I am wary of guys who think they are nice; or who are trying to act nice; and then get really angry and blame you when you don't rip your clothes off for them.

Nice is simply not enough. You must be smart, genuine, witty, interesting, empathetic, confident..the list goes on.

I am so tired of guys whining "I'm nice and nobody wants me; women must want mean guys!"

Sheesh.

Thinking of dating a mature gentleman?

Oh, Becca- I don't know you but I am so glad you came back here too! I have been to several sites to visit the forums but keep wanting to be here. I have no interest in dating, I just enjoy the lively interaction of a good forum. This is one of the better ones.

Thanks for that perspective. I hadn't thought of that.

It's the whole Barbie doll syndrome. The more you look like a Barbie doll the more attractive they find you.

Unfortunately, once you get past a certain age, only a small number of women can carry off long hair. The rest of us look witchy. So sometimes short hair is a necessity at my age.

Mingle,
It's where the happy people go!

Or was that disco? I forget.

Oh, yah, what was I thinking? Sorry !

what about if they are wearing spandex?

those are not the lessons that I learned. I learned that it takes two to make a relationship work and there is no good guy or bad guy. Had he been happy with me, he would not have cheated. And just because one person in your life succumbed to the demands of their own personal needs does not reflect at all on other people. If you choose not to trust people because one person in your life made a mistake then you are doing that because you want to. And in your second statement you are saying that people are doomed to continue making the same mistakes over and over in their lives.

Have you never made a mistake? Do you want people to conclude that no one can be trusted and that you will continue to make the same mistake over and over for the rest of your life?

It's just not that simple.

with the right person, just about anything can be fun. Wolves have pretty sharp teeth, tho...

Define "anyone".

I don't think anyone on this site would admit to being a cheater when 99% of the people on here state that cheaters should be hogtied and fed to the wolves.

why do people dwell on being cheated on? It's part of life and learning. I got cheated on but I don't think it has any relevance in my life now. He did what he needed to do to be happy. Life goes on.

being single is not necessarily being alone. I have wonderful people in my life. I am single, but I am far from alone.

Respect works both ways. If someone sends out e-mails to everyone within a 50 mile radius, fails to read the profiles, doesn't bother to customize the e-mail to indicate that he has even looked at your profile - why do you owe them the time of day? Who is really the rude one? The one who is trolling and hoping to catch something in his net, or the one who sidesteps the net?

I have no retirement so I almost have to die young. It's my only hope.

most of it

I don't want to date someone who drinks, so, no.

I thought that dating implied non-exclusivity. The next step would be a committed relationship.

People who are merely dating are free to see other people. I thought that was the whole point of dating - you date until you find someone you want to settle down with.

too young. And the whole God requirement would keep me away.