Here here!

Eggo? I'm not out to impress the women here. I'm a girl.. I was just agreeing a bit and also making a case that girls and boys can be friends past grade school without wanting to screw each other.

I certainly didn't plan on upsetting you or starting an argument. Sorry.

His heart, humanity and moral compass is what's important to me. If his religious beliefs don't harm others or impose requirements on our relationship that cross my own ethical standards, then there should be no problems with maintaining our differences. I can be happy for my partner that he has love for his convictions. I see a belief in something bigger than oneself as not only healthy, but an attractive trait in a humble kind of way.

When I turned 30 I felt 25. When I turned 40 I felt 25. I have a feeling that won't last fierever though, so am prepared to feel 30 when I reach 50.

You have to age at some point.

The way I see it, if they've slept with them...it's not honest to expect you to view them as just friends. There is only one reason I can see subjecting a current boyfriend to an ex lover, and that's only when there is a child involved.

Otherwise, total openess and honesty is the only way to maintain opposite sex friendships when in a romantic relationship.

In an awkward moment when we were both single, one of my long time male friends and I got it in our minds that we were probably the perfect match and had been ignoring what had been right in front of us for years. So we kissed and came to our senses very quickly because it was like kissing a cousin to both of us. Yikes! From then on, any man I dated was told about the incident...had a good laugh and moved on. This particular friend was always welcome around whoever I was dating and often became better friends with them than he was with me.

I relate very well with the first part of your post. I went through a phase where I avoided my male friends for that reason, until I realized how natural it is for his mind to go there after a while and it doesn't have to mean the end of a friendship, because it's just a phase and the friendship is more important in the end.

The reason I think this happens, is that as he goes in and out of relationships over the course of your friendship, he begins to think of you as his longest and truest relationship, something he's probably not found in a romantic relationship yet, so the ideal is to turn this lasting bond INTO the romance he wants.

If you stay true in your friendship with him, time and understanding...and probably a good talk...will eventually make him come to his senses and he will realize that the main reason your relationship is so good and lasting is BECAUSE it IS a friendship and non romantic.

It was just a misunderstanding really.

I had a few friends over and we got on the subject of dating and people we knew who had dated people they met online.

Later one of them made the comment to me that if I don't play I would never hope to win the lottery.

Turned out she was just talking about the lottery. I was in the other room when they changed the subject.

Most of my friends are men. I don't get together with them all that often to begin with. But I do see them less often when I'm dating someone simply because people like to talk and I don't like putting my boyfriend in a position where he feels he has to defend senseless rumors.

I'll respond to most messages, but am never sure what to say to "Hi". It makes me wonder if that's all they ever put in a letter too. I think a good rule of thumb when writing would be to ask if the contents of the message would be worth a stamp if you were mailing it.

A physical connection is something too important to me to share with just anyone.

Exactly. If you just want to read about a love affair, open a romance novel.

Hiding an STD is proof positive they don't really care that much.

Also if a guy I'm dating or plan to date has a possible fatal attraction ex girlfriend/wife, a heads up would be nice.

I don't believe I can fall in love online. But if we actually meet and spend time together and end up falling for one another, then I'd have trouble going back to messaging from half way across the country. I'll want real hugs and kisses from then on...no more of these

My experience has been that I connect better with someone of my own generation.

I don't like asking a man his age, so get close enough by blurting..."do you like talking heads?" at some point during the date.

I would like my guy to be as successful as me, and it wouldn't bother me if he is more successful either.

That being said...to me success is about reaching for goals and carving out the life you want; not about money or position.

I'd take a poor man who aspires to live his dream over a wealthy man who's a slave to a misplaced ambition every time.

Are you asking if people can stay in a relationship without sex?

If so, I think it depends greatly on the circumstances. If injury or illness removed the possibility of sex from my relationship, then yes I believe I could...not that it wouldn't be sorely missed.

But if one party were witholding sex due to lack of love and everything had been done to try to regain the love, then probably not. That's not really about the loss of sex as much as the loss of love.

Not at all. I practically have twist proof knickers even if I'd taken that wrong.

Hey Stud!

Absent minded people tend to use little tricks like that to help them remember important dates.

I think that's a good theory, because we already know they're absent minded since they said "til death do us part"...yet are alive enough when they say it the second time.

If he's sleeping with other women while we're dating, then he can't be too seriously interested in me.

So I guess I'll just have to decide if I just want to use him for sex or move along.