When there's a lag in the conversation, I just assume they're either busy, not in the mood to chat, don't have much to say at the moment or have been hit by a train.

If you used to have great sex and now you don't...it's not just an issue with one person. There's been a disconnect with both. Either reconnect or be prepared to live the "worse" part of "for better or for worse".

HEY...wait a minute! Do I look like Alex Trebek to you Goof?

I'm not really looking for a specific man with specific traits...but more of a specific connection.

I'll know it when I feel it.

I suppose if you love him for his honesty and integrity and high moral standards then....

.... Wrong thread.

I could not find any statistics stating that MOST women refuse to have sex with their husbands.

Regardless of that, I don't understand how someone discovers that a married man is the best sex they ever had. How do you love someone who cheats on his wife? Their sex issue is not for you to understand...it's between the two of them alone. Adding a third party is NEVER going to help unless the third party is a councilor trained for couples therapy.

I'm assuming you are not a couples councilor.

That's my opinion. Sadly, it's probably not a very popular one these days.

I don't know if I would qualify for fake consideration. Don't fakes usually make a point of seeming interesting?

^^^ AND DEFINATELY THIS! ^^^

Don't know why I'm shouting.

MOST women refuse sex with their husbands? Are you sure about that?


Yes, the wrong treatments for any issue rarely work. I don't know any woman who feels cherished by the man she loves who can not get in the mood. A pill will not make you feel cherished. Neither will a councilor...well not the ones who adhere to any professional ethical standard, that is.

I believe trust has to be earned in order to be felt earnestly. Anything else is "blind trust", which really just boils down to faith.

We earn trust when we back our words with our actions. You cannot see another's actions online...therefore it's running blind to believe everything someone says on a social site.

I think if someone is truly interested in getting to know you, they will be as patient as you need them to be and not push you to trust them too quickly.

A friend of mine bought a pool table from a guy on Craigslist. I worried when she never came home. He helped her move the table, they went for coffee after...three months later they were married. They've been together for 10 years. They're the most happy and healthy couple I know.

You can never tell were awesome might be found. Maybe here.

What, like during recess?

I have always taken long periods for myself between relationships.

In the past I've never had to actively look, it has always seemed that when I was ready, it just happened.

What that says to me is that when you're ready, the right vibes will just naturally flow from you.

I've known people who sleep through class but wet dreams during Civics class? REALLY GOOF!

I guess I've had few enough guys I'd consider hot in my life that this is not a real issue for me.

In most situations, I can't imagine it would bother me if a man I was dating were living with his parents.

On the other hand, it would bother me a great deal if I lived with MY parents.

My brother met his wife online.

I know three other couples who met online and had long term relationships. So I know it's possible if you're true to yourself and the people you meet have been true to themselves.

I have a friend I have a crush on.

I agree with this as well to a point. I have to be trusted in order to feel truely loved by a partner.

On the other hand, I want my partner to feel very comfortable and at ease in that trust. I think it can be a stressful thing on a partner when they are constantly asked to test that trust. Making it easy to trust you most of the time makes it all the easier for them to accept your word when worry or doubt does come around. And it will...always does.

Oh...was wondering what I said or how you took it.

The scenario you posted though is exactly what we were thinking when we attempted our disturbing kiss. We used to spend a lot of time together when we were single because we had an easy non threatening thing between us. We were the stable person to go to for each other, so it made sense that those were the very things missing in both of our relationships with others. I tbink there is such a thing as knowing someone too long in a non sexual way that makes it impossible to see them in a romantic light though. I think thats what makes it like kissing a cousin. I don't think looks had anything to do with it though...well not on my end...cause my friend was HO double T, I still couldn't look at him like other women do.

I agree that becoming a friend of the couple is important. I don't consider myself the jealous type, but wouldn't care for my boyfriend spending spare time alone with a single female friend, unless I were very familiar and at ease with the nature of their relationship to each other. I enjoy being friends with my boyfriends friends anyway...they are an important part of his life. I will hope he can be friends with my friends as well, because anything important to me I'll automatically want to share in with him.