A woman/man contacts you via online dating..(imagine!) and you hit it off fine and set up a date. Just before the end of the call she/he says they have arranged intimate encounters and does that change things??? Doubt that they were virgins, but is it a issue????????

its an issue for someone to PLAN an intimate encounter with me without first ASKING Me if I choose to be intimate,,lol

Yes it changes everything there is now no date

Yes it certainly changes everything. It should be a mutual decision made by both.

Some guys have all the luck.

I wind up in the friend zone.

hahaha those who want it can't get it and
those who don't want it get swarmed.
Go figure :-)

I wouldn't have an intimate encounter unless I really really liked her first.

this

so It sounds like you are meaning to say, she's telling you that she has a intimate encounter with
someone else.

Ok, its a competitive world, its rare that a woman doesn't have a few wolves on the doorstep,
in my experiences.


even if her intentions are to find that Mr right, and is dating 5 men and taking her time,
thats everybody's prerogative, and monogamy is a very late stage in a relationship.

your aranging to date, not to engage in a relationship, I like how up front she is, that's awesome!
she dosent have to divulge that info at that time but I do think its best for both, as it seems
your reluctant, and that's what she's trying to weed out, so if you have a problem I would
complement her and show her appreciation for her straightforward approach, with a thank you
but no thanx.
Do you realy want to find out she sleeping with a couple of others after you have been sleping
with her a while? I know I don't, but don't assume one isn't either.

no person wants a person that no others are looking at or complementing,

"boys only play with other boys toys" & " the only thing a woman wants is what she can't have"

if there are gorillas in the mist, then the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is a lot more rewarding

if your the chosen silverback.

Most men arranged intimate encounters, however, I have changed their plans and met anyway. I do not do intimate encourters.

If he's sleeping with other women while we're dating, then he can't be too seriously interested in me.

So I guess I'll just have to decide if I just want to use him for sex or move along.

I want to say thank you all for the thoughtful insights. The males seemed to feel hey.she being honest..now you do the same...and most of the woman were of the mind..( an intimate encounter was expected)
when the person only admitted to having had one.But the majority of you, and yes ladies it was the girls..lol. Gave the impression that they were able to handle that cocky (pun obvious:)) lad and show him who decided if and when a ..encounter was happening..!!.

Its hard to make decisions based on little information...and if that info is wrong...well I guess that's we are here eh?

Cheers to you all!!

If it's a guy who is from my circle of friends, who I have known for years, then maybe, but ONLY because we know each other really well, otherwise, no way.

Prearranged intimacy. That seems like a contradiction.

Everyone is different. What was done in the past may make little difference now. Some values change. Attraction may make some "less than desirable" aspects ok. Some may not care anyway.

The point is, with infinite possibilities come infinite outcomes.

well ur luck to have friendx ie got no friends or girlfriend wud u lik to be my gf