, said She hates when she gets rejected because of her race. *Pertaining to dating.* What am i missing? Why am i surprised at her statement?

well, if she was talking about dating, my first guess would be the common correlation that both youth and 'whiteness' have in this culture to 'beauty' standards

the other is probably because of the cultural trend for minority males to date white women, people assume it is the NORM and so it is 'surprising' to hear otherwise


if she was talking about other opportunities, I dont understand either for the aforementioned reason that being young is an asset in our culture as is being 'caucasian'

I am sorry. She was talking about dating.

Why are you surprised? Because of her skin color?

I guess it would depend on who her intended interest was or what their preference is...........

Hell ... here I thought you were gonna be talkin' 'bout the Indy 500 or Daytona ...

You are right.

not all people of all races are OK with dating from any race. It may be cultural, family preferences, or personal preferences

not something I think about much as my sons girls are thai and vietnamese

Eventhough my Mother prefered that wwe dated within our race, she was totally against us rejecting someone because of thier Race, or shade of color within our own race.

Mom just said "As long as they make my kids happy, love and respect them...ethnicity is not an issue." Glad she brought us up to embrace people of all backgrounds! It would be too "vanilla" for my taste any other way...........

Hell, I don't date outside my race. Why build in problems I can avoid ... ? Sounds like she's using similar logic ... no big deal ... keep lookin' ...

rejections on the grounds of superficial things..skin color, body type, age, religion, financial stauts, etc...are a HUGE pet peeve of mine..if I "reject" someone its because we are not compatible on an emotional, mental and or spiritual level...you know, the important stuff...

ummm, actually, SHE seems to be wanting to date interracially and being REJECTED,,,,,

My 20yr old daughter was recently rejected due to her Race/religion. She and her boyfriend dated for like a year and seem to be very much in love. He was Jewish and in the end he rejected her because she was not. This surprised her as she felt that in today's time predigest could be overcome. She grew up with a father (I raised her) that had no predigest, friends of all race and religions and never judged any body so, this was all she knew. Now she is very aware the predigest is very much alive and it's sad she had to learn in so painful way.

my parents raised me to not be prejudice while teaching me that prejudice was real and alive as well. its always a sad lesson to have to learn

I agree. I mean if you like them and they like you would be my first priority. You can't judge a book by its cover. Your preference and their preference would make a big difference. I don't know how many times I have fell for Lesbians. I find usually that it really doesn't hurt the friendship but that is far as it goes because of her preference. It is kind of pointless to try to change her because her mind is made up. One of my ex's pet peeves was that I was such a person to think of others before my own family. Dad used to try to make aware of the important stuff. I would be so affected by a car because of its radio and looks but Dad would say did you even look to see if it would start. Take it for a test run as fast as you can go and then stop it it to see how much oil it leaks. It reminded me of my welding test. Take a hammer to it and beat it as hard as you can to see if it will break or not. Although I wouldn't advise that particular test for a relationship with a woman because she might call the law on you or she might have her own hammer.

I will be honest here. I don't look at "race" as a determinate to who I will date. I say this even with the knowledge that if I did bring an African American, Latino or Asian woman to meet my family that I would be judged by some of my family members. On the outside, they will voice no objections to dating someone of a different color. But if the scenario did happen, I know it would cause problems. Still, this is my life we are talking about here. And whomever it is that makes me happy is the most important thing.

I fell for this lady and my friend told me that was a guy. I still wonder how Danielle/Dan is doing. She/he was taking estrogen shots for her/his husband. I still don't get that. I mean why? But I guess they are still happy. I have this black friend named Andre. He brings the medicines in for the nursing home from Little Rock. He is our legal drug dealer from the pharmacy. Nice looking guy. His brother and him have a nice farming business going on in Missouri. He said he will be retiring and we won't get to see him, again. He was asking the male nurse what was the best thing for him because his blood sugar was real high. He told me that he is diabetic. I will miss him. He is so much fun. I guess that is why he was training someone new to take his place. He has some serious long routes to make to all the nursing homes in these small out of the way small towns. I bet he will like taking a rest from all the driving though. He will probably have more time to help his brother on the farm. Legal narcotics are so much more of a hassle than illegal narcotics. I never had to sign any papers when I bought narcotics when I was still using from the local pusher. I guess legal pushers can get a headache from all the red tape.

She know prejudice was out there but untill it happens to you it's never really real. Update she as gotten over it and is moving to Luxenburg on the 22ed of this month for year as a opair. I am so proud of her, happy for her and will miss her greatly.

She know prejudice was out there but untill it happens to you it's never really real. Update she as gotten over it and is moving to Luxenburg on the 22ed of this month for year as a opair. I am so proud of her, happy for her and will miss her greatly.